Salary requirement for a husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“How gauche, I don’t care about DH salary, we were just in love and now he makes 7 figures”. — 99% of response to these threads.

I'm with you. LOL. I didn't have a salary requirement, I married someone who I knew was responsible and ambitious, because I didn't want to be the sole breadwinner, and I wouldn't have married someone who was lazy or a moocher. And he doesn't make 7 figures. He makes roughly the same amount I do, and we're perfectly comfortable, but neither of us met OP's salary "requirements" when we met. And we're not rich now, either. And it's fine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One of three options:

1). He had to earn enough that I could be a SAHM and be willing to live on his salary only.

2). He was willing to be a good SAHD, support my career, and live on whatever I made.

3). He was willing to share in 50% of the household responsibilities knowing that would mean that he wouldn’t go as far on his career as he could have otherwise and that he would sometimes miss out on other things he wanted to do.

A guy who fits one of these is surprisingly difficult to meet. Most men seem to expect women to take care of all household chores, support them in whatever they want to do both socially and career-wise, AND make their own good income.

don't forget "she should want sex with me whenever I want it even though she's doing most of the housechores/childcare and working FT".

Ha! Yes.
And she should be able to find a job that allows her to make a good income AND has enough flexibility to take care of most of the house and childcare responsibilities in whatever city in the US has the best job prospects for ME.

Omg these comments are making me feel things. DH is (hopefully) going to get a job that requires far fewer hours and he wants me to to back to work. I was really excited about it until the part of the conversation where i brought up who was going to take care of kids activities, school drop-offs and pickups, errands, etc. I keep thinking about the horrified look on his face when I said “and maybe now you can make dinner!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“How gauche, I don’t care about DH salary, we were just in love and now he makes 7 figures”. — 99% of response to these threads.

Post the question on an an anonymous group in my hometown and you’ll get the same answer but it will be five figures instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“How gauche, I don’t care about DH salary, we were just in love and now he makes 7 figures”. — 99% of response to these threads.

Yes, every single time. And they expect people to believe it was just a teehee, happy accident, so blessed, and not like they were evaluating these guys' future earning potential from the get-go. Which is fine, but don't pretend otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Single man here making 280k at age 32. I’m 5’5 though :/

Honestly I would rather be a 6’2 guy making 60k.

Height requirements seem like a harder limitation than salary requirements. I can’t even date women who are 3 inches shorter than me because short women all want super tall guys to compensate for their own shortness.

[Anonymous]

I make my own money. What else does this man bring to the table? I’m not interested in a salary. What other attributes does he have that will make him a good partner?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single man here making 280k at age 32. I’m 5’5 though :/

Honestly I would rather be a 6’2 guy making 60k.

Height requirements seem like a harder limitation than salary requirements. I can’t even date women who are 3 inches shorter than me because short women all want super tall guys to compensate for their own shortness.

See Table 5.5 on page 48 of this famous economic study of on-line dating. The authors estimate statistically that a 5'5" man needs to earn about an additional $200K a year to be as attractive as a 6 foot man making $60K, so would need to earn $260K. To be as attractive as a 6'2 man earning $60K, he would need to earn $290K.

https://home.uchicago.edu/~hortacsu/onlinedating.pdf

So your estimate is just about dead on accurate, congrats.

This does control for other things ("all else equal"), like facial attractiveness, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lower earning men are less likely to marry.

Men Are Now More Likely to Be Single Than Women. It's Not a Good Sign
https://time.com/6104105/more-single-men-than-women/

How can there be more single men than women? Lesbian marriages? Poly harems? Or do they mean more never married men than women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lower earning men are less likely to marry.

Men Are Now More Likely to Be Single Than Women. It's Not a Good Sign
https://time.com/6104105/more-single-men-than-women/

How can there be more single men than women? Lesbian marriages? Poly harems? Or do they mean more never married men than women?

There’s already a few % more men than women born, just down to biology. Even though women outnumber men overall, this is only because of the excess number of older women. In the younger bracket (18-40) men outnumber women. You also have to factor in that women in their 20’s and 30’s will regularly marry men 5-10 years older than they are and generally have way more options. Both young and old men want to date/marry young women, while only young women will date/marry young men. So young men have to compete with older men for the same mates.

[Anonymous]

These posts all seem like they are from the same troll. $0. I'd stand by my man and pick up the slack if he got laid off or injured. I'd also review his resume or help him study if he needed a new job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These posts all seem like they are from the same troll. $0. I'd stand by my man and pick up the slack if he got laid off or injured. I'd also review his resume or help him study if he needed a new job.

I think this is intended for women who are dating. These aren’t salary cut-offs to drop your current husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single man here making 280k at age 32. I’m 5’5 though :/

Honestly I would rather be a 6’2 guy making 60k.

Height requirements seem like a harder limitation than salary requirements. I can’t even date women who are 3 inches shorter than me because short women all want super tall guys to compensate for their own shortness.

See Table 5.5 on page 48 of this famous economic study of on-line dating. The authors estimate statistically that a 5'5" man needs to earn about an additional $200K a year to be as attractive as a 6 foot man making $60K, so would need to earn $260K. To be as attractive as a 6'2 man earning $60K, he would need to earn $290K.

https://home.uchicago.edu/~hortacsu/onlinedating.pdf

So your estimate is just about dead on accurate, congrats.

This does control for other things ("all else equal"), like facial attractiveness, etc.

WTF?? I'm a guy but don't get this. If I were a woman, I would *much* rather a 5'5" guy earning $260K than a 6'0" guy earning $60K. The average woman is like 5'4" so he's still taller than you. And oh boy is your life a hell of a lot easier if your spouse brings in an extra $200K!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single man here making 280k at age 32. I’m 5’5 though :/

Honestly I would rather be a 6’2 guy making 60k.

Height requirements seem like a harder limitation than salary requirements. I can’t even date women who are 3 inches shorter than me because short women all want super tall guys to compensate for their own shortness.

See Table 5.5 on page 48 of this famous economic study of on-line dating. The authors estimate statistically that a 5'5" man needs to earn about an additional $200K a year to be as attractive as a 6 foot man making $60K, so would need to earn $260K. To be as attractive as a 6'2 man earning $60K, he would need to earn $290K.

https://home.uchicago.edu/~hortacsu/onlinedating.pdf

So your estimate is just about dead on accurate, congrats.

This does control for other things ("all else equal"), like facial attractiveness, etc.

And these are the same women who would crow, "Misogyny!" if a man expressed a preference for thin women. Bullshit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What salary makes a guy marriage material?

I’d say 150k+ preferably 250k+

Who thinks like this?

Most of the women in this forum, that’s who.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single man here making 280k at age 32. I’m 5’5 though :/

Honestly I would rather be a 6’2 guy making 60k.

Height requirements seem like a harder limitation than salary requirements. I can’t even date women who are 3 inches shorter than me because short women all want super tall guys to compensate for their own shortness.

See Table 5.5 on page 48 of this famous economic study of on-line dating. The authors estimate statistically that a 5'5" man needs to earn about an additional $200K a year to be as attractive as a 6 foot man making $60K, so would need to earn $260K. To be as attractive as a 6'2 man earning $60K, he would need to earn $290K.

https://home.uchicago.edu/~hortacsu/onlinedating.pdf

So your estimate is just about dead on accurate, congrats.

This does control for other things ("all else equal"), like facial attractiveness, etc.

WTF?? I'm a guy but don't get this. If I were a woman, I would *much* rather a 5'5" guy earning $260K than a 6'0" guy earning $60K. The average woman is like 5'4" so he's still taller than you. And oh boy is your life a hell of a lot easier if your spouse brings in an extra $200K!

Offspring. They don’t want short boys that could be even shorter than dad since mom isn’t tall either.