Salary requirement for a husband?

[Anonymous]

Zero, if he has a trust fund.

I dont care how much he makes, as I wont marry. But to date? He just has to be able to pay his own way, and I have a pricey lifestyle so its a self selecting sort of thing.

[Anonymous]

The ones that I know who earn a lot treat their women badly.

[Anonymous]

In my 20s, I focused on my OWN salary. I picked a major, went to grad school, in something I knew would allow me to find a good job and I'd be interested in as well.

I had no 'salary requirements' and I met my husband when he was 24 (close to 25) and I was 26. I was making slightly more than him then. He was smart as hell, good looking, funny, athletic and had a degree from a good university.

Over time he was making double and triple my salary (my salary is very good). But, when we met there was no guarantee he would be such a high earner.

I picked the man, not the $.

Women should focus on earning their own $.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What salary makes a guy marriage material?

I’d say 150k+ preferably 250k+

Who thinks like this?

People inside the bubble that is the D.C. area.

[Anonymous]

It kinda depends- Is this for the formal posting? Or are you in the midst of salary negotiations?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What salary makes a guy marriage material?

I’d say 150k+ preferably 250k+

Who thinks like this?

People inside the bubble that is the D.C. area.

This area - and it’s mentality - is so weird!

It is not normal. Definitely not healthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my 20s, I focused on my OWN salary. I picked a major, went to grad school, in something I knew would allow me to find a good job and I'd be interested in as well.

I had no 'salary requirements' and I met my husband when he was 24 (close to 25) and I was 26. I was making slightly more than him then. He was smart as hell, good looking, funny, athletic and had a degree from a good university.

Over time he was making double and triple my salary (my salary is very good). But, when we met there was no guarantee he would be such a high earner.

I picked the man, not the $.

Women should focus on earning their own $.

That’s fine if you plan to raise kids and support your spouse for 50+ years on whatever you can make alone. That goes for both genders. But lots of people find it difficult to manage that on one salary. Which is when resentment can start to build that your partner earns so much less. And you might begin controlling how your spouse spends since you are the one contributing much more. I saw this in my friend group. Couples having fights over groceries and toiletries when the issue is really a $30k or more pay gap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I met DH ~6 yrs ago I was making $45K, he was making $95K. Now, we both make ~$200K each and are perfectly comfortable.

What stage of life are you in, OP? I'd have different "requirements" meeting someone at 25 than at 40.

True. When I started dating DH, he was 36, I was 30. But then, we were both making six figures by then.

When I was 23, making $26K, $60K was a lot to me. This was 20+ years ago.

It also depends on the col where you live. $60K in the DC area is not that much, but $60K in say, KS is pretty good.

HHI median income area the DC area is six figures, but the average age of a working adult is probably around 35+ (total guess).

So, age also matters. I would not expect a 30 yr old to be making as much as a 45 yr old who has years of experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my 20s, I focused on my OWN salary. I picked a major, went to grad school, in something I knew would allow me to find a good job and I'd be interested in as well.

I had no 'salary requirements' and I met my husband when he was 24 (close to 25) and I was 26. I was making slightly more than him then. He was smart as hell, good looking, funny, athletic and had a degree from a good university.

Over time he was making double and triple my salary (my salary is very good). But, when we met there was no guarantee he would be such a high earner.

I picked the man, not the $.

Women should focus on earning their own $.

That’s fine if you plan to raise kids and support your spouse for 50+ years on whatever you can make alone. That goes for both genders. But lots of people find it difficult to manage that on one salary. Which is when resentment can start to build that your partner earns so much less. And you might begin controlling how your spouse spends since you are the one contributing much more. I saw this in my friend group. Couples having fights over groceries and toiletries when the issue is really a $30k or more pay gap.

He obviously had high earning potential. I would never marry someone who did not plan to work during the marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my 20s, I focused on my OWN salary. I picked a major, went to grad school, in something I knew would allow me to find a good job and I'd be interested in as well.

I had no 'salary requirements' and I met my husband when he was 24 (close to 25) and I was 26. I was making slightly more than him then. He was smart as hell, good looking, funny, athletic and had a degree from a good university.

Over time he was making double and triple my salary (my salary is very good). But, when we met there was no guarantee he would be such a high earner.

I picked the man, not the $.

Women should focus on earning their own $.

That’s fine if you plan to raise kids and support your spouse for 50+ years on whatever you can make alone. That goes for both genders. But lots of people find it difficult to manage that on one salary. Which is when resentment can start to build that your partner earns so much less. And you might begin controlling how your spouse spends since you are the one contributing much more. I saw this in my friend group. Couples having fights over groceries and toiletries when the issue is really a $30k or more pay gap.

I see it with a spouse that has no job. That's quite a bit more than a $30k pay gap when one brings in $0.

[Anonymous]

100% of single women want a top 10% man in terms of salary and money. It is pure delusion. The average man earns around $50,000, not $250,000. It's especially delusional for single women in their mid to late 30s or divorced in their 40s to think they'll land this 10% guy and they won't settle for less. It's all Disney pipe dreams. Just get some cats instead. They are all you will have in the end with this mindset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:100% of single women want a top 10% man in terms of salary and money. It is pure delusion. The average man earns around $50,000, not $250,000. It's especially delusional for single women in their mid to late 30s or divorced in their 40s to think they'll land this 10% guy and they won't settle for less. It's all Disney pipe dreams. Just get some cats instead. They are all you will have in the end with this mindset.

This is harsh but there is some truth to the idea that if you are older than 28 you really need to be attractive if you are insisting on a man making 250k+ and you want him to be attractive. Those men who are still single late 20s/early to mid 30s that have their act together and make money rule the dating market.

This is why the previous poster women all talk about meeting their DHs in school when he had potential. The Princeton Mom got flamed for encouraging women to lock down a man in college but she had a point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What salary makes a guy marriage material?

I’d say 150k+ preferably 250k+

+BARRRRRF

[Anonymous]

Women are such bad liars.

A woman married to a 30 year old Sales engineer with a trust fund AND who brings in at least 200k per year, not including bonus, nonchalantly says, "oh, I don't care much for money"

LOL That is why you specifically selected for a guy who had the kind of degree and job prospects to give you the life you want in addition to ensuring he had generational wealth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women are such bad liars.

A woman married to a 30 year old Sales engineer with a trust fund AND who brings in at least 200k per year, not including bonus, nonchalantly says, "oh, I don't care much for money"

LOL That is why you specifically selected for a guy who had the kind of degree and job prospects to give you the life you want in addition to ensuring he had generational wealth.

? How many men do you think come from money such that all these women out there are only picking those men? Yes, *people* with money are catches. You think women from family money aren't great catches?