79 years old -- my mom looks and feels great, and is not needy at all

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's funny, I'm 50 and I have no medical issues at all, and yet I have peers with breast cancer. It doesn't need to be that way.
It's almost like ... people are different.

Yes...that shocks me too. I even have friends who have SN kids who are needy. They were needy from the time they were born. These people can't shake off the neediness.

[Anonymous]

OP, this is forum where people look for support about the difficulties of their aging or mostly their parents’ aging. What was your purpose in posting about your mother? If you are bothered by the stories here because it does not represent how well things are going for your mom, maybe you should log off the internet, hang out more with her, and just shouldn’t read here?

[Anonymous]

I think OP is just kind of clueless about how such a post might be hurtful to the many people on this forum whose parents have suffered major health problems despite being active, eating healthy, etc.
I was blissfully naive about this, too, until my healthy mom got cancer. It’s just not something you think about until your world is turned upside down.
If you are fortunate to have healthy parents, enjoy your time with them and try to overlook the various annoyances and inconveniences. I miss my mom so much.

[Anonymous]

Maybe OP's post waz more about countering all the ageism seen on so many threads with regard to anyone over 55, the comment should have read " not all older people are in need" but instead the wording seemed arrogant. There's another thread on here about the deconditioning in older folks, when, really, sometimes aging and health issues are lifestyle dependent and people don't all have to end up frail. But, of course, it doesn't take into account uncontrollable things like cancer, Parkinsons, autoimmune issues, etc. My parents were living their best life and it pretty much stopped on a dime with a Parkinson's dx. They were healthy and active until then.

[Anonymous]

Through a combination of good genes, good habits, good monetary fortune (based on your mention of symphonies and dressing well)and good luck, your mother is doing well. That's great. Enjoy and count your blessings.
But your post is massively insensitive and tone-deaf, especially on a forum where people are seeking help for some truly tragic and trying situations. There are lots of reasons--many out of anyone's control--why people age at different rates. Maybe you could spend your free time enjoying your mom's good health or helping others not as fortunate instead of being smug.