DH doesn’t see baby Monday to Thursday

[Anonymous]

He needs q new job

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Can husband start work earlier and end day earlier ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does your DH say? If he's concerned about not seeing his child, does he have ideas as to how to change that?

+1. If he was smart, he would have negotiated better working hours when he started going into the office. Even now, it’s not too late if he’s a valued employee.

When our kids were young and we both WOH, I would go in late and DH would come home early. So the kids had a good 6-7 hours of parental time everyday. We also encouraged and facilitated long naps so we could put them to bed at 9 instead of 7.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I put my kid to bed around 9 so he could have time with Dad.

Maybe the kid can't handle being awake until 9. Not all babies are little dolls that just move around to whatever schedule is most convenient for the parents.

So if your baby liked to sleep all day and stay up all night you'd be cool with that?

Babies sleep schedules can be adjusted to maximize time with parents and this ought to be a top priority for parents who work a lot and don't get to see their kids much due to that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I put my kid to bed around 9 so he could have time with Dad.

Maybe the kid can't handle being awake until 9. Not all babies are little dolls that just move around to whatever schedule is most convenient for the parents.

So if your baby liked to sleep all day and stay up all night you'd be cool with that?

Babies sleep schedules can be adjusted to maximize time with parents and this ought to be a top priority for parents who work a lot and don't get to see their kids much due to that.

I used to think I could not budge my child’s sleep schedule. He could not stay awake past 7 and would wake up at 5am. I thought I tried all I could to try to push his bedtime to 8-9 but he would just fall asleep.

I had a friend whose husband was a beer distributor. He came home late every night. Their daughter went to bed at 10-11pm and woke up at 8am. It is possible. Our babies were born in the same month.

[Anonymous]

Keep the baby up later & let him sleep later. Babies adjust easily to this usually.
Co-sleep.
Some days, meet him for lunch with the baby if you have time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep the baby up later & let him sleep later. Babies adjust easily to this usually.
Co-sleep.
Some days, meet him for lunch with the baby if you have time.

The way OP mentions "the commute" makes me think her husband's work is pretty far away. And OP works from home.

OP who is watching the baby while you work from home and your husband is at work?

[Anonymous]

My DH was biglaw when my babies were small so this was normal for us. I didn’t work though.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you refer to your child as baby?

Op- he IS a baby! He’s 8 months old

Did your dh have a different job/different hours before you got pregnant?

Same job, same hours but work from home made all the difference. We have already decided that if my company refuses to let me work from home, I will look for a new job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I put my kid to bed around 9 so he could have time with Dad.

Maybe the kid can't handle being awake until 9. Not all babies are little dolls that just move around to whatever schedule is most convenient for the parents.

So if your baby liked to sleep all day and stay up all night you'd be cool with that?

Babies sleep schedules can be adjusted to maximize time with parents and this ought to be a top priority for parents who work a lot and don't get to see their kids much due to that.

What the hell is your problem? OP can try, but contrary to what you think based on your babies, not all babies can do the stay awake until 9 or 10 or 11 pm to see mommy and daddy.

But I'm sure you'll tell me I'm wrong because you're the superior mommy of 2 kids and it worked for your babies, so if it didn't work for someone else they
are just stupid.

[Anonymous]

Your DH will have to make the same choices as all other working parents. Can he find a different job? Negotiate his hours and risk the penalties? Can you afford those adjustments? Etc etc. Tale as old as timesheets.