Mother’s Last Name as Baby’s Second Middle Name

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just do one middle name

+1

No one wants FOUR names. No one. It looks and sounds dumb.

The ignorance of Americans is astounding.

Much of the world uses 4 names.

If you are an American raising kids in America, then the American naming tradition should apply. What others do in other countries doesn’t matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s annoying to have four names. There are several forms for which you have to choose which name to drop. I would especially avoid this for a girl, as it makes monograms and initial items tricky.

This is the stupidest thing I have ever heard. Planning your life around the tackiest of items is just sad.

Monograms??!!

Really?!

I totally agree.

+2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why get so precious?
Regardless, feminist women are kidding themselves with “keeping their names.” We have a patriarchal naming system, so if anything, you are just keeping and “passing on” your DAD’s name.

Seriously, it’s one dude’s name or another (your husband’s or your dad’s!)

This is such a tired argument. The name I was born with is my name; I've had it my whole life as a person, including when I was adult enough to decide to get married. Why is it only my dad's name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did this and as the kids are near adults I am so glad that I did. They like it too (they have told me). We actually did four names: First Middle MyLastName HisLastName.

We did this too. I like it. They like it. No issues.
People are so judgy about thesse sorts of things on this forum though, so maybe people think I am a feminazi

[Anonymous]

I have this (FN MIDDLE MOTHERLN FATHERLN) and I love it. It’s never been an issue. I did the same with my kids and they love it too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s annoying to have four names. There are several forms for which you have to choose which name to drop. I would especially avoid this for a girl, as it makes monograms and initial items tricky.

''

Why? I have 5. My kids have 4. IN many cultures outside white Americans, this is the case. Esp Latinos. So it COULD be tricky for someone who wants a monogrammed keychain if shes a southern sorority girl. But who cares given the other benefits?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why get so precious?
Regardless, feminist women are kidding themselves with “keeping their names.” We have a patriarchal naming system, so if anything, you are just keeping and “passing on” your DAD’s name.

Seriously, it’s one dude’s name or another (your husband’s or your dad’s!)

This is such a tired argument. The name I was born with is my name; I've had it my whole life as a person, including when I was adult enough to decide to get married. Why is it only my dad's name?

Is your 2nd middle name your mom's maiden name? If not, why saddle your kid with extra names? The name given at birth will be their name their whole life, not just their dad's name.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand why anyone cares what other people do in this way. The judgmental tone of a lot of these comments is so weird. I have three names (first middle last) and gave my child three names (first mylast DHlast), but I have zero issue with someone giving more. Why would I care? As many posters have noted, it’s common in many cultures (including cultures prominent in the US). I just don’t get what the problem is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been held up at the airport immigration and security lines more than once for someone in our party having one letter different from ticket and ID (usually the middle name vs abbreviation is the culprit). Such a pain just for “Liam” vs “L”. I’d avoid doing 2 middle names just because computers (and dmv people) do not know how to consistently handle them. I’ve heard the same for people with “NMN”. Life’s hard enough.

I have 4 kids with 4 names and travel internationally 2x a year with them. Never an issue.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it’s a hassle having two middle names. The second name gets dropped and there is really no place for it.

All my kids have my last name as their middle name. Not hyphenated just a middle name. My name is Sloan so I was concerned it might sound too feminine but it actually sounds great with my boys name as well as my DD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’ve been held up at the airport immigration and security lines more than once for someone in our party having one letter different from ticket and ID (usually the middle name vs abbreviation is the culprit). Such a pain just for “Liam” vs “L”. I’d avoid doing 2 middle names just because computers (and dmv people) do not know how to consistently handle them. I’ve heard the same for people with “NMN”. Life’s hard enough.

Such a pain.

Interesting. We’re a foreign service family and we have 8 passports for our family of 4 and dozens of other ID’s. Crazy things like smiling in an official photo have caused problems but having both parents last name never has.

OMG - exact same as above in our family. Cheers to the other FS family not stuck in 1950.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My question is, why?

What's your goal?

If your goal is to preserve the name and make it a part of your child's name, then you should make it their middle name (with just one middle name) or hyphenate.

Unless you are a royal, nobody will ever know or use your kid's second middle name. It will only be needed for official documents--and even then, the forms aren't really built for an additional name.

I am a woman with a hyphenated last name, and our kids have hyphenated last names. Since they are boys, our double-barreled last name will carry on for at least another generation.

My siblings and several friends gave their children the mother's maiden name as the one middle name. That's another way to carry on a name.

I also know several women who went the HRC/RBG route and use their full name professionally (no hyphens; think: Jane Smith Jones). Your kid could do that, and then the name lives on in a meaningful way.

Watch out, there are even people in OUR generation who, as men, changed their last name upon marriage. Crazy, right?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just do one middle name

+1

No one wants FOUR names. No one. It looks and sounds dumb.

The ignorance of Americans is astounding.

Much of the world uses 4 names.

If you are an American raising kids in America, then the American naming tradition should apply. What others do in other countries doesn’t matter.

and we can all guess your politics ... 'merica.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why get so precious?
Regardless, feminist women are kidding themselves with “keeping their names.” We have a patriarchal naming system, so if anything, you are just keeping and “passing on” your DAD’s name.

Seriously, it’s one dude’s name or another (your husband’s or your dad’s!)

This is such a tired argument. The name I was born with is my name; I've had it my whole life as a person, including when I was adult enough to decide to get married. Why is it only my dad's name?

Is your 2nd middle name your mom's maiden name? If not, why saddle your kid with extra names? The name given at birth will be their name their whole life, not just their dad's name.

Yes, my 2nd middle name is my mother's maiden name. It's never been a problem, but I travel in fairly international circles. My kids have 4 names, and yes, it works for us. What is the problem? I literally don't understand your point.

[Anonymous]

It’s considered classy and old-money to have a surname for a middle name. Just do your last name as the middle name.