Mother’s Last Name as Baby’s Second Middle Name

[Anonymous]

I kept my last name after marrying DH. We’re expecting our first baby now. I’m considering having my last name (one syllable) as a second middle name for the baby. That way, my last name would be part of baby’s official name without dealing with having a hyphenated last name (I don’t want to go the hyphenated last name route). I’d like to keep the first middle name short with a one syllable name as well. Thoughts? Is it a hassle having two middle names?

[Anonymous]

I do not understand why you can't give your last name as the middle name without including a "first" middle name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not understand why you can't give your last name as the middle name without including a "first" middle name.

+1 this is what our family does.

[Anonymous]

I would hyphenate. That’s what my husband and I will do.

[Anonymous]

Both of our kids have my last name as their (ONE) middle name.

[Anonymous]

My parents did what you're describing OP. To be honest I don't love it - it doesn't fit on most forms and can be confusing what my actual legal name is. That being said, mine is a very long and hard to pronounce name so if yours is one syllable as you say it may be better. I would have preferred my parents just dropped my "first" middle name and named me FIRSTNAME MOMSLASTNAME DADSLASTNAME.

[Anonymous]

My kids all have my maiden name as their (one) middle name).

[Anonymous]

I did this and as the kids are near adults I am so glad that I did. They like it too (they have told me). We actually did four names: First Middle MyLastName HisLastName.

[Anonymous]

I gave myself 2 middle names when I got married, but forms never have room for 2 middle names. It’s kind of meaningless. Plus, I know some people use their kids’ middle names (like, “come here, Sally Mae!”), but I have never once used my kids’ middle names except in official forms. I can’t even imagine how a second middle name would even factor into their lives.

[Anonymous]

I gave my DC my last name as their middle and am glad, but sometimes wish I’d chosen another middle name as well. So I like your solution, OP. I don’t think it’s a big deal to have two middle names. The thing about names is that most of the time you can go by whatever you want, and then when you have to provide your legal name on paperwork, middle names are optional 90% of the time. And when they are not optional, often they are space limited, so you can just put initials (or get mail with a partial middle name on them).

Point is, it really doesn’t matter and you should give your kid the name you want.

[Anonymous]

Just do one middle name

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both of our kids have my last name as their (ONE) middle name.

Do this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did this and as the kids are near adults I am so glad that I did. They like it too (they have told me). We actually did four names: First Middle MyLastName HisLastName.

Thanks! OP here. That’s helpful to hear. And they didn’t have any issues with filling out forms and such?

[Anonymous]

Why get so precious?
Regardless, feminist women are kidding themselves with “keeping their names.” We have a patriarchal naming system, so if anything, you are just keeping and “passing on” your DAD’s name.

Seriously, it’s one dude’s name or another (your husband’s or your dad’s!)

[Anonymous]

We did this. In birth cert, passport and social security they have 2 middle names. In school forms its just the one middle name. I haven't seem an issue yet.