Do you personally know of any situation where the father was granted primary full custody?
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Anonymous
| STBX and I are battling over the kids. He is going for full custody and he seems to truly believe he will get it. I am looking for examples where the father was granted primary custody. I don't believe there's a snowball's chance in Hell that he will get what he wants, but it still scares me to think there's a remote possibility this could happen. |
Anonymous
| I don't personally know of any situation like that. Stay strong and don't let him psych you out! |
Anonymous
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Divorce attorney here in VA. It's still fairly rare for the Dad to get primary physical, but yes it definitely happens and is happening more as the bench gets younger so the judges don't have the same biases as the older judges did.
This is the breakdown: Mom as legit primary caregiver (not just a lot of complaining about being default parent): she's going to get primary physical and dad gets every other weekend. Mom/Dad both involved, even if mom's doing more: 50/50 or 60/40 split. Dad more involved and something wrong with mom: dad gets primary |
Anonymous
| Is he the primary caregiver? I know situation in which stay-at-home dad was given primary custody, vs. wife who traveled 100+ days/year. Honestly as far as I know it was agreeable arrangement and best for the kids. The wife had cheated and was absentee mother much of the time. In most cases I would think 50-50 more likely |
Anonymous
| Yes- I think you should prepare for at least 50/50. It isn't really every other weekend for dads only any longer. |
Anonymous
| Yes, multiple kids. The dad was a full-time surgeon, too. |
Anonymous
| Not unless you're abusive of neglectful, and he has evidence to back it up. |
Anonymous
| Yes. Are you the one who wants the divorce? He should get custody. |
Anonymous
| Or* |
Anonymous
| If the woman is the one who wants to break-up the family, than yes the father gets custody. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
| Yes. One couple. The mom was/is an alcoholic. |
Anonymous
| Two. In both cases the mom had/has serious issues. In one family the mom eventually committed suicide. The other lost custody of her three kids one by one to the dad as they got old enough to help lobby the judge to get out of mom's house. |
Anonymous
| Yes, but my understanding is that the mom had a lot of issues and didn't really want custody. |
Anonymous
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Yes, my brother received full primary custody but his wife is a mess (documented & official). He was the primary care giver and had a full time job, but had family help.
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