Is she just trying to be friendly?

[Anonymous]

Hey, I posted this about a week ago and I came today to see the replies but I can't seem to find my post. This site gets so many new posts it's hard to find your own haha.

So here it is again (sorry if you've seen this before)

I'm a fairly young guy (23) and I know this site has great mature advice that I'm looking for. Thanks.


So the girl I was seeing kind of sort of ended things with me a few weeks ago (more of her getting upset over something silly than anything). She apologized a week later for overreacting. I responded back letting her know that everything was fine but then she didn't even acknowledge my response and she went 4 days without saying anything. After 4 days she asked to see me but I just was still pissed about the whole thing to be honest so I wasn't receptive. I didn't ignore her but I was just kind of cold. After that attempt she didn't say anything else.

Anyways she and I haven't talked in weeks. Based on her snaps (Snapchat/social media)she seems just fine. On Tuesday I get text from her saying hey headed home (she lives a few hours away) I left some stuff for you by the front door. I told my roommate to go outside and check and to bring it in. I replied back ok thanks. A few minutes later I sent her another text saying that my roommate just told me and that I was in Dover (her city). All she said back was "no problem... okay cool" I get back to my town today and in the bag she has a note that says," Hope all is well. It's been a while. Ran into your roommate this weekend and heard that you're moving soon. I was just concerned so I got you a few pick me ups. Could be wrong and if I am just take it as a housewarming and pay it forward " The bag had a few of some small inside jokes kind of gifts. Nothing flashy.

1. Is she just being friendly?
2. Also, is it weird that I still look at her snaps fairly regularly (every few days)? For those who aren't familiar with Snapchat if you post something it shows you who has looked at it. She doesn't look at mine though... "


My friend told me that it didn't seem like she was interested, she's just trying to be a friend. Guys of DCUM if you think a girl just wants to be friends in this situation would you even bother saying anything more than thanks?

[Anonymous]

Here's your original post:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/584436.page

[Anonymous]

Move on. Women do not do the friends thing. Plenty fish in the sea.

[Anonymous]

She's not interested. And if she is, and this is the way she shows it, she's not for you. Everything you describe reflects immaturity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's not interested. And if she is, and this is the way she shows it, she's not for you. Everything you describe reflects immaturity.

Thanks. Why don't you think that she's not interested?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's not interested. And if she is, and this is the way she shows it, she's not for you. Everything you describe reflects immaturity.

OP sounds pretty immature too. Instead of talking things out like an adult he got pissy and decided to be cold and distant when she was trying to make amends. If you don't like something OP speak up. If you like something speak up. If you're unsure about something speak up. Passive aggressive behavior is immature as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's not interested. And if she is, and this is the way she shows it, she's not for you. Everything you describe reflects immaturity.

Thanks. Why don't you think that she's not interested?

*****Thanks. Why do you think that she's not interested?

[Anonymous]

Not the PP, but here are a few clues that she's not interested:

1. After that attempt she didn't say anything else.
2. I was in Dover (her city). All she said back was "no problem... okay cool"
3. she and I haven't talked in weeks
4. she doesn't look at mine (snapchats)

Then again, you haven't been all that either, making her wait days and weeks to communicate. Too little, too late.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not the PP, but here are a few clues that she's not interested:

1. After that attempt she didn't say anything else.
2. I was in Dover (her city). All she said back was "no problem... okay cool"
3. she and I haven't talked in weeks
4. she doesn't look at mine (snapchats)

Then again, you haven't been all that either, making her wait days and weeks to communicate. Too little, too late.

Thanks. Actually that was her. After she kind of dumped me she reached out a week later. I responded to her right away and then she went silent on me for 4 days and that's when I just got a really bad taste in my mouth and was kind of cold. I never ignored her, just was a little distant.

I'm not sure you're a woman or man but I'll still ask.

1. In this situation if I was looking at your snaps fairly regularly would you think that I was still interested or at most missed you?

2. If I said "ok cool thanks"..."my roommate just told me""I'm in *insert your city* would you think I was trying to drop a hint or whatever you want to call it for us to meet up or something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not the PP, but here are a few clues that she's not interested:

1. After that attempt she didn't say anything else.
2. I was in Dover (her city). All she said back was "no problem... okay cool"
3. she and I haven't talked in weeks
4. she doesn't look at mine (snapchats)

Then again, you haven't been all that either, making her wait days and weeks to communicate. Too little, too late.

Also, so even though I'm still interested there's no need to say anything else since I already told her thanks? Don't even try to use the bag as a means to say anything else because it would be pointless?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not the PP, but here are a few clues that she's not interested:

1. After that attempt she didn't say anything else.
2. I was in Dover (her city). All she said back was "no problem... okay cool"
3. she and I haven't talked in weeks
4. she doesn't look at mine (snapchats)

Then again, you haven't been all that either, making her wait days and weeks to communicate. Too little, too late.

Thanks. Actually that was her. After she kind of dumped me she reached out a week later. I responded to her right away and then she went silent on me for 4 days and that's when I just got a really bad taste in my mouth and was kind of cold. I never ignored her, just was a little distant.

I'm not sure you're a woman or man but I'll still ask.

1. In this situation if I was looking at your snaps fairly regularly would you think that I was still interested or at most missed you?

2. If I said "ok cool thanks"..."my roommate just told me""I'm in *insert your city* would you think I was trying to drop a hint or whatever you want to call it for us to meet up or something?

I'm a woman.

If I broke up with you weeks ago, and you're still looking at my snaps, I'd start to think it was a little creepy/stalker-ish.

If you were in her city and she was in your city, what else could she say but, "okay, cool?" You could've asked to meet up with her, but you didn't. She may have been waiting for you to ask her. Missed your chance. I'm not her, so i don't know her motives, but she may have been trying to get a sense of how far you're willing to go for her. Weeks without any contact -- I think she's probably done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not the PP, but here are a few clues that she's not interested:

1. After that attempt she didn't say anything else.
2. I was in Dover (her city). All she said back was "no problem... okay cool"
3. she and I haven't talked in weeks
4. she doesn't look at mine (snapchats)

Then again, you haven't been all that either, making her wait days and weeks to communicate. Too little, too late.

Thanks. Actually that was her. After she kind of dumped me she reached out a week later. I responded to her right away and then she went silent on me for 4 days and that's when I just got a really bad taste in my mouth and was kind of cold. I never ignored her, just was a little distant.

I'm not sure you're a woman or man but I'll still ask.

1. In this situation if I was looking at your snaps fairly regularly would you think that I was still interested or at most missed you?

2. If I said "ok cool thanks"..."my roommate just told me""I'm in *insert your city* would you think I was trying to drop a hint or whatever you want to call it for us to meet up or something?

I'm a woman.

If I broke up with you weeks ago, and you're still looking at my snaps, I'd start to think it was a little creepy/stalker-ish.

If you were in her city and she was in your city, what else could she say but, "okay, cool?" You could've asked to meet up with her, but you didn't. She may have been waiting for you to ask her. Missed your chance. I'm not her, so i don't know her motives, but she may have been trying to get a sense of how far you're willing to go for her. Weeks without any contact -- I think she's probably done.

Thanks. I probably should've explained this better. She was on her way home (we live 2 hrs. apart) and by the time I had seen her message 4 hours had passed and that's when I told her I was in her city, so we both were in the same city, her city.

[Anonymous]

21:18 again. Doesn't matter, same comments apply. Live and learn.

[Anonymous]

Ask her and stop wasting time here. Whether you are 21, 23, or whatever, leave this site to us old folks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask her and stop wasting time here. Whether you are 21, 23, or whatever, leave this site to us old folks.

Or you could just skip this thread altogether. If you're not here to help OP then why don't you take your old butt to another thread.