Is she just trying to be friendly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hate to deviate from the question but I must ask.

A man saying he’s in your city is him dropping a hint or breadcrumbs if you will now?

I think so. I'm not sure if others will agree but if a man said,

"ok cool thanks
.....
.....
"roommate just told me"
"I'm in your city"

As someone else said" It doesn't take a genius to figure out that's an opportunity to meet up, clear the air, whatever"
I would think he was dropping a hint because why not say I'm out of town, I'm not home or be a total jerk and just leave it at ok thanks? (as to why he couldn't get to the bag)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask her and stop wasting time here. Whether you are 21, 23, or whatever, leave this site to us old folks.

Or you could just skip this thread altogether. If you're not here to help OP then why don't you take your old butt to another thread.

OK, then, here's my advice: she has moved on, but you haven't. And it sounds pathetic.

Gotcha. I'm assuming you're a guy? Well man to man I already said thank you beforehand so I shouldn't say anything else to her at all ? Not even a thanks again? Even though I'm still clearly interested it's best not to use the bag as means to open the door and try to be friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask her and stop wasting time here. Whether you are 21, 23, or whatever, leave this site to us old folks.

Or you could just skip this thread altogether. If you're not here to help OP then why don't you take your old butt to another thread.

OK, then, here's my advice: she has moved on, but you haven't. And it sounds pathetic.

Gotcha. I'm assuming you're a guy? Well man to man I already said thank you beforehand so I shouldn't say anything else to her at all ? Not even a thanks again? Even though I'm still clearly interested it's best not to use the bag as means to open the door and try to be friends?

Be friends in 6 months to a year. By that time you and her will be on to new people and you can see if you really care to be friends. Seriously you are wasting time. Stop following her on social media. She broke up with you and now she is f'ing with you. Do not waste time with people who treat you bad or are noncommittal. She will continue do to this till she fines a new boyfriend at which time you will be coldly dropped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm still trying to figure out what exactly happened.

So, first, you (OP) did something that upset your GF and she broke up with you as a result. After thinking about it, she apologized a few days later, and you said it was okay. But were you also waiting for her to express an interest in dating you again?

Alternatively, did you tell her that you wanted to continue seeing her? She may not have wanted to assume that the dating relationship was back on again. Maybe she was giving you the four days to think about it and contact her for a date, but then you didn't.

So then she made a second attempt contacting you. You were cold to her, and she backed off. Her third try was dropping off the care package for you.

It seems that you were waiting for her to ask you out and she's been waiting for you to ask her out. Unless this is all very recent, by now she probably thinks you're not interested in a relationship and has moved on.

Yep, this is way too complicated for such a short relationship. Cut your loses, learn how to communicate better (don't expect your partner to read your mind) and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask her and stop wasting time here. Whether you are 21, 23, or whatever, leave this site to us old folks.

Or you could just skip this thread altogether. If you're not here to help OP then why don't you take your old butt to another thread.

OK, then, here's my advice: she has moved on, but you haven't. And it sounds pathetic.

Gotcha. I'm assuming you're a guy? Well man to man I already said thank you beforehand so I shouldn't say anything else to her at all ? Not even a thanks again? Even though I'm still clearly interested it's best not to use the bag as means to open the door and try to be friends?

I'm not sure if others will agree but what's the point? You don't want to be her friend. You've already said thank you so that's all you need to say. If someone doesn't feel the same way you do then why say another word to them? It's pointless.

[Anonymous]

Completely forgot to add before she dropped off the gift she snapped driving a BMW. In the snap she said " “When he finally lets you drive his M4” but you never see the guy just the steering wheel...

[Anonymous]

OP, you are starting to come across as a bit self-centered. (Not unusual at your age, btw.) You keep talking about your own thoughts and feelings, but how much thought and weight have you given to how your actions (or more accurately, inactions) made HER feel? You were cold and standoffish each time while she was giving you 3 chances to come around. Now when you finally feel like it, you want her back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are starting to come across as a bit self-centered. (Not unusual at your age, btw.) You keep talking about your own thoughts and feelings, but how much thought and weight have you given to how your actions (or more accurately, inactions) made HER feel? You were cold and standoffish each time while she was giving you 3 chances to come around. Now when you finally feel like it, you want her back.

I know, seriously. OP, this would be HER post here on DCUM

DCUM, please help me figure out if this guy likes me or should I just move on.

I was seeing this guy and we got into a fight and broke up. It was over something stupid and a few days later I texted him that I was sorry about the fight and it was stupid of me. He texts back, "Don't worry about it, it's all good." That's it. He doesn't ask me out again or ask when we could get together again. Just an "it's fine" text.

I like him, but I'm not about to chase a guy that isn't showing interest, I wait for him to ask me out again. About 4 days go by with no text from him. So I bite the bullet and ask him out. He responds but says he can't go out and is kind of cold in his texts. We go back and forth in texts and all his responses are curt.

I give up. I guess if he really liked me he'd ask me out. A few weeks go by and I run into his roommate. He mentions the guy and I figure why not give it one more try. But I don't want to ask him out again (I learned the first time when I asked him out) so I figured I'd buy him some cute things, inside joke kind of things and make an excuse to leave them at his house. If he likes me, he'll thank me and ask me out. If not, well, it's over.

Well, he texts me that he's not home but his roommate got my package. But then, he casually drops in that he's in my area. That's it. No "do you want to get together" no asking me out - nothing. Like, roommate picked up the package, I'm in Dover, the sky is blue....

So, DCUM, what is going on? I don't want to chase this guy if he's truly not interested and I reached out like 4 times and he's not asking to see me. Is he just not interested?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are starting to come across as a bit self-centered. (Not unusual at your age, btw.) You keep talking about your own thoughts and feelings, but how much thought and weight have you given to how your actions (or more accurately, inactions) made HER feel? You were cold and standoffish each time while she was giving you 3 chances to come around. Now when you finally feel like it, you want her back.

I know, seriously. OP, this would be HER post here on DCUM

DCUM, please help me figure out if this guy likes me or should I just move on.

I was seeing this guy and we got into a fight and broke up. It was over something stupid and a few days later I texted him that I was sorry about the fight and it was stupid of me. He texts back, "Don't worry about it, it's all good." That's it. He doesn't ask me out again or ask when we could get together again. Just an "it's fine" text.

I like him, but I'm not about to chase a guy that isn't showing interest, I wait for him to ask me out again. About 4 days go by with no text from him. So I bite the bullet and ask him out. He responds but says he can't go out and is kind of cold in his texts. We go back and forth in texts and all his responses are curt.

I give up. I guess if he really liked me he'd ask me out. A few weeks go by and I run into his roommate. He mentions the guy and I figure why not give it one more try. But I don't want to ask him out again (I learned the first time when I asked him out) so I figured I'd buy him some cute things, inside joke kind of things and make an excuse to leave them at his house. If he likes me, he'll thank me and ask me out. If not, well, it's over.

Well, he texts me that he's not home but his roommate got my package. But then, he casually drops in that he's in my area. That's it. No "do you want to get together" no asking me out - nothing. Like, roommate picked up the package, I'm in Dover, the sky is blue....

So, DCUM, what is going on? I don't want to chase this guy if he's truly not interested and I reached out like 4 times and he's not asking to see me. Is he just not interested?

guy here - well done PP, you absolutely nailed it!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are starting to come across as a bit self-centered. (Not unusual at your age, btw.) You keep talking about your own thoughts and feelings, but how much thought and weight have you given to how your actions (or more accurately, inactions) made HER feel? You were cold and standoffish each time while she was giving you 3 chances to come around. Now when you finally feel like it, you want her back.

I know, seriously. OP, this would be HER post here on DCUM

DCUM, please help me figure out if this guy likes me or should I just move on.

I was seeing this guy and we got into a fight and broke up. It was over something stupid and a few days later I texted him that I was sorry about the fight and it was stupid of me. He texts back, "Don't worry about it, it's all good." That's it. He doesn't ask me out again or ask when we could get together again. Just an "it's fine" text.

I like him, but I'm not about to chase a guy that isn't showing interest, I wait for him to ask me out again. About 4 days go by with no text from him. So I bite the bullet and ask him out. He responds but says he can't go out and is kind of cold in his texts. We go back and forth in texts and all his responses are curt.

I give up. I guess if he really liked me he'd ask me out. A few weeks go by and I run into his roommate. He mentions the guy and I figure why not give it one more try. But I don't want to ask him out again (I learned the first time when I asked him out) so I figured I'd buy him some cute things, inside joke kind of things and make an excuse to leave them at his house. If he likes me, he'll thank me and ask me out. If not, well, it's over.

Well, he texts me that he's not home but his roommate got my package. But then, he casually drops in that he's in my area. That's it. No "do you want to get together" no asking me out - nothing. Like, roommate picked up the package, I'm in Dover, the sky is blue....

So, DCUM, what is going on? I don't want to chase this guy if he's truly not interested and I reached out like 4 times and he's not asking to see me. Is he just not interested?

PP here. Perfectly said. And I would reply to her, it's time to move on!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are starting to come across as a bit self-centered. (Not unusual at your age, btw.) You keep talking about your own thoughts and feelings, but how much thought and weight have you given to how your actions (or more accurately, inactions) made HER feel? You were cold and standoffish each time while she was giving you 3 chances to come around. Now when you finally feel like it, you want her back.

I know, seriously. OP, this would be HER post here on DCUM

DCUM, please help me figure out if this guy likes me or should I just move on.

I was seeing this guy and we got into a fight and broke up. It was over something stupid and a few days later I texted him that I was sorry about the fight and it was stupid of me. He texts back, "Don't worry about it, it's all good." That's it. He doesn't ask me out again or ask when we could get together again. Just an "it's fine" text.

I like him, but I'm not about to chase a guy that isn't showing interest, I wait for him to ask me out again. About 4 days go by with no text from him. So I bite the bullet and ask him out. He responds but says he can't go out and is kind of cold in his texts. We go back and forth in texts and all his responses are curt.

I give up. I guess if he really liked me he'd ask me out. A few weeks go by and I run into his roommate. He mentions the guy and I figure why not give it one more try. But I don't want to ask him out again (I learned the first time when I asked him out) so I figured I'd buy him some cute things, inside joke kind of things and make an excuse to leave them at his house. If he likes me, he'll thank me and ask me out. If not, well, it's over.

Well, he texts me that he's not home but his roommate got my package. But then, he casually drops in that he's in my area. That's it. No "do you want to get together" no asking me out - nothing. Like, roommate picked up the package, I'm in Dover, the sky is blue....

So, DCUM, what is going on? I don't want to chase this guy if he's truly not interested and I reached out like 4 times and he's not asking to see me. Is he just not interested?

This is also a lot more coherent than the OP. He doesn't sound like the sharpest tool in the shed.

[Anonymous]

Dude. She. Is. Not. Interested. Seriously. Leave her alone