How to politely deal with BF's ex-wife?
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Anonymous
| I have a wonderful BF with an extreme "golden uterus" ex-wife; Loudoun Co. type. I've never met the woman and I am not the first woman he dated since his divorce 5 years ago. However, I am the first woman he is dating seriously and apparently it is a problem for her. I stay out of the "parenting" issues and pretty much ignore any of her devious behavior towards me. If she oversteps her boundaries in regards to me, I let my BF deal with it. Any advice from DC ladies? |
Anonymous
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Its your boyfriend not your husband. Stay out of it.
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Anonymous
| Ok--clarification....soon to be husband. I guess I should have made it clear. |
Anonymous
| What is golden uterus? |
Anonymous
Then I would seriously drop all the judgement of her and realize if you want a long happy life with your soon to be husband that it takes two to tango and its unlikely she is the wicked witch you are making her out to be. |
Anonymous
It ususlly refers to the reality that in many jurisdictions, the mother can do no wrong in the eyes of family court. In many states, mothers are awarded primary physical custody over fathers unless there is a finding of significant abuse. Thankfully, that is changing. |
Anonymous
| In our case, my BF has full legal custody and the child lives with him full time. |
Anonymous
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I think you are trolling.
If he were your soon to be husband you would have said so. You claim golden uterus but he has custody. Stop playing. Seriously. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like he has his hands full. Why are you even involved with him? |
Anonymous
So you've never met her but already are convinced she's an evil harpy that needs dealing with. I can't IMAGINE why she wouldn't like you. |
Anonymous
| What is a Loudoun Co. type? |
Anonymous
Never met the woman yet she is soon to be married to the father of her child... TROLL |
Anonymous
+1. He has custody and you're soon to be married but you've never met the ex/mother of his child(ren). She's also apparently already crossing boundaries with you and exhibiting "devious behavior" towards you without ever being in your presence. You're quite comfortable slamming her right off the bat despite the fact that, yet again, you've never met. Sure, sounds legit. 
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Anonymous
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I see all txt messages and emails she sends to my future husband/BF in regards to me. The behavior is devious towards me and the woman is afraid to meet me. She literally ran off from her child's soccer game, when she found out I was there as well. I think it's kind of childish and just want to set healthy boundaries with the lady.
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Anonymous
Ya, okay. Go play on Reddit. They love to play pretend with trolls like you on r/relationships. |