Ask me anything: I am a kept woman

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Anonymous wrote:A good looking man with pockets stuffed full of cash having to PAY a woman for sex....LOL.

He's not paying for sex. He's paying for a relationship dynamic that is different from what he has at home. I am the NP from a few pages back who was in a near-identical relationship. [/b]The guy I was with enjoyed keeping his wife on a tight leash financially while spending crazy amounts of money on me. Money was something they fought about and, fortunately for him, he was the one who earned it all so he could use it control her. [b]We didn't have that dynamic in our relationship and he enjoyed doing things for me that were completely over-the-top. As another PP pointed out, guys like this do whatever the fuck they want. Their choices probably won't make sense to you, because you aren't that kind of person.

That's sick. There's no way I would want to associate with a guy like that. That's abusive behavior.

[Anonymous]

Questions for OP:

1. Are you a sex addict?
2. Were you abused or neglected as a child?
3. Have you ever had an eating disorder?
4. Do you have Aspergers?
5. Are you addicted to anything else? Internet addiction?
6. What is the biggest appeal of this affair? Glamour? Attention? Feeling taken care of?

[Anonymous]

Another vote for troll. Everything she writes seems very fake and made up for consumption. Either that or the sugar daddy has some kinks about banging dead logs - that's just how flat OP comes across.

[Anonymous]

This particular situation may be totally fake, but there are plenty of real ones. Why women do this to other women, I don't know (at 35 years old). That being said, at 24, my moral compass wasn't nearly so strong as it is now, and by the grace of God this situation didn't present itself to me because I did lots of dumb stuff (although nothing this self-destructive) that I wish I hadn't done. And if this is real, OP, you'll wish you hadn't done it. You are gaining nothing and just putting your own life on hold.

The poor children. Including OP (if she isn't a troll).

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Anonymous wrote:He testifies as an expert witness with a professional background and credentials in mental health.

All these details are making me cringe. Why not just call the wife up and tell her if you want her to know?

Hey, DCUM how many of you have googled "expert witnesses mental health DC area" yet? The circle narrows....

She said she does not live in Arlington. Are you in the DC area, OP?

I also googled "married 2010" and "married 2009"

That's a wide net you're casting. Be careful what you do with your "research".

Meh! I am being facetious. I am sure no one thinks that OP is real, not a troll, mentally stable!

Do you know how difficult it is to even have an affair? The logistics involved? And this high profile man is keeping a young mistress for 4 years without being outed? Sorry, in this conservative town - it is just not happening! Especially not in a setting where the man in question was in a professional setting, where reputations matter.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone else thinking about the irony of this guy being an "expert in mental health." LOL, this is so not a healthy relationship, mentally or otherwise.

+1! OP, are you desperate to be discovered?
You told us that he's taken you to LA/SF and host of other places, including for business trips. Any DCUM poster with a vicious streak could Google his profession and look up which mental health consultants had testified at trials in the areas where you've traveled together and narrow down a very specific list of people who do that and make presentations to local colleges whilst making the income you describe.

If you don't want him to be "outed" why are you giving such specific personal, financial and professional details?

[Anonymous]

But then give the OP credit for keeping the details straight, and also the level of detail--expert court witness? Visiting her professor's class? This is a troll with a well-planned story. Needs some character development though--we don't like the mistress, too flat and dry. OP, make her a little zippier if this thread continues.

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Anonymous wrote:What breed is your dog?

Cockapoo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you think he is able to "hide" his keeping of you because his income isn't strictly salary-based? Meaning, he gets paid each time he testifies, etc.? I guess I understand that in a marriage one spouse might not be 100% clued in, but you'd think wife would at least know what his salary, and therefore, the average annual income is (they do have to file tax returns which she needs to sign, right?).

I'm sure it makes things easier but am also sure that men who have the same paycheck every two weeks manage to hide affairs.

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Anonymous wrote:I was interested in this thread and asked OP a bunch of questions earlier that she didn't answer. I'm still not sure she's real, but if she is, I have to say that I no longer care. Clearly there's something "off" about her - drugs, personality disorder, something like that - because of the detached nature of her answers and her sociopathic view of relationships. Probably why the guy likes her - she's emotionally simple.

The only question I'd really like her to answer, which I know she won't because it gets at the heart of the whole issue, is:

If he was with you before the wedding and is so emotionally attached to you, why did he marry his wife and have children with her? Why can't you accept that he prefers her to you, and chose her over you?

I already gave my guess as to why he married her. I don't care that he prefers being married to her instead of me - he wants kids and has them with her and I don't want kids. So he and I being married wouldn't work.

You were like 19 or 20 when he got married to her, weren't you? 30 something men know that no 19/20 (24) year old KNOWS if they want children or not because late teens/early 20's are barely out of childhood themselves. He married this woman because he wanted HER. He sleeps with YOU because you let him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Questions for OP:

1. Are you a sex addict?
2. Were you abused or neglected as a child?
3. Have you ever had an eating disorder?
4. Do you have Aspergers?
5. Are you addicted to anything else? Internet addiction?
6. What is the biggest appeal of this affair? Glamour? Attention? Feeling taken care of?

1. no. 2. no. 3. no. 4. no. 5. no. 6. probably not having to worry about money and not having to have some hugely stressful job to maintain a lifestyle I have no time to appreciate like some friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What breed is your dog?

Cockapoo.

I bet he does do a lot of cute stuff? Did you have one growing up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Questions for OP:

1. Are you a sex addict?
2. Were you abused or neglected as a child?
3. Have you ever had an eating disorder?
4. Do you have Aspergers?
5. Are you addicted to anything else? Internet addiction?
6. What is the biggest appeal of this affair? Glamour? Attention? Feeling taken care of?

1. no. 2. no. 3. no. 4. no. 5. no. 6. probably not having to worry about money and not having to have some hugely stressful job to maintain a lifestyle I have no time to appreciate like some friends.

#6 is pretty compelling

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Anonymous wrote:I was interested in this thread and asked OP a bunch of questions earlier that she didn't answer. I'm still not sure she's real, but if she is, I have to say that I no longer care. Clearly there's something "off" about her - drugs, personality disorder, something like that - because of the detached nature of her answers and her sociopathic view of relationships. Probably why the guy likes her - she's emotionally simple.

The only question I'd really like her to answer, which I know she won't because it gets at the heart of the whole issue, is:

If he was with you before the wedding and is so emotionally attached to you, why did he marry his wife and have children with her? Why can't you accept that he prefers her to you, and chose her over you?

I already gave my guess as to why he married her. I don't care that he prefers being married to her instead of me - he wants kids and has them with her and I don't want kids. So he and I being married wouldn't work.

You were like 19 or 20 when he got married to her, weren't you? 30 something men know that no 19/20 (24) year old KNOWS if they want children or not because late teens/early 20's are barely out of childhood themselves. He married this woman because he wanted HER. He sleeps with YOU because you let him.

Plenty of child-free women on this forum have stated they knew at that age they didn't want kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A good looking man with pockets stuffed full of cash having to PAY a woman for sex....LOL.

He's not paying for sex. He's paying for a relationship dynamic that is different from what he has at home. I am the NP from a few pages back who was in a near-identical relationship. The guy I was with enjoyed keeping his wife on a tight leash financially while spending crazy amounts of money on me. Money was something they fought about and, fortunately for him, he was the one who earned it all so he could use it control her. We didn't have that dynamic in our relationship and he enjoyed doing things for me that were completely over-the-top. As another PP pointed out, guys like this do whatever the fuck they want. Their choices probably won't make sense to you, because you aren't that kind of person.

That's sick. There's no way I would want to associate with a guy like that. That's abusive behavior.

I didn't really put it together till years into our relationship. She still had plenty of nice things, a big house, help, vacations, etc., but he would use all of that as leverage against her. If she wanted to know where he was going or questioned him about something, she was an ungrateful bitch who needed to spend less time questioning him and more time trying to make him happy. Eventually he began to treat me the same way. The whole situation was gross, but I will never be with an emotionally abusive person again in the future. As far as I know, the wife is still trading her soul for horses and St. John suits. There's nothing quite like his and her STD testing before your 25th anniversary trip to Nevis!