I don't love my husband and don't think I ever did

[Anonymous]

My husband and I have two children together. The youngest is 4 months. I do not feel like I love my husband anymore. Not sure if I ever did. We had happy moments but nothing that swept me off of my feet. We married, had children, have stable jobs, and blah blah blah. We did what we were supposed to do. However, something is missing. There is no spark. There is no flame. What do I do if there was never a flame? I rather spend time with the kids than with him. Do not get me wrong though... He is a good guy. Not mean, a good provider, and all that good stuff. What am I missing that I desire? I have no post partum depression. I love my kids, enjoy going out, being with co workers.... It's just him. I'm angry at myself for not loving him like I should when he has done nothing. We are highly sexual people and have sex all of the time so that is not it. Advice?

[Anonymous]

Love is an action.

Sparks are not love.

Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Love is an action.

Sparks are not love.

Grow up.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Love is an action.

Sparks are not love.

Grow up.

This

Please do so to explain. I should grow up and suck it up because my husband and I do not have a connection?

[Anonymous]

Marriage is a partnership. It is not a romance novel. Connection comes from shared experience.

[Anonymous]

You are

Ocd


You will always be obsessed with imperfection.

[Anonymous]

Yup. Work really really hard to find some shared connections. Date nights. Trips away without kids. A hobby you can do together. Have more sex.

[Anonymous]

Do you think your husband feels the same way?

[Anonymous]

How do you have sex with someone you had kids with yet don't love ? This is foreign to me.

Just a little advice though. True love is more than feelings. The next love you get may take you on the romantic ride of your life but treat you and your kids very very bad.

Be careful what you wish for.

[Anonymous]

sorry, just read you have lots of sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I have two children together. The youngest is 4 months. I do not feel like I love my husband anymore. Not sure if I ever did. We had happy moments but nothing that swept me off of my feet. We married, had children, have stable jobs, and blah blah blah. We did what we were supposed to do. However, something is missing. There is no spark. There is no flame. What do I do if there was never a flame? I rather spend time with the kids than with him. Do not get me wrong though... He is a good guy. Not mean, a good provider, and all that good stuff. What am I missing that I desire? I have no post partum depression. I love my kids, enjoy going out, being with co workers.... It's just him. I'm angry at myself for not loving him like I should when he has done nothing. We are highly sexual people and have sex all of the time so that is not it. Advice?

This is me.

We NEVER had that spark but he is a great guy who treats me so well. I have never wanted to jump his bones. Its not his fault. He is perfect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Love is an action.

Sparks are not love.

Grow up.

This

Please do so to explain. I should grow up and suck it up because my husband and I do not have a connection?

Yes. You married him. He is not a bad guy. Suck it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I have two children together. The youngest is 4 months. I do not feel like I love my husband anymore. Not sure if I ever did. We had happy moments but nothing that swept me off of my feet. We married, had children, have stable jobs, and blah blah blah. We did what we were supposed to do. However, something is missing. There is no spark. There is no flame. What do I do if there was never a flame? I rather spend time with the kids than with him. Do not get me wrong though... He is a good guy. Not mean, a good provider, and all that good stuff. What am I missing that I desire? I have no post partum depression. I love my kids, enjoy going out, being with co workers.... It's just him. I'm angry at myself for not loving him like I should when he has done nothing. We are highly sexual people and have sex all of the time so that is not it. Advice?

This is me.

We NEVER had that spark but he is a great guy who treats me so well. I have never wanted to jump his bones. Its not his fault. He is perfect.

If someone else wanted to jump his bones, would that spark your desire? Just curious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I have two children together. The youngest is 4 months. I do not feel like I love my husband anymore. Not sure if I ever did. We had happy moments but nothing that swept me off of my feet. We married, had children, have stable jobs, and blah blah blah. We did what we were supposed to do. However, something is missing. There is no spark. There is no flame. What do I do if there was never a flame? I rather spend time with the kids than with him. Do not get me wrong though... He is a good guy. Not mean, a good provider, and all that good stuff. What am I missing that I desire? I have no post partum depression. I love my kids, enjoy going out, being with co workers.... It's just him. I'm angry at myself for not loving him like I should when he has done nothing. We are highly sexual people and have sex all of the time so that is not it. Advice?

This is me.

We NEVER had that spark but he is a great guy who treats me so well. I have never wanted to jump his bones. Its not his fault. He is perfect.

Me too unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Love is an action.

Sparks are not love.

Grow up.

This

Please do so to explain. I should grow up and suck it up because my husband and I do not have a connection?

Yes. You married him. He is not a bad guy. Suck it up.

Burying and denying one's true feelings is never the answer.