Frozen Embies, what should I do?
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Anonymous
| Ivf has been a long road for our family, and we have been blessed with two wonderful children. We have 5 PGD normal Embies left l, just sitting on ice. Due to my medical history a 3rd pregnancy would be a huge risk one that I am not willing to take. Our options are to keep paying the storage fee, donate to science, donate to a couple, or thaw. I heave narrowed it down to thaw, or donation to a couple. However I can't imagine knowing that my children's biological sibling are out there, won't cause me some emotional stress. Have you ever thought of donation your embryos, or actually done it? What are your thoughts and feelings? For me I feel that thawing is a bit selfish, like if I can't have them no one will, but what if they are born into a hard life. |
Anonymous
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If I don't use all of my embies, I will throw them away. I am not the kind of person to donate to another couple because I can't bare the fact someone is carrying my baby/raising my child while I am still alive and capable of doing so...and also from a personal religious perspective, I don't think it's permissible. With that being said, I am also not the person of using egg or sperm donor, again for personal and religious beliefs. I don't wish infertility on anyone, as I have my own share, but those are my personal choices.
I thought about donating to science but I am not sure the extent scientists will use the embie, so I decided not to. So all in all, thawing is what I am left with as an option. |
Anonymous
| Ugh on thawing. So squander the potential for life when some poor couple would die to have that baby? Selfish. |
Anonymous
| Very disgusting |
Anonymous
| I'm not in OP's position, but I would think donating to science would be the happy medium. No children will be born from those embryos, but you could be helping people with the knowlege gained from the studies they would be used in. |
Anonymous
| I have four embies left. I was sort of tempted to PGS them and then decide. I would like to have another one--I have IVF twins already. We have talked about putting them up for adoption to give another couple a chance to be parents. I don't view it as my children being out there. Yes, they are my genetic material but another woman would carry them and she would be "Mom" from day one. All this said, I don't think anyone would want to adopt my embies because one of my twins had a rare error in cell division that caused a very, very rare syndrome. It is not genetic but I don't think people will understand it and would elect not to choose the embies. I think this is another reason I might just transfer all of them--not at once!--and perhaps have them PGS tested to make it easier. I don't know if this is helpful. 5 embies is a lot! |
Anonymous
| I would donate to science. If that's not possible then thaw. I feel the same way you do about having bio children that I wouldn't know. |
Anonymous
So then why don't you have a baby a give it to another couple or harvest eggs and donate them? |
Anonymous
Expecting people to procreate and hand over embryos no matter how they feel about it is worse than selfish. The potential for life is all around you. No one is obligated to reproduce to make other people happy. |
Anonymous
| Keep paying $600 a year because you just don't know? That's what we seem to be doing anyway. |
Anonymous
| I am torn too. Don't want to give up for adoption because I am not sure about psychological effects on child. I am leaning towards science, since that helps the process that gave us a family and will help others too. I think most likely they will grow them out in different media or take stem cells. |
Anonymous
| Admitting I know nothing about this. Could a surrogate have the baby for you? |
Anonymous
Not everyone has 40 grand sitting around after doing multiple fertility treatments and having 2 kids in childcare. |
Anonymous
| why are we calling these things "embies" now? is it to make them seem cuter and therefore more human? |
Anonymous
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Kinda like Aspies?
Shudder. |