My son's wife does not work.....
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Anonymous
| Let me start by saying that I do not dislike my daughter-in-law, she has been wonderful for my son and really helped him get his life together. He was in a pretty bad place when they met, but over the last 7 years she has helped him become a completely different person. He is so much more confident now and has found a job that he loves in a field that he excels at, he's happy now. My issue is that she doesn't work. They don't have kids and my son says they don't plan to. She is 27 and he is 34. She seems to be very bright and she's a nice person who seems very capable, I just don't understand why she doesn't work. I know she's had the occasional part time job, and she does volunteer some. She did work when they first met and I think she supported them to begin with. She doesn't appear to have any plans to go back to school. When I talk to my son I can't say ANYTHING negative about her or he gets upset. I guess I am just worried about them long term. I just don't understand how can he be alright with supporting her the rest of her life. This is just a vent. I know there isn't much I can do.....right? |
Anonymous
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She helped him get his life back and stay on track. This sounds like work to me.
Honestly, I'd be more concerned if she has untreated mental health issues, a non-recovering alcoholic or drug abuser, or gambler. Seriously, OP, you could do much worse. |
Anonymous
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This is your son's wife and your son's life.
Please don't be "that" mother-in-law. |
Anonymous
| As long as they're not asking you for money, it's none of your business. And you should never say anything negative about her anyway. Again, none of your business. |
Anonymous
| Why don't they plan to have kids that is weird and she doesn't work |
Anonymous
| This sounds like my BIL and his wife. We don't get it, but it works for them. BIL is a huge slob and has anxiety, and she is basically there to help him manage life. They're happy so far. Not our place to interfere. |
Anonymous
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OP - DCUM is filled with MIL horror posts. Don't go down this slippery slope.
It works for them. |
Anonymous
Op here and I don't know why they don't want kids. I've tried to ask, but all I get is they have thought about it and decided it's not for them. |
Anonymous
Many people have kids because they have decided they want them. How is deciding it's not for them not enough? If only more people had that amount of insight. |
Anonymous
PP with BIL and wife who doesn't work - this is sometimes for the best. Not everyone should have kids. They decided they don't, and honestly, we're a bit relieved to hear it. |
Anonymous
| Your sons will have kids... With their second wife who works. Give it some time. This is a starter marriage. |
Anonymous
OP, maybe they did and have fertility issues. I've known plenty women who haven't wanted to discuss fertility issues with their in-laws. Seriously, OP, you really sound so full a judgement. Maybe your DIL is trying to figure out what to do with her life. Maybe some dark stuff that you don't know about happened in her past. Why not just try being a friend and be supportive. Stop hinting and asking questions. Friends don't have to do this. Accept her for who she is and maybe she'll blossom. |
Anonymous
| This is outside your sphere of influence. You have no say in what she does with her life. |
Anonymous
| myob |
Anonymous
| As long as they are happy, myob. In fact, even if they aren't happy myob. Unless they ask for your input butt out. |