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If you knew then what you know now, would you have married your husband? had kids?
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Anonymous
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I have been married for 7 years. Looking at my husband, I realize he is a nice enough guy, but if I knew then what I know now, I probably would not have married him. He has some grose habits: burps, farts and clears his throat all the time. He is also passive about so many things and i just wish for once he would just take the initiative and do something (plan our next vacation, renovate house, etc. - things he talks about but never moves forward.).
I also realize I love being a mom, but would have waited until I was about 37 to have a child. And, I probably would have stuck with one. I am content with my life, but wonder what my other life would have been like if I made different decisions. This is just for fun!!! I hope it doens't turn into a flaming war! |
Anonymous
| Absolutely f'ing not! |
Anonymous
| I don't know unless I knew what the alternative scenario was. The odds are good that my answer would be no, but if that meant never having my kids, then I could not pick that alternative. |
Anonymous
| If you waited longer to start a family, you'd be so much more tired. How old are your children? |
Anonymous
Yes, but if she had waited longer, she might have more economic resources (hers or hubby's). more life wisdom, more patience, or more friends looking to get rid of hand-me-downs. This is about her feelings. Let's try to avoid an older/younger mom war. |
Anonymous
| No. |
Anonymous
| Yes, I would have followed the same path...DH and I have been married for 9 years and DD was born 2 years ago. No regrets about getting married in my mid 20s to DH and waiting until our early 30s to have DD. |
Anonymous
| Yes. Because for all the little quirks he has that drive me crazy, deep down, he's a really good husband, a really great dad, and he keeps me grounded. |
Anonymous
| Yes, only because I got my daughter out of the union but if I could have had her without him, I sure would have!!! |
Anonymous
| I've been with DH for 8 years, 3 of those married. I would marry him again in a heartbeat. The more I know him the more I realize my life is so much better with him in it. |
Anonymous
We're on a discussion board. More economic resources for more nannies to raise our children? Not such a good argument, imo. And I do invite you to share your respectful feelings as well. |
Anonymous
I love you. How fortunate your children are. Blessings. |
Anonymous
Doesn't mean more resources to pay nannies. Hubby could have gone from, oh, making $50K (as mine did when I married him ) to over $200K (as he was making when we had our kids). Nicer house, all organic food, private schools, many trips to visit grandparents and take lots of family vacations - no nanny required, but money is. More money doesn't mean you hire a nanny. |
Anonymous
| I love my husband and no regrets on having kids. My biggest regret that i probably a bit too desperate to get married and i skipped some of the tougher discussions that we are now paying the price for. We both should have dug deeper on how we were going to raise our kids and have a family before we married. |
Anonymous
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I met my DH when I was 20, married at 26 and had my first child at 28. I absolutely would do it over again and I feel so grateful that I met my DH so young in life, just means we get that much more time together. Together now for 12 years.
The only thing I would do over, is probably get married 2 years earlier and have my first 2 years earlier. We want 3 children and our 3rd won't come until our mid 30s (if we are so blessed again) and the second was hard to conceive. I'm very much so looking forward to retirement and more time for each other. Some people as they grow up, they grow apart, but we really have grown together. |