Who here married their best friend?

[Anonymous]

How is the marriage so far?

[Anonymous]

Well, we got naked the first time we hung out, but we quickly became "best friends". We still are, and we are still naked a lot. Over ten years and three kids later.

[Anonymous]

I married one of my best friends.

I think it helps that we had that foundation of friendship before things became romantic.

I don't mean to imply that we don't have challenges because we do.

[Anonymous]

I did! We met at 15 and instantly became friends. Started dating at 16 but were still best friends. We did everything together. People used to comment that they never saw one of us without the other. We got married our senior years in college. 29 years and five grown kids later we are still best friends. There is no one I would rather spend time with.

[Anonymous]

I thought I did. We are getting divorce and he has decided I am the bitter enemy.

My close friend married her best friend. They were friends for a year before they dated. They also dated for a few years before they got married. Everyone in their lives knew they would end up married, so I would scoff at the fact that they weren't engaged yet. Now that I'm going through a divorce, I will ask her for all the advice and wisdom once I start dating again!

BTW, me and my x didn't start out as friends. We started out as dating. I really think that has something to do with it, and that friendship is truly the best foundation for a lasting marriage. That, and a lot lot lot lot of hard work that both people are willing to put in.

[Anonymous]

I did. It's 7 years this weekend, with 2 kids. We've become even closer best friends after marriage, and it has made all the difference. Those newborn years can be awful, but the fact that DH was my best friend made me less likely to fight and get mad at him. I always knew he was trying his best, as was I.

[Anonymous]

DH and I met at 14, married at 35. 10 years into marriage and we're currently separated. Except we love to be together, to hang out, to talk. Our separation is turning more into finding our way back to each other. It's really the underlying friendship that keeps us connected. And while we would both probably walk away from the marriage, neither of us seem to be willing to give up the friendship. Time will tell how this ends up.

[Anonymous]

Yep. We met at work and clicked, but didn't date for a year or so. Then we dated for 2 years, got engaged, got married and eventually had a child. We've had ups and downs and life threw us some curveballs, but the basis of friendship has really helped us weather the rough times. Together for 15 years now, married for 13. I wouldn't call us blissful or anything like that, but we are a very strong team and equal partners.

[Anonymous]

My DH and I were platonic friends for a full year and a half before he asked me out on a date. I didn't want to date him because I loved his friendship so much (and we were in law school and really needed a friend more than I needed a boyfriend). He convinced me to try "dating" since we were so happy together. Then, we dated for 5 years before marriage (we met young) -- during our friend/dating time life took us through 4 cities, including a year long distance. By the time we married I figured we'd be together forever.

It's been challenging raising kids -- but we're coming up on our 25th wedding anniversary and over 31 years of knowing each other (30 of being romantically together). Still my best friend. Still my support. We're friends first and formost.

My parents were the same way -- met young. Now they're in their 80s and they are the cutest little old couple that completes each other's sentences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, we got naked the first time we hung out, but we quickly became "best friends". We still are, and we are still naked a lot. Over ten years and three kids later.

I think the original question is about people who are close friends before they got romantically involved.

I'm not in the situation but a friend is. She basically married a guy she enjoyed being with and was good on paper. They have three kids and a relatively happy that they don't have much of a sexual relationship. She's not particularly passionate person so I think it works out fine for them.

[Anonymous]

I wasn't really friend with my fiancé first but he's my best friend in the world now. I don't think I'd want to marry a guy who was completely platonic first. I did that in my first marriage and we turned into friendly roommates with no sexual spark. I need that spark. Sadly I think many women just want a guy that might be a good dad and treats them okay and they settle for a "best friend" and then there's no sexual attraction at ALL, and the marriage becomes a sinking ship.

[Anonymous]

I was thunderstruck in the 10th grade by slightly chubby, sullen chick who smoked cigarettes and cursed too much.

It's been slightly more than 25 years and she is absolutely the love of my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I was thunderstruck in the 10th grade by slightly chubby, sullen chick who smoked cigarettes and cursed too much.

It's been slightly more than 25 years and she is absolutely the love of my life.

Forgot to add: She was friends with me, I never wanted to be friends with her.

[Anonymous]

39 years together today. I cannot imagine my life with anyone else. He feels the same. It's been quite a ride. More good than bad. Laughter makes it work.

[Anonymous]

Yes! We were friends for over 10 years but we're never single at the same time. We were always each other's "one who got away." Been married now for 10 years and have three kids. Still have a great friendship and sex life. He's the absolute best!!