Who here married their best friend?

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Anonymous wrote:I find the phrase "marrying my best friend" gag inducing. It is right there along with "the love of my live" and the "the right one."

Marriage is not a friendship it is a committed relationship which has some elements of friendship, but also elements of intimacy that are well beyond that of a friendship.

I feel sorry for people who think they are married to their best friend. It sounds a little creepy to me.

I'm sorry that your relationship with your spouse isn't as deep. DH is my best friend and the love of my life. I realize as I get older how rare this truly is, even amongst my friends who are still in love with their spouses.

You just made her gag again (me too).

Me three. Why can't people love their spouses and be happy in their marriage. It is a spouse, not a friend; it is a marriage, not a friendship. Best friend, love of my life, and similar phrases sound as if they were ripped from the pages of a bodice ripper or a soap opera. I guess my question is if your marriage ends, did you lose a friend or a spouse. Did you end a marriage or a friendship. Marriage is at a higher level than friendship, and if you wish to use cutesy names to describe your marriage, so be it.

My spouse is my friend. I'm not getting what is so hard to understand about that or so offensive?
If our marriage ended for whatever reason I would lose both.

Well, the whole idea that your marriage and your love is better than someone else's is really nauseating.

That's your own insecurity and projection talking. I'm married to my best friend doesn't mean our love is better.

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Anonymous wrote:I find the phrase "marrying my best friend" gag inducing. It is right there along with "the love of my live" and the "the right one."

Marriage is not a friendship it is a committed relationship which has some elements of friendship, but also elements of intimacy that are well beyond that of a friendship.

I feel sorry for people who think they are married to their best friend. It sounds a little creepy to me.

I'm sorry that your relationship with your spouse isn't as deep. DH is my best friend and the love of my life. I realize as I get older how rare this truly is, even amongst my friends who are still in love with their spouses.

You just made her gag again (me too).

Me three. Why can't people love their spouses and be happy in their marriage. It is a spouse, not a friend; it is a marriage, not a friendship. Best friend, love of my life, and similar phrases sound as if they were ripped from the pages of a bodice ripper or a soap opera. I guess my question is if your marriage ends, did you lose a friend or a spouse. Did you end a marriage or a friendship. Marriage is at a higher level than friendship, and if you wish to use cutesy names to describe your marriage, so be it.

My spouse is my friend. I'm not getting what is so hard to understand about that or so offensive?
If our marriage ended for whatever reason I would lose both.

Well, the whole idea that your marriage and your love is better than someone else's is really nauseating.

That - that's offensive.
And there are many challenges in a long life together. If you haven't had any ' face down flat on the floor I don't think I'll get up for a few days ' challenges as of yet where your live isn't sickeningly sweet and close I would say that you haven't much lived yet.

He is my best friend. My sweetheart. I honestly love him so much it hurts.
I hate to imagine my life without him, and I came very close to knowing what that's like, so there's that as far as challenges go.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find the phrase "marrying my best friend" gag inducing. It is right there along with "the love of my live" and the "the right one."

Marriage is not a friendship it is a committed relationship which has some elements of friendship, but also elements of intimacy that are well beyond that of a friendship.

I feel sorry for people who think they are married to their best friend. It sounds a little creepy to me.

I'm sorry that your relationship with your spouse isn't as deep. DH is my best friend and the love of my life. I realize as I get older how rare this truly is, even amongst my friends who are still in love with their spouses.

You just made her gag again (me too).

Me three. Why can't people love their spouses and be happy in their marriage. It is a spouse, not a friend; it is a marriage, not a friendship. Best friend, love of my life, and similar phrases sound as if they were ripped from the pages of a bodice ripper or a soap opera. I guess my question is if your marriage ends, did you lose a friend or a spouse. Did you end a marriage or a friendship. Marriage is at a higher level than friendship, and if you wish to use cutesy names to describe your marriage, so be it.

My spouse is my friend. I'm not getting what is so hard to understand about that or so offensive?
If our marriage ended for whatever reason I would lose both.

Well, the whole idea that your marriage and your love is better than someone else's is really nauseating.

That - that's offensive.
And there are many challenges in a long life together. If you haven't had any ' face down flat on the floor I don't think I'll get up for a few days ' challenges as of yet where your live isn't sickeningly sweet and close I would say that you haven't much lived yet.

I'm sorry you're hurting right now PP and mybe you're going through a rough patch in your marriage, and I honestly hope things work out and you feel better. But whatever struggles you are having doesn't give you the right to be nasty to others and crap on their feelings and marriages to make you feel better.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find the phrase "marrying my best friend" gag inducing. It is right there along with "the love of my live" and the "the right one."

Marriage is not a friendship it is a committed relationship which has some elements of friendship, but also elements of intimacy that are well beyond that of a friendship.

I feel sorry for people who think they are married to their best friend. It sounds a little creepy to me.

I'm sorry that your relationship with your spouse isn't as deep. DH is my best friend and the love of my life. I realize as I get older how rare this truly is, even amongst my friends who are still in love with their spouses.

You just made her gag again (me too).

Me three. Why can't people love their spouses and be happy in their marriage. It is a spouse, not a friend; it is a marriage, not a friendship. Best friend, love of my life, and similar phrases sound as if they were ripped from the pages of a bodice ripper or a soap opera. I guess my question is if your marriage ends, did you lose a friend or a spouse. Did you end a marriage or a friendship. Marriage is at a higher level than friendship, and if you wish to use cutesy names to describe your marriage, so be it.

My spouse is my friend. I'm not getting what is so hard to understand about that or so offensive?
If our marriage ended for whatever reason I would lose both.

Well, the whole idea that your marriage and your love is better than someone else's is really nauseating.

That's your own insecurity and projection talking. I'm married to my best friend doesn't mean our love is better.

If you are married to your best friend, does that mean you can't have a best friend?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find the phrase "marrying my best friend" gag inducing. It is right there along with "the love of my live" and the "the right one."

Marriage is not a friendship it is a committed relationship which has some elements of friendship, but also elements of intimacy that are well beyond that of a friendship.

I feel sorry for people who think they are married to their best friend. It sounds a little creepy to me.

I'm sorry that your relationship with your spouse isn't as deep. DH is my best friend and the love of my life. I realize as I get older how rare this truly is, even amongst my friends who are still in love with their spouses.

You just made her gag again (me too).

Me three. Why can't people love their spouses and be happy in their marriage. It is a spouse, not a friend; it is a marriage, not a friendship. Best friend, love of my life, and similar phrases sound as if they were ripped from the pages of a bodice ripper or a soap opera. I guess my question is if your marriage ends, did you lose a friend or a spouse. Did you end a marriage or a friendship. Marriage is at a higher level than friendship, and if you wish to use cutesy names to describe your marriage, so be it.

My spouse is my friend. I'm not getting what is so hard to understand about that or so offensive?
If our marriage ended for whatever reason I would lose both.

Well, the whole idea that your marriage and your love is better than someone else's is really nauseating.

That's your own insecurity and projection talking. I'm married to my best friend doesn't mean our love is better.

If you are married to your best friend, does that mean you can't have a best friend?

I happen to think you can have more than one best friend.

[Anonymous]

I always felt the idea of marrying your best friend was stupid and decidedly unsexy.

But then I got married, and I realized that your spouse is the person you see the most and have the most intimate interactions with. It's much better that they be your true friend! Someone who encourages you and is kind to you and with whom you have fun when possible. I was pleasantly surprised to discover that this kind of relationship didn't hamper our sex life but rather boosted it.

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Anonymous wrote:I find the phrase "marrying my best friend" gag inducing. It is right there along with "the love of my live" and the "the right one."

Marriage is not a friendship it is a committed relationship which has some elements of friendship, but also elements of intimacy that are well beyond that of a friendship.

I feel sorry for people who think they are married to their best friend. It sounds a little creepy to me.

I'm sorry that your relationship with your spouse isn't as deep. DH is my best friend and the love of my life. I realize as I get older how rare this truly is, even amongst my friends who are still in love with their spouses.

You just made her gag again (me too).

Me three. Why can't people love their spouses and be happy in their marriage. It is a spouse, not a friend; it is a marriage, not a friendship. Best friend, love of my life, and similar phrases sound as if they were ripped from the pages of a bodice ripper or a soap opera. I guess my question is if your marriage ends, did you lose a friend or a spouse. Did you end a marriage or a friendship. Marriage is at a higher level than friendship, and if you wish to use cutesy names to describe your marriage, so be it.

My spouse is my friend. I'm not getting what is so hard to understand about that or so offensive?
If our marriage ended for whatever reason I would lose both.

Well, the whole idea that your marriage and your love is better than someone else's is really nauseating.

That - that's offensive.
And there are many challenges in a long life together. If you haven't had any ' face down flat on the floor I don't think I'll get up for a few days ' challenges as of yet where your live isn't sickeningly sweet and close I would say that you haven't much lived yet.

I'm sorry you're hurting right now PP and mybe you're going through a rough patch in your marriage, and I honestly hope things work out and you feel better. But whatever struggles you are having doesn't give you the right to be nasty to others and crap on their feelings and marriages to make you feel better.

Um, no, no rough patch, no hurting - you're just an idiot!

[Anonymous]

I think people are missing the point.

The question isn't "is your spouse your best friend NOW?"

It's "did you marry someone who was your closest friend before you got romantically involved?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think people are missing the point.

The question isn't "is your spouse your best friend NOW?"

It's "did you marry someone who was your closest friend before you got romantically involved?"

Oh. Well, then hell no. In fact, either way, hell no.

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Anonymous wrote:I find the phrase "marrying my best friend" gag inducing. It is right there along with "the love of my live" and the "the right one."

Marriage is not a friendship it is a committed relationship which has some elements of friendship, but also elements of intimacy that are well beyond that of a friendship.

I feel sorry for people who think they are married to their best friend. It sounds a little creepy to me.

I'm sorry that your relationship with your spouse isn't as deep. DH is my best friend and the love of my life. I realize as I get older how rare this truly is, even amongst my friends who are still in love with their spouses.

You just made her gag again (me too).

Me three. Why can't people love their spouses and be happy in their marriage. It is a spouse, not a friend; it is a marriage, not a friendship. Best friend, love of my life, and similar phrases sound as if they were ripped from the pages of a bodice ripper or a soap opera. I guess my question is if your marriage ends, did you lose a friend or a spouse. Did you end a marriage or a friendship. Marriage is at a higher level than friendship, and if you wish to use cutesy names to describe your marriage, so be it.

My spouse is my friend. I'm not getting what is so hard to understand about that or so offensive?
If our marriage ended for whatever reason I would lose both.

Well, the whole idea that your marriage and your love is better than someone else's is really nauseating.

That - that's offensive.
And there are many challenges in a long life together. If you haven't had any ' face down flat on the floor I don't think I'll get up for a few days ' challenges as of yet where your live isn't sickeningly sweet and close I would say that you haven't much lived yet.

I'm sorry you're hurting right now PP and mybe you're going through a rough patch in your marriage, and I honestly hope things work out and you feel better. But whatever struggles you are having doesn't give you the right to be nasty to others and crap on their feelings and marriages to make you feel better.

Um, no, no rough patch, no hurting - you're just an idiot!

So you are just a nasty and bitter cow for no reason. That makes sense. Enjoy your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find the phrase "marrying my best friend" gag inducing. It is right there along with "the love of my live" and the "the right one."

Marriage is not a friendship it is a committed relationship which has some elements of friendship, but also elements of intimacy that are well beyond that of a friendship.

I feel sorry for people who think they are married to their best friend. It sounds a little creepy to me.

You need some more world experience. You've never met anyone in a marriage with a person who isn't really a friend? This is very common.

[Anonymous]

Posted upthread. I am married to my best friend. Of course, our love and marriage go beyond that - way further than 'best friend'.

I have friends outside of marriage, but no one who rises to the level of my spouse, at this time in my life.

I wish I had a best friend outside of marriage, in addition to my strong marriage. They wouldn't contradict each other.

Not everyone has a best friend at all, in marriage or outside of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Posted upthread. I am married to my best friend. Of course, our love and marriage go beyond that - way further than 'best friend'.

I have friends outside of marriage, but no one who rises to the level of my spouse, at this time in my life.

I wish I had a best friend outside of marriage, in addition to my strong marriage. They wouldn't contradict each other.

Not everyone has a best friend at all, in marriage or outside of it.

My husband has this - a best friend outside of marriage. I tried to push him into this as he doesn't take too much time to have friends outside of his family
and I'm very happy for him.
I have a gaggle of great friends which I love. I guess I have a best friend too but I don't get to see her as much as I would like.

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Anonymous wrote:I find the phrase "marrying my best friend" gag inducing. It is right there along with "the love of my live" and the "the right one."

Marriage is not a friendship it is a committed relationship which has some elements of friendship, but also elements of intimacy that are well beyond that of a friendship.

I feel sorry for people who think they are married to their best friend. It sounds a little creepy to me.

I'm sorry that your relationship with your spouse isn't as deep. DH is my best friend and the love of my life. I realize as I get older how rare this truly is, even amongst my friends who are still in love with their spouses.

You just made her gag again (me too).

Me three. Why can't people love their spouses and be happy in their marriage. It is a spouse, not a friend; it is a marriage, not a friendship. Best friend, love of my life, and similar phrases sound as if they were ripped from the pages of a bodice ripper or a soap opera. I guess my question is if your marriage ends, did you lose a friend or a spouse. Did you end a marriage or a friendship. Marriage is at a higher level than friendship, and if you wish to use cutesy names to describe your marriage, so be it.

My spouse is my friend. I'm not getting what is so hard to understand about that or so offensive?
If our marriage ended for whatever reason I would lose both.

Well, the whole idea that your marriage and your love is better than someone else's is really nauseating.

That - that's offensive.
And there are many challenges in a long life together. If you haven't had any ' face down flat on the floor I don't think I'll get up for a few days ' challenges as of yet where your live isn't sickeningly sweet and close I would say that you haven't much lived yet.

I'm sorry you're hurting right now PP and mybe you're going through a rough patch in your marriage, and I honestly hope things work out and you feel better. But whatever struggles you are having doesn't give you the right to be nasty to others and crap on their feelings and marriages to make you feel better.

Um, no, no rough patch, no hurting - you're just an idiot!

Like this, right? Though ironically he lost his spouse so there's no marriage to offer comfort, but still, challenging times.
http://www.msn.com/en-us/movies/celebrity/patton-oswalts-emotional-post-about-wife-michelle-mcnamaras-death-102-days-at-the-mercy-of-grief-and-loss-feels-like-102-years/ar-BBv8Z1t?li=BBnbfcL


PP who thinks that her marriage is the best thing compared to everyone else's - are you really married or is this a high school relationship?
Or, maybe married for two years? How old are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think people are missing the point.

The question isn't "is your spouse your best friend NOW?"

It's "did you marry someone who was your closest friend before you got romantically involved?"

I don't think that is the q actually.

I am married to my best friend. He was my best friend when I married him. He wasn't my best friend when I started dating him. I've never had a platonic, male best friend.