Who here married their best friend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I met at 14, married at 35. 10 years into marriage and we're currently separated. Except we love to be together, to hang out, to talk. Our separation is turning more into finding our way back to each other. It's really the underlying friendship that keeps us connected. And while we would both probably walk away from the marriage, neither of us seem to be willing to give up the friendship. Time will tell how this ends up.

I hope this is me. Met at 18, started dating at the end of college, found our way to permanently being in the same city and got more serious over time, married at 31, now 40. DH had an affair and we are now separated. Even though the separation is unquestionably the right thing right now, I so desperately miss my best friend.

[Anonymous]

Yes, he's my best friend. Marriage is pretty strong, 12 years in.

[Anonymous]

I find the phrase "marrying my best friend" gag inducing. It is right there along with "the love of my live" and the "the right one."

Marriage is not a friendship it is a committed relationship which has some elements of friendship, but also elements of intimacy that are well beyond that of a friendship.

I feel sorry for people who think they are married to their best friend. It sounds a little creepy to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find the phrase "marrying my best friend" gag inducing. It is right there along with "the love of my live" and the "the right one."

Marriage is not a friendship it is a committed relationship which has some elements of friendship, but also elements of intimacy that are well beyond that of a friendship.

I feel sorry for people who think they are married to their best friend. It sounds a little creepy to me.

You are stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find the phrase "marrying my best friend" gag inducing. It is right there along with "the love of my live" and the "the right one."

Marriage is not a friendship it is a committed relationship which has some elements of friendship, but also elements of intimacy that are well beyond that of a friendship.

I feel sorry for people who think they are married to their best friend. It sounds a little creepy to me.

What are you taliking about? Do you even understand the question posted?

[Anonymous]

We met and had a mind-blowing whirlwind romantic/sexual summer together. Then he moved across the country for work and we broke up.

But for a year we stayed in regular phone contact and developed a wonderful, respectful friendship. It was great to build that foundation, and we are still best friends no question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find the phrase "marrying my best friend" gag inducing. It is right there along with "the love of my live" and the "the right one."

Marriage is not a friendship it is a committed relationship which has some elements of friendship, but also elements of intimacy that are well beyond that of a friendship.

I feel sorry for people who think they are married to their best friend. It sounds a little creepy to me.

I'm sorry that your relationship with your spouse isn't as deep. DH is my best friend and the love of my life. I realize as I get older how rare this truly is, even amongst my friends who are still in love with their spouses.

[Anonymous]

It's good.
We were best buds in college doing things like sports, camping trips, group outings, just lots of stuff.
5 years no dating. Never even really touched him I don't think.
Realized I couldn't live without him. Had a date (sex on first date). Married within a year.
It's been 26 years? I'd say for some of those years we were probably strangers in the haze of kids but it's back to being very good and fun now.
I mean, some of our friends have died by now, many are bitterly divorced or sick. Why not enjoy what time we have left by doing fun things together like going out, gym together, fun trips, ridiculing Donald Trump, that kind of thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find the phrase "marrying my best friend" gag inducing. It is right there along with "the love of my live" and the "the right one."

Marriage is not a friendship it is a committed relationship which has some elements of friendship, but also elements of intimacy that are well beyond that of a friendship.

I feel sorry for people who think they are married to their best friend. It sounds a little creepy to me.

I'm sorry that your relationship with your spouse isn't as deep. DH is my best friend and the love of my life. I realize as I get older how rare this truly is, even amongst my friends who are still in love with their spouses.

You just made her gag again (me too).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I was thunderstruck in the 10th grade by slightly chubby, sullen chick who smoked cigarettes and cursed too much.

It's been slightly more than 25 years and she is absolutely the love of my life.

Cool.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find the phrase "marrying my best friend" gag inducing. It is right there along with "the love of my live" and the "the right one."

Marriage is not a friendship it is a committed relationship which has some elements of friendship, but also elements of intimacy that are well beyond that of a friendship.

I feel sorry for people who think they are married to their best friend. It sounds a little creepy to me.

I'm sorry that your relationship with your spouse isn't as deep. DH is my best friend and the love of my life. I realize as I get older how rare this truly is, even amongst my friends who are still in love with their spouses.

You just made her gag again (me too).

Me three. Why can't people love their spouses and be happy in their marriage. It is a spouse, not a friend; it is a marriage, not a friendship. Best friend, love of my life, and similar phrases sound as if they were ripped from the pages of a bodice ripper or a soap opera. I guess my question is if your marriage ends, did you lose a friend or a spouse. Did you end a marriage or a friendship. Marriage is at a higher level than friendship, and if you wish to use cutesy names to describe your marriage, so be it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find the phrase "marrying my best friend" gag inducing. It is right there along with "the love of my live" and the "the right one."

Marriage is not a friendship it is a committed relationship which has some elements of friendship, but also elements of intimacy that are well beyond that of a friendship.

I feel sorry for people who think they are married to their best friend. It sounds a little creepy to me.

I'm sorry that your relationship with your spouse isn't as deep. DH is my best friend and the love of my life. I realize as I get older how rare this truly is, even amongst my friends who are still in love with their spouses.

You just made her gag again (me too).

Me three. Why can't people love their spouses and be happy in their marriage. It is a spouse, not a friend; it is a marriage, not a friendship. Best friend, love of my life, and similar phrases sound as if they were ripped from the pages of a bodice ripper or a soap opera. I guess my question is if your marriage ends, did you lose a friend or a spouse. Did you end a marriage or a friendship. Marriage is at a higher level than friendship, and if you wish to use cutesy names to describe your marriage, so be it.

My spouse is my friend. I'm not getting what is so hard to understand about that or so offensive?
If our marriage ended for whatever reason I would lose both.

[Anonymous]

I did! We met at 18 and married at 30. 12 years (of marriage) and three great kids later and he's still my best friend (though I have two girlfriends that I also refer to this way). For us it's helped that we have so many common interests. wanting to do the same things on weekends and evenings- and now including our kids in those things, has kept me crazy in love with him. He's a great guy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find the phrase "marrying my best friend" gag inducing. It is right there along with "the love of my live" and the "the right one."

Marriage is not a friendship it is a committed relationship which has some elements of friendship, but also elements of intimacy that are well beyond that of a friendship.

I feel sorry for people who think they are married to their best friend. It sounds a little creepy to me.

I'm sorry that your relationship with your spouse isn't as deep. DH is my best friend and the love of my life. I realize as I get older how rare this truly is, even amongst my friends who are still in love with their spouses.

You just made her gag again (me too).

Me three. Why can't people love their spouses and be happy in their marriage. It is a spouse, not a friend; it is a marriage, not a friendship. Best friend, love of my life, and similar phrases sound as if they were ripped from the pages of a bodice ripper or a soap opera. I guess my question is if your marriage ends, did you lose a friend or a spouse. Did you end a marriage or a friendship. Marriage is at a higher level than friendship, and if you wish to use cutesy names to describe your marriage, so be it.

My spouse is my friend. I'm not getting what is so hard to understand about that or so offensive?
If our marriage ended for whatever reason I would lose both.

Well, the whole idea that your marriage and your love is better than someone else's is really nauseating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find the phrase "marrying my best friend" gag inducing. It is right there along with "the love of my live" and the "the right one."

Marriage is not a friendship it is a committed relationship which has some elements of friendship, but also elements of intimacy that are well beyond that of a friendship.

I feel sorry for people who think they are married to their best friend. It sounds a little creepy to me.

I'm sorry that your relationship with your spouse isn't as deep. DH is my best friend and the love of my life. I realize as I get older how rare this truly is, even amongst my friends who are still in love with their spouses.

You just made her gag again (me too).

Me three. Why can't people love their spouses and be happy in their marriage. It is a spouse, not a friend; it is a marriage, not a friendship. Best friend, love of my life, and similar phrases sound as if they were ripped from the pages of a bodice ripper or a soap opera. I guess my question is if your marriage ends, did you lose a friend or a spouse. Did you end a marriage or a friendship. Marriage is at a higher level than friendship, and if you wish to use cutesy names to describe your marriage, so be it.

My spouse is my friend. I'm not getting what is so hard to understand about that or so offensive?
If our marriage ended for whatever reason I would lose both.

Well, the whole idea that your marriage and your love is better than someone else's is really nauseating.

That - that's offensive.
And there are many challenges in a long life together. If you haven't had any ' face down flat on the floor I don't think I'll get up for a few days ' challenges as of yet where your live isn't sickeningly sweet and close I would say that you haven't much lived yet.