FIL Wants To Be Called Papa
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Anonymous
| Growing up in the Midwest my wife called here parents Amma and Papa. She wants our son to call them that too. I've never heard anyone call a grandfather Papa. I think southerners or people in rural areas may use some variant but not straight Papa. To me it's no different than calling him Dad. It seems incredibly inappropriate and even implies something incestuous between him and his daughter. She doesn't see it. I think that the fact that she called them these things is evidence enough that they are names for parents but she doesn't see it. What's the best way to handle this? We are all together for the week and I feel done after only 24 hours. |
Anonymous
| Sorry. I am from the north and see nothing wrong with it. |
Anonymous
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What do the grandparents wish to be called?
Your son can call his grandparents what ever name is appropriate. PaPa, PopPop, Opa, Grandpa, Granddaddy - I have heard all of these. |
Anonymous
| I would not allow my child to call grandfather "papa". Your spouse must respect that. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
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I grew up in NY and had two grandfathers. I called one Grandpa and one Papa.
I think you're being ridiculous - my "papa" had ten grandchildren and NEVER would have done anything incestuous. The nine other grandchildren all lived in NY or NJ. Not in the south OR in rural areas. I think you're pulling excuses out of your ass. Why don't you ask your FIL what HE wants to be called by his grandson. |
Anonymous
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Looked it up:
Papa - One's father |
Anonymous
Why must the spouse respect it? Why not have the husband respect what the wife wants? |
Anonymous
Agree. They should BOTH be in agreement. 
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Anonymous
| My husband goes by "Papa" to our children, and every time I try to buy him a "papa" card for Father's Day, all the papa cards are clearly oriented to grandfathers (unless they're in Spanish). I always buy him one anyway, but it's become a joke between us. Anyway, the greeting card industry clearly thinks that "papa" is a name for a grandfather. I called my own grandparents "Nana" and "Papa." |
Anonymous
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My father goes by Papa. I see nothing wrong with it.
Unless your DH is called Papa I don't get why grandfather cannot be Papa. You incentuous comment ir really out of left field OP and just plain odd. Says a lot more about you than it does about your DW. |
Anonymous
| Google it, people, and see what you get. |
Anonymous
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If this is a fight-worthy issue for you, you're going to hate dealing with real problems as a family.
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Anonymous
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Apparently there are 100s of variants on names for grandparents OP. If not Papa, which is on the list, there are plenty of others from which to choose.
http://www.grandparents.com/family-and-relationships/grandparent-names/grandparent-names |
Anonymous
| I'd be creeped out by this. |