FIL Wants To Be Called Papa

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Papa is Dad in French. Not appropriate.

First of all, different pronunciation.

And second of all, in French, the word for fart is "pet." Should we stop having dogs and cats now too?

Well since I am a native French speaker I think I know better than you how to pronounce words in French. It was my opinion that it is not appropriate. Feel free to disagree, but no need for your French lesson.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I think southerners or people in rural areas may use some variant but not straight Papa.

Wrong. But not surprised.

I'm Southern, never heard any Grandpa called Papa, no father called Papa or anything close to that. Mostly it's a northern thing. Or Hispanic.

My great grandparents were Momette and Popette. They were French. My Grandmother was Grandma, my Grandfather was Grandpa, my mother was Chee Chee, my father died very young so my kids never met him. My husband's mother and father were Maw and Paw, his Grandmother was Gram or Poopie, a childhood nickname. His Grandfather was asshole He died before our kids were born. Mean old man. He went by Paw Paw.

Didn't Madonna call for her Papa not to preach ? Northern thing.

Wrong, pp. Very southern family here, and I had grandfathers called Papa (one pronounced "pawpaw" and one pronounced "Papaw." I had a great-grandfather called "Pap." It was very common.

I think OP has issues beyond names. What does it matter what someone is called?

[Anonymous]

Has the OP responded yet? Ten pages in with all this good advice and then radio silence...will you admit you were wrong? Free Papa!

[Anonymous]

As long as the father is called Dad or Daddy, Papa is a fine nickname for Grandpa, as is Pop-Pop. Some people don't like the Grand part.

[Anonymous]

In my Italian American family, grandfathers are called Papa. I had no idea that it was strange until just now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband goes by "Papa" to our children, and every time I try to buy him a "papa" card for Father's Day, all the papa cards are clearly oriented to grandfathers (unless they're in Spanish). I always buy him one anyway, but it's become a joke between us. Anyway, the greeting card industry clearly thinks that "papa" is a name for a grandfather. I called my own grandparents "Nana" and "Papa."

Ha! My kids call my dad Papa and I was delighted to find a Father's Day card with papa on it this year! And yes it was definitely meant for a grandfather. Sorry OP, we live in the DC metro area and I grew up in NY. Papa is not that odd for a grandfather.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Papa is Dad in French. Not appropriate.

First of all, different pronunciation.

And second of all, in French, the word for fart is "pet." Should we stop having dogs and cats now too?

Well since I am a native French speaker I think I know better than you how to pronounce words in French. It was my opinion that it is not appropriate. Feel free to disagree, but no need for your French lesson.

But you don't know the American pronunciation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry. I am from the north and see nothing wrong with it.

+1

Plus 2

[Anonymous]

List of "southern names" for Grandfather just popped into my FB feed - from Southern Living Mag. Papa is on the list!

[Anonymous]

OMG, now 10 pages.... really? Y'all are too much

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG, now 10 pages.... really? Y'all are too much

We're just a self sustaining, perpetual motion machine of scorn at this point.

Well, I guess we've probably always been one.

[Anonymous]

A granddad named "Papa" is incestuous? Do you normally make huge leaps like this, or just this once?

I am a redneck southerner from a rural part of Virginia and called both of my grandfathers "Papa." My sons call one of their grandfathers "Papa."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Growing up in the Midwest my wife called here parents Amma and Papa. She wants our son to call them that too. I've never heard anyone call a grandfather Papa. I think southerners or people in rural areas may use some variant but not straight Papa. To me it's no different than calling him Dad. It seems incredibly inappropriate and even implies something incestuous between him and his daughter. She doesn't see it. I think that the fact that she called them these things is evidence enough that they are names for parents but she doesn't see it. What's the best way to handle this? We are all together for the week and I feel done after only 24 hours.

Who cares, unless YOU want to be called Papa. If you are European you might want that, so speak up.

Otherwise, some grandparents are truly self-centered and you will see this over and over when they visit, or houseguest, or speak to you/your kids. So far a request to be called something is quirky but who cares. Some grandparents can be pretty quirky. At least they don't come over and eat all your/your kids food all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has the OP responded yet? Ten pages in with all this good advice and then radio silence...will you admit you were wrong? Free Papa!

There's no way he can come back. He'd have to answer what sick impulse made him put together this two syllable name with incest.