FIL Wants To Be Called Papa

[Anonymous]

My kids call my dad Papa. Not sure why my brother's kids started that (actually, probably because my parents were too young to be grandparents when my dumbass brother started having kids), but it stuck.

[Anonymous]

My parents are known as Mama and Papa to their grandkids. It's never been a source of confusion or worry for any of us. We have a happy, uncomplicated family and we don't overthink things.

[Anonymous]

My dad is Poppa to DS. My grandfather was Pop Pop and my dad didn't feel right about using the same name so he chose Poppa.

[Anonymous]

My friends dad goes by papa john to his grandkids. I think it's cute & funny, the kids always ask if he has pizza.

[Anonymous]

Your wife should respect your hesitancy and you should reach a compromise.

What about Poppa?

My stepfather was called Poppa by his grandchildren for years before my child was born, and we use the name, too. My husband goes by Papa (pronounced slightly differently), and our child doesn't have problems differentiating the two.

[Anonymous]

My FIL was "pa" and my dad goes by "pops"

[Anonymous]

Yuck. Papa sounds like a dad's name. And since YOU'RE the dad, if you don't like it then your wishes should be respected. I would defer to my husband on this and expect him to defer to me on what names the grandmothers could use.

[Anonymous]

My dad called his maternal grandfather "Dad." Papa seems more normal to me for a grandfather. I don't see any weirdness in this at all, but in the end, you all of course need to agree.

[Anonymous]

I called both sets of GPs Grandma and Grandpa, but several of my childhood friends (in New England) called their GFs Papa, and my own FIL (Midwestern) prefers it as well. Fine by me; DH is Daddy/Dad/Dada to our kids so there's no conflict. I always thought it was odd since to me, Papa means father, but to each his own. In any case, if your DH is Papa in your house, then your FIL needs to pick another nickname.

[Anonymous]

My kids call my FIL Papa and my DH dad. Don't see a problem here.

[Anonymous]

I called one of my grandfathers Papa. I think he originally wanted to be called Pops, but the first grandchild pronounced it Papa and it stuck. I grew up in the Boston area and we were neither rural nor foreigners. I don't recall anyone every suggesting it was weird or even unusual.

[Anonymous]

My children's grandfather is Papa. Cal Ripken, Sr. was Papa to his grandchildren.

[Anonymous]

I've been through similar. "Grandma on maternal side" in my husband's parents' language is "mah mah"- it sounds a bit different if you listen closely because of the tones used, but it's basically "mama". I was annoyed for the first 6 months and hated hearing my MIL call herself what I heard as "mama" to my baby.

Once my baby started talking and calling the dog, milk, birds, toys, string cheese, etc "mama" (her default sound for "thing I want"), it got easier to hear my MIL say "come to Mah Mah". And she has a good relationship with my MIL so I'm happy about that.

[Anonymous]

Papa is not a dad.

Papa is a grandPA.

Papa.comes from the PA in grandpa. Some.kids can't get the "grand" out of their mouth when they are babies and so the go with the two syllable word they can say that sounds a bit like grandpa.

You are being silly OP. Is there a single person you know who refers to their dad as "papa"? The closest you are going to find is Pop, which is usually reserved for old fathers (past middle age).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yuck. Papa sounds like a dad's name. And since YOU'RE the dad, if you don't like it then your wishes should be respected. I would defer to my husband on this and expect him to defer to me on what names the grandmothers could use.

Nobody actually calls their fathers papa but lots of people.call their grandpas papa.