My girlfriend doesn't want to get married

[Anonymous]

I've been with her for 3 years and I would love to pop the question, however she's against the idea of getting married. She was married before and has a child, her ex cheated on her and has turned her off from marriage. I love her and her daughter and would love to be a family and even let our family grow, but she's not having it. She wants another baby, but she doesn't want to get married. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

She does seem to want to be a family with you, since she's mentioned wanting a baby with you. So it's just marriage that's an issue. How important is it to you?

[Anonymous]

Respect her decision. Ideally, you knew well into the three year relationship she did not want to get married. However, I would not start having kids together if she didn't want to make that step.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand people who would have children with someone but not marry them. Make her deal with her issues before your start a family with someone so tied up on the marriage issue.

[Anonymous]

I understand where your girlfriend is coming from. I plan to marry only one time in my life. So I'm being very picky, if it doesn't workout then marriage was not meant for me. Good luck op. I agree about holding off on having children until you are certain she is committed to you and wants a family with you.

[Anonymous]

Personally I would move on.

She's making you pay for another man's mistakes which isn't fair.

She' agreeing to a kid to try and keep you interested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She does seem to want to be a family with you, since she's mentioned wanting a baby with you. So it's just marriage that's an issue. How important is it to you?

Well I personally would like to be married before bringing kids into the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Respect her decision. Ideally, you knew well into the three year relationship she did not want to get married. However, I would not start having kids together if she didn't want to make that step.

Yeah I knew up front she didn't want to remarry, but I also didn't think things would get serious between us. We started off as friends and it turned into more.

[Anonymous]

Talk to her

[Anonymous]

Well in this day and age you dont need to be formally married. Marriage doesnt equal commitment and vice versa. Don't push it, just live your life and things will fall in place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Talk to her

She's aware of how I feel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well in this day and age you dont need to be formally married. Marriage doesnt equal commitment and vice versa. Don't push it, just live your life and things will fall in place.

But I don't want us to become another unwed couple bringing an innocent baby into the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well in this day and age you dont need to be formally married. Marriage doesnt equal commitment and vice versa. Don't push it, just live your life and things will fall in place.

But I don't want us to become another unwed couple bringing an innocent baby into the world.

Then you have your answer don't you.

Now what are you going to do with that information?

[Anonymous]

Just don't have a kid with her . Let her find another sperm donor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well in this day and age you dont need to be formally married. Marriage doesnt equal commitment and vice versa. Don't push it, just live your life and things will fall in place.

But I don't want us to become another unwed couple bringing an innocent baby into the world.

Then you have your answer don't you.

Now what are you going to do with that information?

I don't know, I love her and I really want to be with her.