Walk me through this affair stuff

[Anonymous]

Just curious about this. Why do women enter into affairs with married men? Have a good friend who is in one and she cries over not seeing him all the time. No sh!t he has a family and a wife that will always come before you! She's no dummy in other aspects of her life, but gosh what attracts her to unavailable men?? I just don't understand it.

[Anonymous]

Money?

[Anonymous]

Self-hate.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he brings the ruckus.

[Anonymous]

Insecurity.

[Anonymous]

Something happened in her childhood. Her father treated her like shit. She was sexually assaulted. Something. It could be a number of things but she needs therapy.

Women will claim it's love or they just want to get banged. But they just wish they is the reason. Just like a stripper will also tell you they only do it for the money but the truth is they were most likely abused as kids.

[Anonymous]

You mean single women with married men, not marrieds with marrieds, right?

[Anonymous]

Intimacy issues. It's safer emotionally to fall in love with an unavailable man. You can never really be rejected for yourself because circumstances were always stacked against your relationship.

But, on the other hand, sometimes you meet a guy and he just knocks you off your feet. He's brilliant and attentive and attractive. But he's married.

[Anonymous]

I had an affair with a married man when I was single and I've never been abused and had a normal upbringing. I knew he was married but he would tell me they talked about divorce so it made me feel better. He would come over after work until like 11 at night 4-5 nights a week and find ways to see me or go away on a weekend so I didn't really feel deprived. It was kind of a rebound fling. He had a bad boy thing going on, the sex was great, blah blah blah. It never went anywhere and that's okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had an affair with a married man when I was single and I've never been abused and had a normal upbringing. I knew he was married but he would tell me they talked about divorce so it made me feel better. He would come over after work until like 11 at night 4-5 nights a week and find ways to see me or go away on a weekend so I didn't really feel deprived. It was kind of a rebound fling. He had a bad boy thing going on, the sex was great, blah blah blah. It never went anywhere and that's okay.

Bad boy always = great sex. That's the way of the world.

[Anonymous]

Some are on their way out of their marriages. I'm the "ow", or was. Now that he's divorced I no longer want him. I'm a monster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some are on their way out of their marriages. I'm the "ow", or was. Now that he's divorced I no longer want him. I'm a monster.

See pp. He was the bad boy. Now he isn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You mean single women with married men, not marrieds with marrieds, right?

Yeah, single women with married men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something happened in her childhood. Her father treated her like shit. She was sexually assaulted. Something. It could be a number of things but she needs therapy.

Women will claim it's love or they just want to get banged. But they just wish they is the reason. Just like a stripper will also tell you they only do it for the money but the truth is they were most likely abused as kids.

But she had a great childhood. I think she loves to feel in control of situations and loves the thought of a man risking it all just to be with her. She is also very independent and hates the idea of having to be with someone all the time but still wants good and passionate sex with someone other than a random stranger at a bar. I don't know that's just my assessment. Supposedly, they're "in love" but I guarantee if he left his wife, she would want nothing to do with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something happened in her childhood. Her father treated her like shit. She was sexually assaulted. Something. It could be a number of things but she needs therapy.

Women will claim it's love or they just want to get banged. But they just wish they is the reason. Just like a stripper will also tell you they only do it for the money but the truth is they were most likely abused as kids.

But she had a great childhood. I think she loves to feel in control of situations and loves the thought of a man risking it all just to be with her. She is also very independent and hates the idea of having to be with someone all the time but still wants good and passionate sex with someone other than a random stranger at a bar. I don't know that's just my assessment. Supposedly, they're "in love" but I guarantee if he left his wife, she would want nothing to do with him.

Most people are not self aware. The PP claims she had a "normal" childhood, but I doubt she has spent time talking to a therapist to understand if she really did... She just thinks it was normal. People usually realize it when their spouse spends time with your family and then their like WTF.

You don't know what actually happened in her childhood. Everybody thinks their childhood was "normal" until they explain it to a therapist. Also people lie. Child abuse survivors mostly lie about it or think they "have it under control".

Clearly she has issues. They are not your issues until she puts your boyfriend/husband in her crosshairs.