Walk me through this affair stuff
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Anonymous
| For the serial cheater I know, I think it's a deep insecurity that's only soothed by feeling that someone loves her enough to risk blowing up their life to be with her. She also loves the excitement of a new relationship and wants to keep having that experience of realizing that someone is "the one." |
Anonymous
| Perhaps because they know the playing is much more fun than the real relationship could ever be. |
Anonymous
| Falling in love with a married man who is tied to his marriage is emotionally draining. The sex part can be very enjoyable. |
Anonymous
Actresses are the most insecure people on the planet. Not all but many. Jennifer Aniston has or at least a few years ago had crippling insecurity, Julia Roberts in her youth did too. She seems to have outgrown it. |
Anonymous
Very typical OW she experienced childhood trauma .. At 13 she found her brother's body ... He hanged himself. Also, She thought she had a big nose and big feet, and she was too skinny and not enough breast. She would look in the mirror and say, ‘I don’t understand why people see me as beautiful.... Also from Vanity Fair. |
Anonymous
And what a great catch he was! Major drinking problem and used to hit her. |
Anonymous
Many actors and actress are looking for affirmation from the masses to be able to say to themselves they are worthwhile as a person. |
Anonymous
People have been killed over this type of thing. I don't keep friends who go that route in my circle. She's hurting not just a wife, but a family. |
Anonymous
She wasn't with anything, he did the same to her over time and had many other gf's. The media plays them up but she didn't have much in her life. |
Anonymous
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My DH left his ex-wife for me. No childhood trauma in my life. We've been married for 18 years. I wasnt the typical OW in that we didn't start seeing each other romantically until after he had moved out. There was no long-term, secret affair. But when we met, he was married. And he left her to be with me.
It's normal to want to explain or even vilify the OW, especially if you are the one he left. But it's not particularly helpful. |
Anonymous
If he was living with her and they were together then yes it's called wrong. If he moved out and they were separated....that's another story. |
PaigeKeller
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With all due respect to your post, I think affair in this context is meant to be affair with a happily married man. It sounds like your husband was just a signature away from divorce |
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I think women date married men for many reasons. Some of them do it because of low self esteem and they want to feel like they are winning or that they are better than the wife. Particularly if the wife is really attractive and/or educated.
Some just do it because they like the man. Or they are desperate. Or hate themselves. Or none of those reasons. They just do it because they never think it will come to the surface and they are looking for a carefree relationship. The human psyche is a complicated thing. |
Anonymous
| Because they can. |
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A friend of mine is 45 and is a single mom. She's always been very pretty and is in great shape. She's happy with her single life but doesn't find many men that she's attracted to. The single guys in her age bracket have completely let themselves go and are dating younger women if they haven't. She's waiting for the right person to come along. In the meantime, she LOVES sex and can't live without it.
She's sleeping with a married guy who isn't getting sex at home. Apparently, he's tried to work it out with her for years and has considered leaving. He does love her and he wants his kids to grow up without having to experience step parents. He's not leaving his wife and my friend is fine with that. A few times a week they go to lunch at her house and work out their frustrations on each other. |