Was I a jerk for assuming he just wanted sex?

[Anonymous]

Hi Everyone! I am hoping to find hep with my conundrum. The other weekend I drunkenly hooked up with a close friend of my friends boyfriend. Friday night randevouz turned into a two day nighter. I normally don't just hook up but Im at a time in my life where I just want to try new things. The guy texted yesterday " want to meet up this weekend?" I wrote him back about not wanting to hookup and that it was a drunken mistake. He responded, acting surprised that I was thinking he was only looking for sex this weekend. Now I am super confused. He's acting butt hurt that I am viewing him in that manner. I don't know how to deal with this, or what to say? I thought it was fair assumption given the only other time we hung out was when we had sex.

- Signed,
Confused Woman!

[Anonymous]

Stop interacting with him - he's your friend's boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop interacting with him - he's your friend's boyfriend.

Read carefully. He is a friend of my friends boyfriend. He is not my her boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop interacting with him - he's your friend's boyfriend.

Read carefully. He is a friend of my friends boyfriend. He is not my her boyfriend.

This is an aside, but I hope you don't have children with learning disabilities. I DID read carefully, but I have severe learning disabilities and despite reading things three or four times in some cases, I miss things. Is this how you hope the world treats your child? They don't all grow up to be completely "cured" you know. They still struggle and screw up every day, and it's frustrating and embarrassing enough without people being mean about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop interacting with him - he's your friend's boyfriend.

Read carefully. He is a friend of my friends boyfriend. He is not my her boyfriend.

This is an aside, but I hope you don't have children with learning disabilities. I DID read carefully, but I have severe learning disabilities and despite reading things three or four times in some cases, I miss things. Is this how you hope the world treats your child? They don't all grow up to be completely "cured" you know. They still struggle and screw up every day, and it's frustrating and embarrassing enough without people being mean about it.

Wut?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop interacting with him - he's your friend's boyfriend.

Read carefully. He is a friend of my friends boyfriend. He is not my her boyfriend.

This is an aside, but I hope you don't have children with learning disabilities. I DID read carefully, but I have severe learning disabilities and despite reading things three or four times in some cases, I miss things. Is this how you hope the world treats your child? They don't all grow up to be completely "cured" you know. They still struggle and screw up every day, and it's frustrating and embarrassing enough without people being mean about it.

Stop you troll.

[Anonymous]

Do you want to see him again or not?

You're making this more complicated than it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi Everyone! I am hoping to find hep with my conundrum. The other weekend I drunkenly hooked up with a close friend of my friends boyfriend. Friday night randevouz turned into a two day nighter. I normally don't just hook up but Im at a time in my life where I just want to try new things. The guy texted yesterday " want to meet up this weekend?" I wrote him back about not wanting to hookup and that it was a drunken mistake. He responded, acting surprised that I was thinking he was only looking for sex this weekend. Now I am super confused. He's acting butt hurt that I am viewing him in that manner. I don't know how to deal with this, or what to say? I thought it was fair assumption given the only other time we hung out was when we had sex.

- Signed,
Confused Woman!

Apologize briefly and go out to dinner with him.
Geez - I threw my husband off me when I first met him & he came over slobbering drunk all over me.
At some point my view of him softened. Try it see how it goes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop interacting with him - he's your friend's boyfriend.

Read carefully. He is a friend of my friends boyfriend. He is not my her boyfriend.

This is an aside, but I hope you don't have children with learning disabilities. I DID read carefully, but I have severe learning disabilities and despite reading things three or four times in some cases, I miss things. Is this how you hope the world treats your child? They don't all grow up to be completely "cured" you know. They still struggle and screw up every day, and it's frustrating and embarrassing enough without people being mean about it.

Hon if your learning disabilities are so bad that you can't read accurately maybe you shouldn't be commenting . Reading - yes! Commenting? - no.

[Anonymous]

He sounds like a drama queen. What the hell does he have to be butt hurt about ? He sounds like one of those mra/ red pill BS guys. You don't want that.

I would text thanks but no thanks and block his number.

If for some crazy reason you are interested in him DO NOT APOLOGIZE instead

Text him back ok what am I supposed to think considering the only other time we hang out was when we had sex and " wanna meet up" isn't exactly an invitation to dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He sounds like a drama queen. What the hell does he have to be butt hurt about ? He sounds like one of those mra/ red pill BS guys. You don't want that.

I would text thanks but no thanks and block his number.

If for some crazy reason you are interested in him DO NOT APOLOGIZE instead

Text him back ok what am I supposed to think considering the only other time we hang out was when we had sex and " wanna meet up" isn't exactly an invitation to dinner.

Only a women would ever write the above. Must be nice to be able to sit on your perch and shoot down interested men while they throw themselves at you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop interacting with him - he's your friend's boyfriend.

Read carefully. He is a friend of my friends boyfriend. He is not my her boyfriend.

This is an aside, but I hope you don't have children with learning disabilities. I DID read carefully, but I have severe learning disabilities and despite reading things three or four times in some cases, I miss things. Is this how you hope the world treats your child? They don't all grow up to be completely "cured" you know. They still struggle and screw up every day, and it's frustrating and embarrassing enough without people being mean about it.

Hon if your learning disabilities are so bad that you can't read accurately maybe you shouldn't be commenting . Reading - yes! Commenting? - no.

Well the "fun" thing about them is I don't always know when they're working against me and when I'm conquering them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He sounds like a drama queen. What the hell does he have to be butt hurt about ? He sounds like one of those mra/ red pill BS guys. You don't want that.

I would text thanks but no thanks and block his number.

If for some crazy reason you are interested in him DO NOT APOLOGIZE instead

Text him back ok what am I supposed to think considering the only other time we hang out was when we had sex and " wanna meet up" isn't exactly an invitation to dinner.

Only a women would ever write the above. Must be nice to be able to sit on your perch and shoot down interested men while they throw themselves at you.

Interested doesn't mean I or any other women owe them anything. - signed a woman with an awesome sweetheart of a boyfriend who's not a drama queen

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop interacting with him - he's your friend's boyfriend.

Read carefully. He is a friend of my friends boyfriend. He is not my her boyfriend.

This is an aside, but I hope you don't have children with learning disabilities. I DID read carefully, but I have severe learning disabilities and despite reading things three or four times in some cases, I miss things. Is this how you hope the world treats your child? They don't all grow up to be completely "cured" you know. They still struggle and screw up every day, and it's frustrating and embarrassing enough without people being mean about it.

If my kids go around being assholes to people and dispensing bad advice because they made a mistake, then throw around learning disabilities and call everyone mean, then yeah, they're gonna get their asses handed to them on a platter by the big bad world. And yeah, they'll kind of deserve it for being assy in the first place. I'm trying to raise my kids not to be assy, so when they make mistakes people show them kindness.

-mom of 4, one of whom is special needs

PS OP, my first thought is he wanted a hookup then tried to cover and pretend he wanted dinner when you called him out on it. He sounds overly dramatic. If you want to date him, just say you misunderstood and want to take things slowly (assuming you meant the part about not wanting to hook up). If you don't want to date him, you have no obligation and should be firm and clear when you say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi Everyone! I am hoping to find hep with my conundrum. The other weekend I drunkenly hooked up with a close friend of my friends boyfriend. Friday night randevouz turned into a two day nighter. I normally don't just hook up but Im at a time in my life where I just want to try new things. The guy texted yesterday " want to meet up this weekend?" I wrote him back about not wanting to hookup and that it was a drunken mistake. He responded, acting surprised that I was thinking he was only looking for sex this weekend. Now I am super confused. He's acting butt hurt that I am viewing him in that manner. I don't know how to deal with this, or what to say? I thought it was fair assumption given the only other time we hung out was when we had sex.

- Signed,
Confused Woman!

do you like him or not? if you do, offer another date. if you don't, you don't really care.