Was I a jerk for assuming he just wanted sex?

[Anonymous]

I dont think you are at all!

It could just be a tactic on his part though.

I would say something like, "Hey, if you wanted to get dinner and get to know each other better I'm all for it" and let him take you out.

But I dont think you were OTT cause I would have assumed the same

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He sounds like a drama queen. What the hell does he have to be butt hurt about ? He sounds like one of those mra/ red pill BS guys. You don't want that.

I would text thanks but no thanks and block his number.

If for some crazy reason you are interested in him DO NOT APOLOGIZE instead

Text him back ok what am I supposed to think considering the only other time we hang out was when we had sex and " wanna meet up" isn't exactly an invitation to dinner.

Only a women would ever write the above. Must be nice to be able to sit on your perch and shoot down interested men while they throw themselves at you.

"Only a women," no.

If a man texts about wanting to meet up, and the last time they did, they had sex.. he's interested in one thing. He's not "interested."

[Anonymous]

If it lasted a weekend it wasn't a drunken mistake. But it was still a hook-up, and that's fine.

I'm not clear what the issue is. It sounds like you don't want to hook up with him again? Or you would like to see him again but not as a hook-up, but more of a date? Or do you just not want to see him again, period? Your own desires here are not clear to me.

[Anonymous]

But you said you hooked up with him because you wanted to try new things, but later told him it was a drunken mistake.
Were you embarrassed?

[Anonymous]

While I am 100% certain that he WANTED sex again this weekend, you haven't told us anything that would convince me sex is ALL he wanted. You could have replied with "yes I do want to meet up at <fill_in_the_blank_favorite_restaurant>"

[Anonymous]

He most likely did only want sex this weekend, and after hearing your response unexpectedly, he didn't want to look like a jerk so he elected to act surprised.

Trust me, after a "two night stand," no guy is going to text you to dinner unless he can have you for dessert.

So don't feel bad.

[Anonymous]

So wut, he wasn't good in the sack? His junk was too small? Wut?

You think you're, what, protecting your virtue or something?? He just feels rejected now.

It's also possibly he genuinely likes you. I can't believe an entire weekend was a drunken mistake.

[Anonymous]

Wanna meet up? = booty call?

When you called him on it, he covered. You're fine. See him again if you want, but don't expect a nice date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So wut, he wasn't good in the sack? His junk was too small? Wut?

You think you're, what, protecting your virtue or something?? He just feels rejected now.

It's also possibly he genuinely likes you. I can't believe an entire weekend was a drunken mistake.

First of all, "wut" is not a real word. Please refrain from using it here.

If she doesn't want an ongoing hookup relationship, she doesn't need an excuse. She's capable of deciding for herself. How she responded was kind of rude, but turning him down for sex only is not rude.

[Anonymous]

do you like him or not? if you do, offer another date. if you don't, you don't really care.

+1 You're overthinking it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

do you like him or not? if you do, offer another date. if you don't, you don't really care.

+1 You're overthinking it.

OMG this please stop.

And why does EVERY thread become about sn in this place?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So wut, he wasn't good in the sack? His junk was too small? Wut?

You think you're, what, protecting your virtue or something?? He just feels rejected now.

It's also possibly he genuinely likes you. I can't believe an entire weekend was a drunken mistake.

First of all, "wut" is not a real word. Please refrain from using it here.

If she doesn't want an ongoing hookup relationship, she doesn't need an excuse. She's capable of deciding for herself. How she responded was kind of rude, but turning him down for sex only is not rude.

First of all, you will not tell me how to write. I'll write "wut" if it suits me. I'm happy you understand and will abide by my rules going forward. If you can't, get lost.

Second of all, she is sort of a jerk for assuming the worst, especially since there's a history there. He is right to assume she's easy -- she already put out over an entire weekend. I mean, if she suddenly wishes to discover virtue, that's fantastic -- but she doesn't get to demonize the guy for trying to play the cards she dealt him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So wut, he wasn't good in the sack? His junk was too small? Wut?

You think you're, what, protecting your virtue or something?? He just feels rejected now.

It's also possibly he genuinely likes you. I can't believe an entire weekend was a drunken mistake.

First of all, "wut" is not a real word. Please refrain from using it here.

If she doesn't want an ongoing hookup relationship, she doesn't need an excuse. She's capable of deciding for herself. How she responded was kind of rude, but turning him down for sex only is not rude.

First of all, you will not tell me how to write. I'll write "wut" if it suits me. I'm happy you understand and will abide by my rules going forward. If you can't, get lost.

Second of all, she is sort of a jerk for assuming the worst, especially since there's a history there. He is right to assume she's easy -- she already put out over an entire weekend. I mean, if she suddenly wishes to discover virtue, that's fantastic -- but she doesn't get to demonize the guy for trying to play the cards she dealt him.

NP. I think you should actually continue using "wut". It helped me confirm that you were an idiot before I read the rest of your statement. In the future, I'll just stop at wut. Thank you for allowing my DCUM reading times to go down

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a man texts about wanting to meet up, and the last time they did, they had sex.. he's interested in one thing. He's not "interested."

Or, he thought you guys had a good time and would like to see you again, get to know you better?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He most likely did only want sex this weekend, and after hearing your response unexpectedly, he didn't want to look like a jerk so he elected to act surprised.

Trust me, after a "two night stand," no guy is going to text you to dinner unless he can have you for dessert.

So don't feel bad.

Explain to me: What is the downside to someone wanting to have dinner with you and also thinking that sex might be on the table?