Was I a jerk for assuming he just wanted sex?

[Anonymous]

The only question you need to ask yourself is whether you'd like to see him again.

Just tell him that you assumed that all he wanted was sex.

However, on another note. If you spent two days with him, he wasn't just looking for sex. He'd have gone home right away after he got what he wanted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He sounds like a drama queen. What the hell does he have to be butt hurt about ? He sounds like one of those mra/ red pill BS guys. You don't want that.

I would text thanks but no thanks and block his number.

If for some crazy reason you are interested in him DO NOT APOLOGIZE instead

Text him back ok what am I supposed to think considering the only other time we hang out was when we had sex and " wanna meet up" isn't exactly an invitation to dinner.

Only a women would ever write the above. Must be nice to be able to sit on your perch and shoot down interested men while they throw themselves at you.

Interested doesn't mean I or any other women owe them anything. - signed a woman with an awesome sweetheart of a boyfriend who's not a drama queen

Look that goes more for women vs men. If you reject a woman, you are mean and an asshole. Now if you are a guy who sleeps with some woman and later want nothing to do with her, like the op, I guess you should follow the advice on this thread?

[Anonymous]

You are making this way too complicated. You spent a whole weekend with the guy and he asked if you wanted to get together again. Why would you think he's just after sex? When I was younger and casually hooking up with guys, booty calls were generally arranged when we were already out and drinking. I never had a guy text me sober a few am days in advance asking for sex. If you aren't interested in him at all, you can just say thanks but no thanks. If you want to get together again, apologize for offending him and see if he wants to get dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So wut, he wasn't good in the sack? His junk was too small? Wut?

You think you're, what, protecting your virtue or something?? He just feels rejected now.

It's also possibly he genuinely likes you. I can't believe an entire weekend was a drunken mistake.

First of all, "wut" is not a real word. Please refrain from using it here.

If she doesn't want an ongoing hookup relationship, she doesn't need an excuse. She's capable of deciding for herself. How she responded was kind of rude, but turning him down for sex only is not rude.

First of all, you will not tell me how to write. I'll write "wut" if it suits me. I'm happy you understand and will abide by my rules going forward. If you can't, get lost.

Second of all, she is sort of a jerk for assuming the worst, especially since there's a history there. He is right to assume she's easy -- she already put out over an entire weekend. I mean, if she suddenly wishes to discover virtue, that's fantastic -- but she doesn't get to demonize the guy for trying to play the cards she dealt him.

She is not demonizing him. Where did that come from?

I think the other point about women having a choice went way over your head. It's cool. Maybe, come back after you finish high school and we can talk it out.

[Anonymous]

So what are you going to do, OP? Inquiring minds want to know!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi Everyone! I am hoping to find hep with my conundrum. The other weekend I drunkenly hooked up with a close friend of my friends boyfriend. Friday night randevouz turned into a two day nighter. I normally don't just hook up but Im at a time in my life where I just want to try new things. The guy texted yesterday " want to meet up this weekend?" I wrote him back about not wanting to hookup and that it was a drunken mistake. He responded, acting surprised that I was thinking he was only looking for sex this weekend. Now I am super confused. He's acting butt hurt that I am viewing him in that manner. I don't know how to deal with this, or what to say? I thought it was fair assumption given the only other time we hung out was when we had sex.

- Signed,
Confused Woman!

"I didn't mean to have sex with him! I fell on his dick, I swear!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi Everyone! I am hoping to find hep with my conundrum. The other weekend I drunkenly hooked up with a close friend of my friends boyfriend. Friday night randevouz turned into a two day nighter. I normally don't just hook up but Im at a time in my life where I just want to try new things. The guy texted yesterday " want to meet up this weekend?" I wrote him back about not wanting to hookup and that it was a drunken mistake. He responded, acting surprised that I was thinking he was only looking for sex this weekend. Now I am super confused. He's acting butt hurt that I am viewing him in that manner. I don't know how to deal with this, or what to say? I thought it was fair assumption given the only other time we hung out was when we had sex.

- Signed,
Confused Woman!

"I didn't mean to have sex with him! I fell on his dick, I swear!"

She never denied that she willingly slept with him. Or do you think "once you have sex with someone you are obligated to have sex with them every time in the future"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you want to see him again or not?

You're making this more complicated than it is.

Yep, he's doing EXACTLY what he should. He's turning the tables on her and confusing her. Heaven forbid he express interest in seeing her again, so she throws up her bitch shields, accusing him of "just wanting sex" (because clearly he wants you for your charming personality ).

To turn the tables on her, he acts surprised that she was thinking he was only looking for sex this weekend. Now, of course, since he turned the tables on her, she's confused and is going to do EXACTLY what he wants: PUT OUT.

Women are so simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you want to see him again or not?

You're making this more complicated than it is.

Yep, he's doing EXACTLY what he should. He's turning the tables on her and confusing her. Heaven forbid he express interest in seeing her again, so she throws up her bitch shields, accusing him of "just wanting sex" (because clearly he wants you for your charming personality ).

To turn the tables on her, he acts surprised that she was thinking he was only looking for sex this weekend. Now, of course, since he turned the tables on her, she's confused and is going to do EXACTLY what he wants: PUT OUT.

Women are so simple.

Huh? I think you're projecting.

Did your mom throw away your can of Pringles, Roosh?

[Anonymous]

^^^ In fact, since this guy clearly knows what he's doing and has options, he should go on the second date with this woman, and then pump her and dump her. Who wants to put up with high maintenance women? Life's too short.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous
Huh? I think you're projecting.

Did your mom throw away your can of Pringles, Roosh?

LOL, what's to project? That's exactly what's happening here. It's happened to every man who's been around the block a few times. Hooks up with woman. Happens to want to see her again, and because she put out on the first date, she wants to make sure he's not just "out for sex," whatever the fuck that means. So she plays hard to get.

How do you get around that? Tell her your hurt for thinking you're just out for sex. Now she's confused. It works every time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^^ In fact, since this guy clearly knows what he's doing and has options, he should go on the second date with this woman, and then pump her and dump her. Who wants to put up with high maintenance women? Life's too short.

That might work, but it doesn't sound like OP wants to sleep with him again.

Poor guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Huh? I think you're projecting.

Did your mom throw away your can of Pringles, Roosh?

LOL, what's to project? That's exactly what's happening here. It's happened to every man who's been around the block a few times. Hooks up with woman. Happens to want to see her again, and because she put out on the first date, she wants to make sure he's not just "out for sex," whatever the fuck that means. So she plays hard to get.

How do you get around that? Tell her your hurt for thinking you're just out for sex. Now she's confused. It works every time.

Doesnt sound like OP is playing hard to get. Sounds like he just wasn't very important her and then she figured he wanted sex again and maybe he wasn't good in the sack.


Anyway, "its happened to every man..." so I take it you speak from experience. Guess the ladies aren't too pleased when they see your micropenis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

She never denied that she willingly slept with him. Or do you think "once you have sex with someone you are obligated to have sex with them every time in the future"

If that's the case, she'd just ignore his inquiries and move on with her day. But of course, she's interested in the guy, she's just playing hard to get.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

She never denied that she willingly slept with him. Or do you think "once you have sex with someone you are obligated to have sex with them every time in the future"

If that's the case, she'd just ignore his inquiries and move on with her day. But of course, she's interested in the guy, she's just playing hard to get.

She's not playing hard to get. Sounds like the guy just didnt really make a dent, other than her feeling bad for hurting his feelings.

But whatever you want to tell yourself...