Is it weird that I never want to "make love?"
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Anonymous
| I love my husband more than anything in the world but I don't think we've ever "made love" nor do I have any desire to do so. I never did in other relationships either. We have great sex but I just want him to bang me porn star style and have no desire for some deeply emotional slow experience you see in romance movies. We've been married for 6 years. Do other women feel this way? After some great sex last night It occurred to me that this might not be the norm. |
Anonymous
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No, I feel that way too. Maybe it's living so many years together? I don't know, and frankly I don't bother myself with it. |
Anonymous
Sorry but movies are just movies they are not a reflection of any reality I've ever known. I don't think you need to spend any time worrying about it at all. |
Anonymous
| If it ain't broke, don't fix it. |
Anonymous
| Ugh it drives me crazy when my husband wants to "take it slow" and try to be all emotional about it. Total turn off. |
Anonymous
| Isn't it supposed to rain later this week? I would wait until that happens and then call the contractor. |
Anonymous
| I do feel like my DH and I have "made love" in the sense that we've had sex that felt very emotionally fraught and meaningful but if either of us ever referred to it like that it loud I think I would throw up from the cheese lol |
Anonymous
Aww, how sweet! |
Anonymous
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Hmm I am PP. I just reread your post. I think it would bother me a bit if DH never felt an emotional component to sex. It's what separates my romantic relationship from my friend relationships so I would hope there was some emotional component. While I'd never call it making love there have been times like after we had our baby, after our wedding, after we said I love you, after a death that felt charged in a different way.
That said, if it works for you guys then it works for you. A relationship is extraordinarily personal to the people involved. |
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Anonymous
| Not weird. This is us. We have sex a few times/week, I orgasm every time, it lasts a few minutes, wham bam thank you man, fun and done, now let's go lay in the sun. All good. Can't remember when we last made love. |
Anonymous
This is us too. Sex 1-2x per week. DW said she finds the idea of making love strange, so we just have hard, fast sex. She doesn't like long drawn out sessions, so it's usually to the point 20-30 minutes of f-ing. I am fine with it (ironically, I would prefer more foreplay, but I am not complaining). |
Anonymous
| Real life isn't like the movies? Huh, whodathunkit? |
Anonymous
| I don't know. I have had more emotional sex with my husband on various occasions. It's not all slow with candles or anything, but there isn't dirty talk and instead we really look at each other during and say I love you. It's different than the typical sex for physical pleasure /fun alone. |
Anonymous
| My theory is that women like this would think differently if they were with more talented partners. |