DW's: Did you marry a guy who isn't that great in bed?

[Anonymous]

If so, does it ever bother you or cause resentment?

[Anonymous]

I sure did. Now I pity his second wife. When she's at her bitchiest I'm tempted to send her a pocket rocket and tell her there's no way she'll last as long as I did unless she learns to fly solo.

Seriously it was awful. I thought I'd punch my way through a wall by the end.

Got on match for a quick mindless f--- within a day of his moving out (there was no Tinder back then).

[Anonymous]

I did. My DH is really very bad in bed. He tries hard, but it doesn't come naturally to him and he has performance anxiety. I knew that before we got married. It doesn't really bother me. He is a terrific person and has so many other great qualities. We have been married for fifteen years and have two kids. I am very, very happy with my husband and my life.

It's a DCUM fallacy that these things are always a deal breaker in marriage. Bad sex/lack of sex is clearly something that pushes some people to divorce or stray, but it is not that big a deal for others. You just have to make sure that you are well matched with your spouse in terms of the things that bother you and there is a wide variety of personalities out there.

[Anonymous]

Are these guys bad or just bad for you? By which I mean, are they doing things that would leave most women unsatisfied, or are you kind of difficult to please?

I mean, if the guy says "wanna do it," paws tepidly at a boob for a few seconds, gets an erection with his tiny penis, sticks it in, cums in 30 seconds, then rolls over -- that's him being bad. If you need to be stroked clockwise for 20 seconds followed by 2.5 breaths and a drumming pattern while the cock crows at midnight during a new moon, then maybe he's not the problem.

[Anonymous]

I would never marry or even date a man that is not sexually compatible with me. I fuck before marriage and before the bf/gf title. Sex is too important to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are these guys bad or just bad for you? By which I mean, are they doing things that would leave most women unsatisfied, or are you kind of difficult to please?

I mean, if the guy says "wanna do it," paws tepidly at a boob for a few seconds, gets an erection with his tiny penis, sticks it in, cums in 30 seconds, then rolls over -- that's him being bad. If you need to be stroked clockwise for 20 seconds followed by 2.5 breaths and a drumming pattern while the cock crows at midnight during a new moon, then maybe he's not the problem.

I'm 8:23. My husband is the first scenario. It's him. He's really not good at sex. He knows it and sometimes feels bad about it but I tell him it doesn't matter that much. You can't be good at everything and he is really good at pretty much everything else (kind, thoughtful, great dad, professionally ambitious and successful, nice to my parents, etc). I am also not perfect, but I know he appreciates my good qualities and forgives me my faults as well

[Anonymous]

I did. I regret my choice. Life sucks when one is FORCED into celibacy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I mean, if the guy says "wanna do it," paws tepidly at a boob for a few seconds, gets an erection with his tiny penis, sticks it in, cums in 30 seconds, then rolls over -- that's him being bad.

Hmmm. Back to the drawing board!!

[Anonymous]

Mine is terrible because he is inconsiderate. He doesn't do foreplay at all - most sex is him having morning wood and asking me to get on top for a quickie. At night, he wants oral, but doesn't reciprocate. I'm pretty sure he thinks I'm the best wife ever on this front, but it irks me. He always says he'll work on it, but a zebra doesn't change his stripes.

[Anonymous]

Yes, unfortunately, and I regret it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did. My DH is really very bad in bed. He tries hard, but it doesn't come naturally to him and he has performance anxiety. I knew that before we got married. It doesn't really bother me. He is a terrific person and has so many other great qualities. We have been married for fifteen years and have two kids. I am very, very happy with my husband and my life.

It's a DCUM fallacy that these things are always a deal breaker in marriage. Bad sex/lack of sex is clearly something that pushes some people to divorce or stray, but it is not that big a deal for others. You just have to make sure that you are well matched with your spouse in terms of the things that bother you and there is a wide variety of personalities out there.

You must have a low sex drive.

[Anonymous]

I never would. Sex is very important to me. It must be good without any aid of toys, etc. It's a dealbreaker otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Low T/ Lil' D.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Low T/ Lil' D.

Sorry but this made me LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Low T/ Lil' D.

Sorry but this made me LOL.

Go ahead and laugh at our problems.