DW's: Did you marry a guy who isn't that great in bed?

[Anonymous]

I did. My DH is hot and is well-endowed and can make me come several times, so I guess technically our sex life is good.

But he has no curiosity, or imagination. I'm not talking major role-playing stuff here, but he's not into foreplay, at all. Again, the fact that I come easily during PIV may have led him to believe I don't really need this. When I try to spice it up, it's like he needs written instructions. I can tell he is just biding time until he can stick it in.

Doesn't want to talk dirty, doesn't want to "work" during sex. I've stopped asking him to grab my ass, or my tits or to do something with his hands during sex b/c he just forgets the next time.

I am grateful for his great body and large hard dick, but sometimes I get sad knowing this is my sex life for the rest of my life. And yes I totally love him and he's a great father and husband so I don't see us ever separating. But passion? Not so much.

Sigh.

[Anonymous]

^^^ sounds like he's always relied on looks and size and thus never had to learn how to actually have good sex.

[Anonymous]

Trust me on this....Never marry a man who does not 100% satisfy you sexually because you would be dooming the marriage before it had a chance to take off.

To live life with sub-par intimacy is simply settling. And no one should ever accept a settled life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^^ sounds like he's always relied on looks and size and thus never had to learn how to actually have good sex.

Yes, this is it in a nutshell.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes men can't do two things at once. You might be asking for too much

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did. My DH is hot and is well-endowed and can make me come several times, so I guess technically our sex life is good.

But he has no curiosity, or imagination. I'm not talking major role-playing stuff here, but he's not into foreplay, at all. Again, the fact that I come easily during PIV may have led him to believe I don't really need this. When I try to spice it up, it's like he needs written instructions. I can tell he is just biding time until he can stick it in.

Doesn't want to talk dirty, doesn't want to "work" during sex. I've stopped asking him to grab my ass, or my tits or to do something with his hands during sex b/c he just forgets the next time.

I am grateful for his great body and large hard dick, but sometimes I get sad knowing this is my sex life for the rest of my life. And yes I totally love him and he's a great father and husband so I don't see us ever separating. But passion? Not so much.

Sigh.

It sounds to me like your diamond shoes are too tight. Seriously, its been years since most of the women on this thread have had an orgasm from their partner. I'm sure a lot of them would love to be given multiple orgasms by a hot, well endowed man.

Cry me a river!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did. My DH is hot and is well-endowed and can make me come several times, so I guess technically our sex life is good.

But he has no curiosity, or imagination. I'm not talking major role-playing stuff here, but he's not into foreplay, at all. Again, the fact that I come easily during PIV may have led him to believe I don't really need this. When I try to spice it up, it's like he needs written instructions. I can tell he is just biding time until he can stick it in.

Doesn't want to talk dirty, doesn't want to "work" during sex. I've stopped asking him to grab my ass, or my tits or to do something with his hands during sex b/c he just forgets the next time.

I am grateful for his great body and large hard dick, but sometimes I get sad knowing this is my sex life for the rest of my life. And yes I totally love him and he's a great father and husband so I don't see us ever separating. But passion? Not so much.

Sigh.

It sounds to me like your diamond shoes are too tight. Seriously, its been years since most of the women on this thread have had an orgasm from their partner. I'm sure a lot of them would love to be given multiple orgasms by a hot, well endowed man.

Cry me a river!

I agree with the diamond shoes comment, but I wonder about that many women having an O drought for that long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did. My DH is hot and is well-endowed and can make me come several times, so I guess technically our sex life is good.

But he has no curiosity, or imagination. I'm not talking major role-playing stuff here, but he's not into foreplay, at all. Again, the fact that I come easily during PIV may have led him to believe I don't really need this. When I try to spice it up, it's like he needs written instructions. I can tell he is just biding time until he can stick it in.

Doesn't want to talk dirty, doesn't want to "work" during sex. I've stopped asking him to grab my ass, or my tits or to do something with his hands during sex b/c he just forgets the next time.

I am grateful for his great body and large hard dick, but sometimes I get sad knowing this is my sex life for the rest of my life. And yes I totally love him and he's a great father and husband so I don't see us ever separating. But passion? Not so much.

Sigh.

It sounds to me like your diamond shoes are too tight. Seriously, its been years since most of the women on this thread have had an orgasm from their partner. I'm sure a lot of them would love to be given multiple orgasms by a hot, well endowed man.

Cry me a river!

I agree with the diamond shoes comment, but I wonder about that many women having an O drought for that long.

+1 about the dubious drought. My XH couldn't make me cum, but I took care of myself and even had Os in my sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did. My DH is hot and is well-endowed and can make me come several times, so I guess technically our sex life is good.

But he has no curiosity, or imagination. I'm not talking major role-playing stuff here, but he's not into foreplay, at all. Again, the fact that I come easily during PIV may have led him to believe I don't really need this. When I try to spice it up, it's like he needs written instructions. I can tell he is just biding time until he can stick it in.

Doesn't want to talk dirty, doesn't want to "work" during sex. I've stopped asking him to grab my ass, or my tits or to do something with his hands during sex b/c he just forgets the next time.

I am grateful for his great body and large hard dick, but sometimes I get sad knowing this is my sex life for the rest of my life. And yes I totally love him and he's a great father and husband so I don't see us ever separating. But passion? Not so much.

Sigh.

It sounds to me like your diamond shoes are too tight. Seriously, its been years since most of the women on this thread have had an orgasm from their partner. I'm sure a lot of them would love to be given multiple orgasms by a hot, well endowed man.

Cry me a river!

I disagree. I think the LAST thing a tired mom would want after a day of chasing kids is having a hugely endowed stud screwing her brains loose for hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did. My DH is hot and is well-endowed and can make me come several times, so I guess technically our sex life is good.

But he has no curiosity, or imagination. I'm not talking major role-playing stuff here, but he's not into foreplay, at all. Again, the fact that I come easily during PIV may have led him to believe I don't really need this. When I try to spice it up, it's like he needs written instructions. I can tell he is just biding time until he can stick it in.

Doesn't want to talk dirty, doesn't want to "work" during sex. I've stopped asking him to grab my ass, or my tits or to do something with his hands during sex b/c he just forgets the next time.

I am grateful for his great body and large hard dick, but sometimes I get sad knowing this is my sex life for the rest of my life. And yes I totally love him and he's a great father and husband so I don't see us ever separating. But passion? Not so much.

Sigh.

It sounds to me like your diamond shoes are too tight. Seriously, its been years since most of the women on this thread have had an orgasm from their partner. I'm sure a lot of them would love to be given multiple orgasms by a hot, well endowed man.

Cry me a river!

I disagree. I think the LAST thing a tired mom would want after a day of chasing kids is having a hugely endowed stud screwing her brains loose for hours.

OK, I am the poster with the hot, well endowed but unimaginative man.

Yes, it could be worse. But the thread question was did you marry a guy who isn't that great in bed. And yeah, I kind of did.

But point taken.

[Anonymous]

OP, did the other thread offend you so much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did. My DH is hot and is well-endowed and can make me come several times, so I guess technically our sex life is good.

But he has no curiosity, or imagination. I'm not talking major role-playing stuff here, but he's not into foreplay, at all. Again, the fact that I come easily during PIV may have led him to believe I don't really need this. When I try to spice it up, it's like he needs written instructions. I can tell he is just biding time until he can stick it in.

Doesn't want to talk dirty, doesn't want to "work" during sex. I've stopped asking him to grab my ass, or my tits or to do something with his hands during sex b/c he just forgets the next time.

I am grateful for his great body and large hard dick, but sometimes I get sad knowing this is my sex life for the rest of my life. And yes I totally love him and he's a great father and husband so I don't see us ever separating. But passion? Not so much.

Sigh.

It sounds to me like your diamond shoes are too tight. Seriously, its been years since most of the women on this thread have had an orgasm from their partner. I'm sure a lot of them would love to be given multiple orgasms by a hot, well endowed man.

Cry me a river!

I disagree. I think the LAST thing a tired mom would want after a day of chasing kids is having a hugely endowed stud screwing her brains loose for hours.

OK, I am the poster with the hot, well endowed but unimaginative man.

Yes, it could be worse. But the thread question was did you marry a guy who isn't that great in bed. And yeah, I kind of did.

But point taken.

I think you have a legit gripe PP. Just because it may be a different situation than others doesn't mean it's a better one, dissatisfaction is dissatisfaction.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for making me feel better about my situation, ladies. I was dating a guy who I really liked, but who was terrible in bed. He'd only had 3 partners (by his mid-30's), and none of them were long-term or frequent so he was really inexperienced and not very good. We got pregnant early in the relationship, he freaked out, dumped me and I've always wondered what could have happened if things had turned out differently.

Makes me feel better to think that the outcome might have been a lifeftime of subpar sex. I like sex and it would be a shame to have to settle for bad sex. (I'm not sure you can teach a 30-something guy how to be better without offending him.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Low T/ Lil' D.

Sorry but this made me LOL.

I curious to know at what size a dick becomes considered small !!!
Please take an educated guess as to his length and girth
Thank you for your help

[Anonymous]

I could never marry a man who isn't good in bed. Sex is too important. If he wasn't satisfying me, I'd probably go nuts or be the biggest B ever.