Jen Hatmaker

[Anonymous]

Whyyyyyy? Why are her friends not telling her this dude is a dead end. Her family? This is a romance you churn through in your 20s.

[Anonymous]

The idea that a relationship started in your 40s is just "all fun" suggests that it's not a deep relationship.

And then the part about "we've finished the heavy lifting" of just about every category of life including therapy and child-raising. Um, no you haven't. There's a high school minor child at home I can't imagine jetting off to NYC with my new boyfriend when my high school daughter *just* flew back home from living across the world for a semester. It sounds like R came home early and could probably use some family time. I'd want to savor time together, just be there for her to listen and to surround her with love and support during her first week back home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whyyyyyy? Why are her friends not telling her this dude is a dead end. Her family? This is a romance you churn through in your 20s.

Maybe they are.

Not everyone listens.

Interesting that they always go to NYC, which is probably driven by him so he can see more theater and shows. She seems happy to let him call the shots for now. Hmmm

[Anonymous]

All the “heavy lifting” is done, guuuuuyzz!

She has it all! What a dream!

Um.

We’re not fooled in the slightest, Big Sis.

[Anonymous]

She's selling such a lie. there is no way that spending 1 weekend away with him every 6 weeks in nyc fulfills her. she's talked so much about how she's wired for connection. this is what makes ppl so upset with her-she's bold faced lying and selling it to desperate women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jen seems to think that faith in God/Christ exists so she can be happy. Basically, God exists to make people happy and make their dream come true and God is sort of the ultimate therapist in the sky.

So when life starts to suck or
your personal circumstances start to get wobbly so does your faith.

She probably never really had a real Christian faith.
The only question I have is Jen someone who fell away from the faith or is she actually a wolf in sheep’s clothing? The jury is still out.

Not every one who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you evildoers.’

Wolf. Jesus was her first grift in a long line of grifts.

[Anonymous]

I feel like the NYC post is several punches at Brandon. And, I think she sees this blog and not only threw a log in your eye but a whole dang giant Redwood with that FB post.

To others, she’s selling a bill of goods that just AIN’T it. What I read from her post is don’t feel so bad if your married with family life gets completely destroyed by sin! Look at all the new sin you can look forward to-it’s a wonderful life!

I hope they both turn to Jesus and point others to Jesus for hope. Quit with the “there’s a new honey waitin’ out here for you! Just take my courses and get well soon like ME!” business.

[Anonymous]

She comes across so immature in that post. “I did it! I can relax now!” Just wait until her parents get sick. She’s going to quickly realize that there is still a lot of heavy lifting in your 40s and 50s.

[Anonymous]

The heavy lifting is not done, my dear Jen. Just give it 5-10 years. People who are insecure in themselves and relationships need to post such gobbledygook under a photo. I’ve seen it a lot. This woman is just slapping a band aid on a huge wound.

[Anonymous]

Jen’s BFF Kristen Howerton posted a full “Don’t use Better Help!” list of atrocities on her Twitter and Facebook yesterday.

[Anonymous]

“We have so much fun. Life is fun together because it can be”

Oh wow Jen. Thanks for letting us know. You’ve cracked the code at life! You “paid most of your dues already”? Girl, you are not even 50 yet, your parents, children and siblings are all alive and you’ve never had a major illness. You’re so hyperbolic, you come across as dumb.

Let me know if Tyler is there to carry you to the bathroom and wipe your puke off the floor. Let me know if he’s there when you can’t get out of bed for a week because you’re depressed. Let me know if he’s there to fix the pipes when they break down. Of course you’re having fun when you only meet up once in a blue moon to do fun activities.

I’m not hating on a fun, light relationship but don’t try and sell me this narrative that the two of you have conquered life and the rest of your years together will simply be “fun” when your relationship has never really been tested.

[Anonymous]

WHy doesn't she disclose when she has a paid sponsorship like FTC requires? I follow a lot of influencers and seems like they go above and beyond to disclose it. She doesn't look like she ever says she's being paid by Better Help to make these posts.

[Anonymous]

Jen is what happens when you exchange the truth for a lie and then you try to sell the lie for money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WHy doesn't she disclose when she has a paid sponsorship like FTC requires? I follow a lot of influencers and seems like they go above and beyond to disclose it. She doesn't look like she ever says she's being paid by Better Help to make these posts.

Marketing Exec here who hires influencers and agencies who hire influencers. She is legally required to disclose her ads and paid partnerships. She doesn’t do it because she doesn’t have any ethics or a moral compass. The brands and the agencies who work with them who are paying her are fully aware of requirements and because they don’t enforce it with her, I find them as morally bankrupt as her and wouldn’t buy a single thing from them. She probably thinks she can get away with it because she primarily posts her ads and partnerships on her stories.

I went out to lunch with another Marketing professional the other day and we were laughing about how we can find tons of excuses to not exercise. She said she could justify anything and laughed. And then she put a serious face on and said, well no, that’s not true. I can’t justify immoral behavior within myself. And I thought that moment of honesty was so refreshing and it spoke volumes about her character and who she is. Imagine Big Sis ever saying that.

[Anonymous]

The whole 'this relationship is fun and awesome because we are older' post is just weird. First...relationships can be fun even when you are in the trenches of little kids. Life will ALWAYS have both dirt and glitter all mixed up together. Yes, there are certain freedoms when your kids are older, but the whole 'this is just fun!!! with no responsibilities!!!' is just weird and sounds like someone who is more sweeping her messy stuff under the rug and ignoring it than someone who is fully healed and whole. You get the kids all out of the house and then your partner develops early onset Alzheimer's and can't recognize you any more and you spend the next 5 years slowly losing them day by day. Or your partner gets cancer. Or you lose a child, or a job, or a house. Being in a latter stage of life in relationships has its perks, but can also be hard and messy and painful. No amount of 'wheee! we can go see plays in NYC whenever we want now!' is going to make that easier. I think of someone I follow who is in a similar life stage...older, no kids at home, long distance relationship. They recently married and partner is working on getting their visa. He had to cancel a trip to see them because the partner just had their elderly mother with dementia move in so they could care for her and a visit would be too disruptive. That's what relationships look like when you're older. Plenty of sacrifice, plenty of mess and emotion and gracefully saying 'this is more important to you right now, so I'll wait.'