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[quote=Anonymous]The whole 'this relationship is fun and awesome because we are older' post is just weird. First...relationships can be fun even when you are in the trenches of little kids. Life will ALWAYS have both dirt and glitter all mixed up together. Yes, there are certain freedoms when your kids are older, but the whole 'this is just fun!!! with no responsibilities!!!' is just weird and sounds like someone who is more sweeping her messy stuff under the rug and ignoring it than someone who is fully healed and whole. You get the kids all out of the house and then your partner develops early onset Alzheimer's and can't recognize you any more and you spend the next 5 years slowly losing them day by day. Or your partner gets cancer. Or you lose a child, or a job, or a house. Being in a latter stage of life in relationships has its perks, but can also be hard and messy and painful. No amount of 'wheee! we can go see plays in NYC whenever we want now!' is going to make that easier. I think of someone I follow who is in a similar life stage...older, no kids at home, long distance relationship. They recently married and partner is working on getting their visa. He had to cancel a trip to see them because the partner just had their elderly mother with dementia move in so they could care for her and a visit would be too disruptive. That's what relationships look like when you're older. Plenty of sacrifice, plenty of mess and emotion and gracefully saying 'this is more important to you right now, so I'll wait.'[/quote]

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