Stone Ridge School of the Sacred Heart

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Anonymous wrote:I think we can all agree girls are mean and our kids don't tell us everything. There are obviously parts missing from this story and people tend to over exaggerate things.

Agree with this, also I have a senior who loves SR after having a rocky start her first year. Some of the girls she didn’t click with her freshman year are now close friends, teenage girls can be tough.

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Anonymous wrote:I think we can all agree girls are mean and our kids don't tell us everything. There are obviously parts missing from this story and people tend to over exaggerate things.

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Anonymous wrote:Whoosh. The sound of me running far far away as a prospective parent of a little one. Eek!

No one should be making decisions on where their child will attend school based on an anonymous message board. Students post here. Obvious trolls post here. People with axes to grind post here. And experiences and perspectives vary.

My 9th grader seems totally unaware of the "blonde squad" - she's said several times that she really hasn't seen any cliques. That doesn't mean it doesn't exist, just that even in a class of 100 girls there will be different experiences and perspectives.

Anyway, I feel like you can tell which posters actually have girls and SR and which are stirring the pot/are trolls.

Way less than 100 girls in 9th grade

Online directory shows 90 in 9th grade

That’s less than the 112 9th graders kat year, which is actually a good thing

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Hands down the meanest girls are from SR

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Anonymous wrote:The bar of acceptance and inclusivity appears to be very low at SR (and it’s catholic; thought that would be a positive thing but maybe that’s the problem, old-school exclusivity?) Y’all should be embarrassed by what you tolerate or accept as “normal” social norms. I guess it’s cheaper than the top academic all girls high schools in the area (but it’s not that rigorous comparatively, so I wouldn’t expect it to be 60k ) and maybe it just is another “club” for strivers. Just proving money doesn’t buy class.

I’ll ignore the more pointed attacks on the price and rigor of SR, as well as the characterization as a club for strivers and comments about social class. I have two daughters at SR, it always strikes me that any social issues there are characterized totally differently than the same types of incidents at my son’s school. I think people still expect that all girls should focus on being nice girls and their primary goal should be making lots of other nice girl friends rather than pushing themselves academically, or athletically / in the arts depending on their talents. We’re a SR lifer family but we recognize it can be a challenge to break in, in September and October I encourage my girls to make plans with the new girls, welcome them to a lunch table, have them join for outside social events. I’m sure it’s still a tough transition but I don’t think the stereotype of a school made up of snobby blondes is true at all. The rigor can be a lot academically but they also seemed well prepared for strong colleges. Not a perfect school, though we’ve really enjoyed it.

Does challenging oneself academically and in other activities preclude being nice?

The expectation should be to be nice. You can do both, you know.

Of course you can, but I hear about boys flushing each other’s heads in the toilet at school and have never seen that stuff repeated here whereas the bar for girls is being extremely nice to everyone all the time. One of my girls is a blonde athlete at SR and her complaint socially is that the brainy girls openly call her stupid and tell her she’s just playing her sport because no college would ever accept her otherwise. Maybe they say she’s in a blonde squad, I don’t know, but we might all benefit from thinking about the perspectives of different kids and not assume every tough relationship is one sided.

yes! we used to do that and we called it a swirlee. sometimes it would be a "chocolate swirlee." harmless fun and makes me miss HS.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a clique of meangirls starting trouble amongst the class of 2029. What’s the best way for handle?

This group has always started trouble. Maybe high school has emboldened them. People complain about the 28s, but the 29s are filled with mean girls and moms. Reaching out to the moms will probably make things worse and administration is unlikely to do anything.

So sorry, I hope you aren’t new.

The question is what is the admin doing about it? They do not have a good track record of addressing this sort of behavior. Just a shrug most of the time. Especially bad in MS.

It’s also the 27 class too. Several girls left the school in that class due to extreme bullying where the Moms just looked the other way at the evil behavior as long as their girl stayed on top. The school does nothing. Every girl who left found relief at other private schools. So it’s not that way everywhere. Look at the pattern- 27, 28, 29 all problem years. Not a good look. It’s the school.

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The pattern continues with the 2030s

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I know this is anecdotal but the meanest girl from my daughter's Catholic PK-8 school, who was counseled out of the school for bullying after completing 7th grade, was accepted to Stone Ridge. No other private would take her. That was all we needed to know!

There is a new director of enrollment management at Stone Ridge this year. Perhaps there will be a focus on enrolling kinder girls?

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Anonymous wrote:The pattern continues with the 2030s

I have a 2030 and haven’t heard about this in her 3 years there. Normal friendship ups and downs for sure but nothing that sounds like serious mean girl behavior.

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Then you must be one

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Anonymous wrote:Then you must be one

Or there are a lot of trolls here

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There are obvious trolls here with a chip on their shoulder. My daughter is in one of the grades with “supposed bullies” and I have never heard of any. She is very happy and thriving. As far as I can tell, all of the girls in her grade get along and there is a great parent community.

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Anonymous wrote:There are obvious trolls here with a chip on their shoulder. My daughter is in one of the grades with “supposed bullies” and I have never heard of any. She is very happy and thriving. As far as I can tell, all of the girls in her grade get along and there is a great parent community.

How many in her grade? How can you know them all?

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DD is '29 and already having friend drama, which she never had before. Ugh

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Hows their Volleyball team? (For varsity)