Stone Ridge School of the Sacred Heart

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Anonymous wrote:2029 new parent. The workload is a lot and having only 2 frees every 8 day makes it tough for girls trying to balance after school activities. When touring we were told work would be minimal with 80 min block going 50 min lecture and 30 min class work/homework but that is not the case.

SR comms is a bit off. There was a fall fest last Friday and the new freshman girls had no idea what it was or what to expect. More comms please SR even more of presence on social media would be great!

The girls all seem great BUT new girls definitely have a hard time getting in the girls who have been there. Also, even parents are hard to break into those circles.

Not sure who gave you the information about doing work during class, but this is simply not true. It might be the case in some situations, but not on an ongoing basis. We were never told this and we enrolled because the school is rigorous. My daughter likes the block schedule because it gives her the opportunity to plan her homework ahead of time and sometimes get ahead of it. Of course if you are getting homework from an 80 minute class, it would be on the heavy side. You have two days to get it done. If you have kids who will whine about it, you should look at another school because it will get heavier when they start doing honors and AP classes. My daughter had a fairly easy freshman year (easy to get As) compared to her later years. Get ready or consider transferring to Holy Cross or some other easier school.

WOW how welcoming you are. How about those who play sports and have games?

As a new parent to SR the divide between those coming into the school and those who have been there a long time is shown beautifully in this post. Empathy costs you nothing and maybe even talking to new parents at things costs you nothing as well. Instead, most of you sit around and talk about country clubs and do not make an attempt to know new families let alone have your daughters know our daughters. For those looking at this school it's a great school and if you are new entering the school the new parents are great. The parents who have been there awhile (especially moms) are not great. The fathers could care less and are kind and wonderful. Just be prepared if your daughter chooses here (and I hope she does) you too will be going back to high school with mean girl moms.

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This was written about in depth all last year and the year before about problems with a few of these moms in some of these classes particularly 2028, 2025 (graduated now) and apparently other classes too? Sorry you are going through this - you are not alone.

Here's what I don't get. The PP keeps talking about the mean moms. Once your kid is in high school, there is very little interaction with the other parents. By middle/high school, kids are making their own plans with friends and parents have little interaction. Unless you are constantly volunteering or going to every game, I don't see how one could be impacted so much by mom meanness. Am I missing something?

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Anonymous wrote:2029 new parent. The workload is a lot and having only 2 frees every 8 day makes it tough for girls trying to balance after school activities. When touring we were told work would be minimal with 80 min block going 50 min lecture and 30 min class work/homework but that is not the case.

SR comms is a bit off. There was a fall fest last Friday and the new freshman girls had no idea what it was or what to expect. More comms please SR even more of presence on social media would be great!

The girls all seem great BUT new girls definitely have a hard time getting in the girls who have been there. Also, even parents are hard to break into those circles.

Not sure who gave you the information about doing work during class, but this is simply not true. It might be the case in some situations, but not on an ongoing basis. We were never told this and we enrolled because the school is rigorous. My daughter likes the block schedule because it gives her the opportunity to plan her homework ahead of time and sometimes get ahead of it. Of course if you are getting homework from an 80 minute class, it would be on the heavy side. You have two days to get it done. If you have kids who will whine about it, you should look at another school because it will get heavier when they start doing honors and AP classes. My daughter had a fairly easy freshman year (easy to get As) compared to her later years. Get ready or consider transferring to Holy Cross or some other easier school.

WOW how welcoming you are. How about those who play sports and have games?

As a new parent to SR the divide between those coming into the school and those who have been there a long time is shown beautifully in this post. Empathy costs you nothing and maybe even talking to new parents at things costs you nothing as well. Instead, most of you sit around and talk about country clubs and do not make an attempt to know new families let alone have your daughters know our daughters. For those looking at this school it's a great school and if you are new entering the school the new parents are great. The parents who have been there awhile (especially moms) are not great. The fathers could care less and are kind and wonderful. Just be prepared if your daughter chooses here (and I hope she does) you too will be going back to high school with mean girl moms.

+1000

This was written about in depth all last year and the year before about problems with a few of these moms in some of these classes particularly 2028, 2025 (graduated now) and apparently other classes too? Sorry you are going through this - you are not alone.

Here's what I don't get. The PP keeps talking about the mean moms. Once your kid is in high school, there is very little interaction with the other parents. By middle/high school, kids are making their own plans with friends and parents have little interaction. Unless you are constantly volunteering or going to every game, I don't see how one could be impacted so much by mom meanness. Am I missing something?

I am not the parent experiencing mean moms this year. They are apparently new and experiencing this? Not sure. I am just giving an overall general reply about the nature of what the poster was saying and I can commiserate with her feelings.

on that note, yes you are missing something. Most parents attend all of their kids' games and school events which in the private school world there are a LOT. Not to mention any interactions at pre parties etc.. or other events. There is a lot of interaction. School breakfasts, meetings, etc..

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Yeah not getting the mean moms thing. Were new and haven’t seen any of that. It’s the girls that are the problem, not their parents. Which is weird, but it’s been our experience and we have 2 new girls at the school. Just don’t understand the mean girl nonsense at this place. We feel pretty helpless about it and are considering pulling DD out. It’s just not worth the mental/emotional trauma

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah not getting the mean moms thing. Were new and haven’t seen any of that. It’s the girls that are the problem, not their parents. Which is weird, but it’s been our experience and we have 2 new girls at the school. Just don’t understand the mean girl nonsense at this place. We feel pretty helpless about it and are considering pulling DD out. It’s just not worth the mental/emotional trauma

I’m so sorry your DD is dealing with this. Are you willing to share more about what types of “mean girl” behaviors you are seeing? Trying to understand how much is an SR thing vs a private school thing. “Mean girl” is a pretty broad term. As for parents, I have older DS and I’ve just learned how to avoid the parents I don’t care for and focus on the experience my kid is having. That said, if the bad behavior is coming from the students, that makes the day to day experience tough.

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah not getting the mean moms thing. Were new and haven’t seen any of that. It’s the girls that are the problem, not their parents. Which is weird, but it’s been our experience and we have 2 new girls at the school. Just don’t understand the mean girl nonsense at this place. We feel pretty helpless about it and are considering pulling DD out. It’s just not worth the mental/emotional trauma

I’m so sorry your DD is dealing with this. Are you willing to share more about what types of “mean girl” behaviors you are seeing? Trying to understand how much is an SR thing vs a private school thing. “Mean girl” is a pretty broad term. As for parents, I have older DS and I’ve just learned how to avoid the parents I don’t care for and focus on the experience my kid is having. That said, if the bad behavior is coming from the students, that makes the day to day experience tough.

Great advice to focus on our kids and not parents!

I echo I am sorry if someone is going through mean girl behavior. That makes me sad for our community.

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Anonymous wrote:I know someone who teaches there and she is a lunatic.

Which teacher?

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My college aged DD was in core group and the girls are elected to these positions, not chosen by the school. Each class votes for a president, vice president, two core group reps and blue and gold team reps. Seniors only vote for seniors, etc, so if sisters were on together this would happen by chance. I wouldn’t read into that at all.

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Anonymous wrote:My child’s dream school is Notre Dame. We’ve heard that kids who go to SR have a better chance to get in (though obviously not crazy high due to the competitiveness of ND). How many girls apply there? Would my DD have a better chance there or if she is a standout at another- non Catholic- school?

The acceptance rate to ND from Stone Ridge last year was 42%. Twelve girls applied and five were accepted. That's pretty high compared to the general acceptance rate, so I would say SR is a strong feeder school to Notre Dame. Also note that high performing students who applied REA had better success than those who applied RD. Georgetown Visitation also has success with ND. If you send your kid to another non-Catholic school, I believe your chances would not be as strong. ND has a good relationship with SR.

I am sure they have a good relationship but some of that number will be athletic recruits.

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Anonymous wrote:My child’s dream school is Notre Dame. We’ve heard that kids who go to SR have a better chance to get in (though obviously not crazy high due to the competitiveness of ND). How many girls apply there? Would my DD have a better chance there or if she is a standout at another- non Catholic- school?

The acceptance rate to ND from Stone Ridge last year was 42%. Twelve girls applied and five were accepted. That's pretty high compared to the general acceptance rate, so I would say SR is a strong feeder school to Notre Dame. Also note that high performing students who applied REA had better success than those who applied RD. Georgetown Visitation also has success with ND. If you send your kid to another non-Catholic school, I believe your chances would not be as strong. ND has a good relationship with SR.

I am sure they have a good relationship but some of that number will be athletic recruits.

Yes, some will be, but most are not. Last year only one of the 5 was an athletic recruit.

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Anonymous wrote:DD went on a shadow visit and was ignored by her shadow host and entire lunch table. Such a disappointing experience.

I’m sorry this happened. It seems shadow host can be hit or miss. I would let admissions know ASAP!

No, it is not hit or miss. Daughter had great experiences shadowing at other schools like NCS and Madeira. Nice, inclusive, helpful.

Yes, but they do not win at sports.

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DD plays Volleyball outside of school and did not play for the SR team. Is it possible for her to get PE credit. Her schduele was to busy to play for the school and is also busy now so it’d be inconvenient to do the walking/yoga.

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Unlikely unless she’s nationally ranked or something. Best to ask the AD befofe the season starts

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Seems like SR has a communication problem as displayed here with parents asking questions of each other on an anonymous forum when they could perhaps ask each other at a school gathering or through some other means? Should the school consider planning opportunities for parents to better engage with each other to avoid this public bickering? It's truly embarrassing for me as a SR parent. Hoping admin is reading these posts or that someone shares them.

Many colleges have FB groups set up so that parents can engage there. Maybe SR should consider that so that there can be more of a sense of community?

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Anonymous wrote:Unlikely unless she’s nationally ranked or something. Best to ask the AD befofe the season starts

This but edit to say “best for your DD to ask the AD before the season starts.” And also—do not expect the school to bend the rules for you because something is inconvenient. The PE requirement is very minimal and if I remember correctly yoga and walking club were one or two days a week.

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Anonymous wrote:Seems like SR has a communication problem as displayed here with parents asking questions of each other on an anonymous forum when they could perhaps ask each other at a school gathering or through some other means? Should the school consider planning opportunities for parents to better engage with each other to avoid this public bickering? It's truly embarrassing for me as a SR parent. Hoping admin is reading these posts or that someone shares them.

Many colleges have FB groups set up so that parents can engage there. Maybe SR should consider that so that there can be more of a sense of community?

SR does not have a communitcations problem. Parents asking questions on an anonymous forum when paying over 45K says more about them then the SR comms team. All new familes are provided resources, contact information for parent relations, and other important contacts at the start of the school year, as well as a mentor family.