Stone Ridge School of the Sacred Heart

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The bar of acceptance and inclusivity appears to be very low at SR (and it’s catholic; thought that would be a positive thing but maybe that’s the problem, old-school exclusivity?) Y’all should be embarrassed by what you tolerate or accept as “normal” social norms. I guess it’s cheaper than the top academic all girls high schools in the area (but it’s not that rigorous comparatively, so I wouldn’t expect it to be 60k ) and maybe it just is another “club” for strivers. Just proving money doesn’t buy class.

I’ll ignore the more pointed attacks on the price and rigor of SR, as well as the characterization as a club for strivers and comments about social class. I have two daughters at SR, it always strikes me that any social issues there are characterized totally differently than the same types of incidents at my son’s school. I think people still expect that all girls should focus on being nice girls and their primary goal should be making lots of other nice girl friends rather than pushing themselves academically, or athletically / in the arts depending on their talents. We’re a SR lifer family but we recognize it can be a challenge to break in, in September and October I encourage my girls to make plans with the new girls, welcome them to a lunch table, have them join for outside social events. I’m sure it’s still a tough transition but I don’t think the stereotype of a school made up of snobby blondes is true at all. The rigor can be a lot academically but they also seemed well prepared for strong colleges. Not a perfect school, though we’ve really enjoyed it.

Does challenging oneself academically and in other activities preclude being nice?

The expectation should be to be nice. You can do both, you know.

Of course you can, but I hear about boys flushing each other’s heads in the toilet at school and have never seen that stuff repeated here whereas the bar for girls is being extremely nice to everyone all the time. One of my girls is a blonde athlete at SR and her complaint socially is that the brainy girls openly call her stupid and tell her she’s just playing her sport because no college would ever accept her otherwise. Maybe they say she’s in a blonde squad, I don’t know, but we might all benefit from thinking about the perspectives of different kids and not assume every tough relationship is one sided.

[Anonymous]

I think these posts are proving the point

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The bar of acceptance and inclusivity appears to be very low at SR (and it’s catholic; thought that would be a positive thing but maybe that’s the problem, old-school exclusivity?) Y’all should be embarrassed by what you tolerate or accept as “normal” social norms. I guess it’s cheaper than the top academic all girls high schools in the area (but it’s not that rigorous comparatively, so I wouldn’t expect it to be 60k ) and maybe it just is another “club” for strivers. Just proving money doesn’t buy class.

I’ll ignore the more pointed attacks on the price and rigor of SR, as well as the characterization as a club for strivers and comments about social class. I have two daughters at SR, it always strikes me that any social issues there are characterized totally differently than the same types of incidents at my son’s school. I think people still expect that all girls should focus on being nice girls and their primary goal should be making lots of other nice girl friends rather than pushing themselves academically, or athletically / in the arts depending on their talents. We’re a SR lifer family but we recognize it can be a challenge to break in, in September and October I encourage my girls to make plans with the new girls, welcome them to a lunch table, have them join for outside social events. I’m sure it’s still a tough transition but I don’t think the stereotype of a school made up of snobby blondes is true at all. The rigor can be a lot academically but they also seemed well prepared for strong colleges. Not a perfect school, though we’ve really enjoyed it.

Does challenging oneself academically and in other activities preclude being nice?

The expectation should be to be nice. You can do both, you know.

Of course you can, but I hear about boys flushing each other’s heads in the toilet at school and have never seen that stuff repeated here whereas the bar for girls is being extremely nice to everyone all the time. One of my girls is a blonde athlete at SR and her complaint socially is that the brainy girls openly call her stupid and tell her she’s just playing her sport because no college would ever accept her otherwise. Maybe they say she’s in a blonde squad, I don’t know, but we might all benefit from thinking about the perspectives of different kids and not assume every tough relationship is one sided.

So you think those girls should be nicer?

[Anonymous]

Uh yeah, they should be nicer. This isn’t some “girls have to follow antiquated social norms”. Raise your kid to be a decent human ffs. All of this rationalizing behavior exemplifies why this school is toxic (at least in the 28 and 29 years”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The bar of acceptance and inclusivity appears to be very low at SR (and it’s catholic; thought that would be a positive thing but maybe that’s the problem, old-school exclusivity?) Y’all should be embarrassed by what you tolerate or accept as “normal” social norms. I guess it’s cheaper than the top academic all girls high schools in the area (but it’s not that rigorous comparatively, so I wouldn’t expect it to be 60k ) and maybe it just is another “club” for strivers. Just proving money doesn’t buy class.

I’ll ignore the more pointed attacks on the price and rigor of SR, as well as the characterization as a club for strivers and comments about social class. I have two daughters at SR, it always strikes me that any social issues there are characterized totally differently than the same types of incidents at my son’s school. I think people still expect that all girls should focus on being nice girls and their primary goal should be making lots of other nice girl friends rather than pushing themselves academically, or athletically / in the arts depending on their talents. We’re a SR lifer family but we recognize it can be a challenge to break in, in September and October I encourage my girls to make plans with the new girls, welcome them to a lunch table, have them join for outside social events. I’m sure it’s still a tough transition but I don’t think the stereotype of a school made up of snobby blondes is true at all. The rigor can be a lot academically but they also seemed well prepared for strong colleges. Not a perfect school, though we’ve really enjoyed it.

Does challenging oneself academically and in other activities preclude being nice?

The expectation should be to be nice. You can do both, you know.

Of course you can, but I hear about boys flushing each other’s heads in the toilet at school and have never seen that stuff repeated here whereas the bar for girls is being extremely nice to everyone all the time. One of my girls is a blonde athlete at SR and her complaint socially is that the brainy girls openly call her stupid and tell her she’s just playing her sport because no college would ever accept her otherwise. Maybe they say she’s in a blonde squad, I don’t know, but we might all benefit from thinking about the perspectives of different kids and not assume every tough relationship is one sided.

So you think those girls should be nicer?

No I think they should continue to mock each other and then complain anonymously about a lack of friendliness between different groups.

[Anonymous]

Whoosh. The sound of me running far far away as a prospective parent of a little one. Eek!

[Anonymous]

No school is perfect, especially within the bubble we live in here. Be careful about over-analyzing schools. What you perceive as a bad experience might be beneficial character building for your kid. Most of the people posting in this thread are so lucky for their opportunities and options. My kids go to WJ but my niece goes to SR. They’re all doing just fine.

[Anonymous]

I know a very pretty, blonde, socially sophisticated girl who started SR in ninth last year and was shocked by how mean the girls actually were to each other. I think SR had a popularity boost because it was less academically rigorous than NCS and Holton, and that has perhaps lead to the collection of girls and families who do indeed value social status over academic achievement. It seems to me that the area girls school seem to cycle through these phases.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a very pretty, blonde, socially sophisticated girl who started SR in ninth last year and was shocked by how mean the girls actually were to each other. I think SR had a popularity boost because it was less academically rigorous than NCS and Holton, and that has perhaps lead to the collection of girls and families who do indeed value social status over academic achievement. It seems to me that the area girls school seem to cycle through these phases.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No school is perfect, especially within the bubble we live in here. Be careful about over-analyzing schools. What you perceive as a bad experience might be beneficial character building for your kid. Most of the people posting in this thread are so lucky for their opportunities and options. My kids go to WJ but my niece goes to SR. They’re all doing just fine.

Biggest Rationalization of the Day!

[Anonymous]

Our DD was awkward as heck and she managed to find her people at SR. Was well prepared for college, now attending her dream school. Had some things she loved, some things she didn’t. Was not an athlete. Started in MS and attended through the Covid years. I know there are some not nice girls/families but I know there are not nice boys/families at my son’s school. That’s just reality. It’s not a SR thing or an all girls thing. It’s a people and HS thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whoosh. The sound of me running far far away as a prospective parent of a little one. Eek!

No one should be making decisions on where their child will attend school based on an anonymous message board. Students post here. Obvious trolls post here. People with axes to grind post here. And experiences and perspectives vary.

My 9th grader seems totally unaware of the "blonde squad" - she's said several times that she really hasn't seen any cliques. That doesn't mean it doesn't exist, just that even in a class of 100 girls there will be different experiences and perspectives.

Anyway, I feel like you can tell which posters actually have girls and SR and which are stirring the pot/are trolls.

[Anonymous]

I think we can all agree girls are mean and our kids don't tell us everything. There are obviously parts missing from this story and people tend to over exaggerate things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whoosh. The sound of me running far far away as a prospective parent of a little one. Eek!

No one should be making decisions on where their child will attend school based on an anonymous message board. Students post here. Obvious trolls post here. People with axes to grind post here. And experiences and perspectives vary.

My 9th grader seems totally unaware of the "blonde squad" - she's said several times that she really hasn't seen any cliques. That doesn't mean it doesn't exist, just that even in a class of 100 girls there will be different experiences and perspectives.

Anyway, I feel like you can tell which posters actually have girls and SR and which are stirring the pot/are trolls.

Way less than 100 girls in 9th grade

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whoosh. The sound of me running far far away as a prospective parent of a little one. Eek!

No one should be making decisions on where their child will attend school based on an anonymous message board. Students post here. Obvious trolls post here. People with axes to grind post here. And experiences and perspectives vary.

My 9th grader seems totally unaware of the "blonde squad" - she's said several times that she really hasn't seen any cliques. That doesn't mean it doesn't exist, just that even in a class of 100 girls there will be different experiences and perspectives.

Anyway, I feel like you can tell which posters actually have girls and SR and which are stirring the pot/are trolls.

Way less than 100 girls in 9th grade

Online directory shows 90 in 9th grade