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Anonymous
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http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/04/27/AR2009042701944.html?hpid=topnews
If this mom had cared if her daycare provider was licenced or not, her kid would have never been murdered. Criminals cannot be living at home daycares. I suspect this was a case of a mom paying peanuts for daycare and her turning a blind eye to the fact that her DCP was a drug user. |
Anonymous
| You want to bring up a horrible case that happened in 2006 simply to cast aspersions on the poor mother who you've probably never met in your life? What are you trying to do here? What is your agenda? |
Anonymous
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This is TODAY's post. The killer was found guilty today. I'm not pulling up something old.
Do you think it is responsible parenting to leave your child at a daycare that is not licensed, therefore no criminal background checks and no unannounced safety inspections? Would you really have no clue if your DCP was such a coke head that she had to score drugs in the middle of the day when she was supposed to be watching the kids? For picking a daycare with no license, the parents bare some responsiblity. Unless you think it is OK to leave your children with someone who is not licensed. Not all parents make responsible decisions and often take short cuts where they shouldn't. If you think I have a agenda, you are wrong. I'm a working mom who takes her child to a licensed home daycare. I spent a LONG time visiting many different locations until I found one with transparency and one that was fully licensed and insured. |
Anonymous
| That is really sad. I feel so bad for the mom who probably was told by these people that they were licensed, maybe did not even know to check and might have needed cheap daycare so she could work. I am speculating but the entire story is sad. |
Anonymous
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hind sight is 20/20, isn't it? and aren't u great for blaming it all on a woman who lost her child?
Yes, many children would have been alive today and such tragedies wouldn't have happened if our foresight was as acute as hindsight. |
Anonymous
you scream from um there because you're rich if you were poor and had no choice you'd do THE SAME. hypocrite! |
Anonymous
I'm just curious how you know what type of investigation this mother conducted when searching for childcare, what this mother's financial situation was, whether or not she was told this daycare was licensed, etc. Your energy might be better focused on the blaming the druggie mother or her significant other than kicking this poor mother who has lost a child and will probably spend the rest of her life blaming herself for something that may or may not have been her fault. Even if the culmination of the trial was reported today, this incident took place three years ago. Again, what is your motivation for bringing this up? To warn people? To blame people? To feel better than other people? I sincerely hope nothing bad ever happens to you and hope you learn to put blame where it actually belongs. In this case, that would be the perpetrators of this terrible crime, not the bereaved mother. Consider this, a lot of people would consider you nuts for considering home daycare in the first place, licensed or not. Do you think it's OK for strangers to second-guess your childcare choices? Could your own choices be the reason this story is bringing out such anger and nastiness in you? |
Anonymous
| This is really sad. All of it. The story itself and this thread, that has everyone at each others throats for no apparent reason. Calm down guys. A child was beaten to death.... |
Anonymous
| This is sad, but I am horrified that anyone could blame the mother without knowing all the facts. All over, people struggle to afford daycare, to keep their jobs, and they do the best they can. I can't imagine anything more painful than losing a child; can't you have some compassion. |
Anonymous
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Yes, how about "Wow, that is sad. I hope that mother is somehow coping with her tremendous and incomprehensible loss."
For you to lash out that way knowing nothing about the details of the situation--I think I feel pretty bad for you as well. |
Anonymous
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I saw this article today and admit that my initial reaction was similar to OP's...Did the mom do her due diligence in selecting a provider for her child? (All the basics that many of us would do - checking references, seeing if they are licensed, etc. etc.) Were there not ANY signs that these people were druggies?? It is hard to believe that the answer to these questions was yes. However, my second thought was that I have no idea who this woman is - except that she works in tech for the federal govt - or what her situation is and therefore am in no position to be making judgements. Still, what I could tell was this was a mother who was just trying to find a place for her child - who she loved very much - to be cared for while she went to work. And this is what happened. Very sad.
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Anonymous
| I think it's natural to blame the mother. Not reasonable, but understandable. We want to think nothing like this could happen to us, so we need to think that the mother did something wrong, like neglecting to check references. But we don't know what she did or what her situation was. Sometimes bad things happen. It's really horrible. |
Anonymous
| Sad story -- but I have news for you: Bad things happen ALL THE TIME at licensed day cares. I am a loving mother and I spent lots of time looking for a good in home day care. Frankly, being licensed or not was almost meaningless to me. Let's not cast these blanket aspersions on mothers who use unlicensed providers... sometimes its an issue of cost, and sometimes its an issue of finding the BEST childcare. Heck -- very few nannies (usually the choice of the upper class) are "licensed" in any way. |
Anonymous
| agreed-I am thinking this mom made this choice due to economics. Also think that in a home daycare you can have someone do something and they weren't a criminal before. Things can happen anywhere and this is still a rare occurance. |
Anonymous
with all due respect F**k you for blaming the mother for the malicous murder of her child! If you're going to be angry, be angry at the people who did this to this helpless child. You don't know what the mother's motiviations in leaving her child here were - perhaps it was close to home, perhaps it was what she could afford. Just because the mother was using cocaine doesn't mean that the symptoms of her use were obvious. There are lots of people who use drugs and nobody would suspect them of it. To say that this is the mother's fault because she was paying so little is such a cruel statement that I don't even think it deserves a comment. To the poster who said that it's only "natural" to blame the mother - I disagree. I blame the man who beat this child to death, and can't imagine how this mother who lost her child feels. Here's a recent case of a child being killed at licensed day care center. Care to judge this mother for daring to leave her child there? http://archives.chicagotribune.com/2009/jan/19/local/chi-daycare-follow-19-jan19 |