Child Murdered at Fairfax County Daycare

[Anonymous]

"Sad story -- but I have news for you: Bad things happen ALL THE TIME at licensed day cares"

Right and bad things NEVER, EVER HAPPEN in the home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/04/27/AR2009042701944.html?hpid=topnews

If this mom had cared if her daycare provider was licenced or not, her kid would have never been murdered. Criminals cannot be living at home daycares.

I suspect this was a case of a mom paying peanuts for daycare and her turning a blind eye to the fact that her DCP was a drug user.

WOW! Shame on you for judging and double shame on you for judging a woman you do not even know, based on what you "suspect".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/04/27/AR2009042701944.html?hpid=topnews

If this mom had cared if her daycare provider was licenced or not, her kid would have never been murdered. Criminals cannot be living at home daycares.

I suspect this was a case of a mom paying peanuts for daycare and her turning a blind eye to the fact that her DCP was a drug user.

WOW! Shame on you for judging and double shame on you for judging a woman you do not even know, based on what you "suspect".

It's horrible either way. No one drops their child off at daycare expecting a call that the child has been beaten to death.

[Anonymous]

This article was so sad. I'm so fortunate to have enough money that I could do a thorough search and pick the best daycare I could find. But even I was stretched to pay for it. There is very little affordable care out there for children. I'm sure some people have no choice but to send their children to unliscensed places. What are they suppose to do? Quit their jobs and stop feeding the child? The woman who ran the daycare lied to the mother. She was suppose to be watching the child and she wasn't. Maybe the mom knew her and trusted her but not the husband.

And yes, bad things happen in fully regulated and liscensed places. It's all just sad.

To blame the mom is horrible. But I do think blaming the mom is a self-defense mechanism. You want to believe that if you are good enough mom, bad things can never happen to your child. I know everytime I read an article about the death of a child, I scan it - hoping - I will find something that will scream negligance - so I can tell myself "I'd never let that happen." I have to tell you, too many times, it's just a regular mom. And all it took was bad sequence of events to get to the fatal accident.

[Anonymous]

I have to tell you, too many times, it's just a regular mom. And all it took was bad sequence of events to get to the fatal accident.

Good analysis on the blame the mom mentality. Sometimes bad things happen to good people.

[Anonymous]

Where in the article does it say that she was running an unliscensed day care?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sad story -- but I have news for you: Bad things happen ALL THE TIME at licensed day cares. I am a loving mother and I spent lots of time looking for a good in home day care. Frankly, being licensed or not was almost meaningless to me. Let's not cast these blanket aspersions on mothers who use unlicensed providers... sometimes its an issue of cost, and sometimes its an issue of finding the BEST childcare. Heck -- very few nannies (usually the choice of the upper class) are "licensed" in any way.

I completely completely agree with you.

[Anonymous]

You're right OP, nothing bad ever happens to a child in a licensed daycare. You have found the key to keeping your child safe, and you can stop worrying forever now that you have found it.

[Anonymous]

OP's lack of compassion for the mother is unbelievable, not to mention that obviously OP does not have full information and neither do the rest of us. I think this is just a defense mechanism to make someone feel like this could never happen to their child. We all need to feel safe, I guess, and I think all working mothers feel nervous about making sure their child is safe while they are at work, but to react in this mean way is really over the top. As another poster pointed out, nannies and babysitters are not licensed, either and we have all heard stories about horrible things happening in licensed day cares as well. Would the OP say that all working mothers whose children are cared for by someone else for some period of the day deserve something like this? Give me a break.

[Anonymous]

According to the U.S Department of Justice, family members or acquaintances commit most child murders.


http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/ovc/assist/nvaa/supp/o-ch16.htm
Most child murders in 1994 were at the hands of an acquaintance (38 percent), with family members accounting for 22 percent, strangers seven percent, and unknown offenders 30 percent. (Ibid.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/04/27/AR2009042701944.html?hpid=topnews

If this mom had cared if her daycare provider was licenced or not, her kid would have never been murdered. Criminals cannot be living at home daycares.

I suspect this was a case of a mom paying peanuts for daycare and her turning a blind eye to the fact that her DCP was a drug user.

Where do you see the provider was not licensed in the article?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/04/27/AR2009042701944.html?hpid=topnews

If this mom had cared if her daycare provider was licenced or not, her kid would have never been murdered. Criminals cannot be living at home daycares.

I suspect this was a case of a mom paying peanuts for daycare and her turning a blind eye to the fact that her DCP was a drug user.

You should be ashamed of yourself. Has this poor mother not suffered enough?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/04/27/AR2009042701944.html?hpid=topnews

If this mom had cared if her daycare provider was licenced or not, her kid would have never been murdered. Criminals cannot be living at home daycares.

I suspect this was a case of a mom paying peanuts for daycare and her turning a blind eye to the fact that her DCP was a drug user.

Is this real? Can anyone be this focken stupid?

[Anonymous]

According to the U.S Department of Justice, family members or acquaintances commit most child murders.


http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/ovc/assist/nvaa/supp/o-ch16.htm
Most child murders in 1994 were at the hands of an acquaintance (38 percent), with family members accounting for 22 percent, strangers seven percent, and unknown offenders 30 percent. (Ibid.)

Wouldn't the daycare provider be an acquaintance, given that statistic?

[Anonymous]

I think the OP has to blame the mother just so she can feel superior and sleep at night. Clearly, in this country, daycare is ridiculously expensive and hard to find, even when you have the money. there are still waiting lists. she probably did not know that her "caregiver" was a lunatic cokehead.

if you want to be angry, be angry with those stupid prosecutors who fucked it all up to high heavens. that dude should have gotten 40 years, but now it's just 20 b/c they had to get him to plea. read the whole story. it's disgusting. he'll be out by age 46, earlier if he gets paroled. i'm not for capitol punishment, but if that had been my child, i'd probably have killed that dude myself by now.