Ask me anything: I am a kept woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
If he was already getting what he wanted out of the relationship (sex) PRIOR to buying this ho a car and paying her rent, why would any fool pay $2400 to keep this trash in her own place? I would tell her her welcome to the real world honey, get a job like the rest of the world. $2400 a month is more than my freakin mortgage. I know right down to the dollar amount how much my husband makes too so his wife is probably turning a blind eye. This guy could and very likely does also pay high priced escorts in addition to the ho on the side.

Well, the guy obviously has psychological issues too -- and is stunted -- not a mature human being in a mature relationship with his spouse. And probably not with himself either.

Crazy that he purportedly works in the mental health field!

[Anonymous]

I do think OP probably graduated from Marymount, since that is the only school around here with this major.

I was thinking that ever since she mentioned interior design.

So, she is 24. . she likely graduated 2 years ago (2012?, 2011?)) with a major in interior design.

Not hard to do some tracing here. . .

[Anonymous]

. . .and we know her family is not from around here. . .

. . .she has to travel to go see them. . .

. . .and she does so 3-4 times a year. . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
If he was already getting what he wanted out of the relationship (sex) PRIOR to buying this ho a car and paying her rent, why would any fool pay $2400 to keep this trash in her own place? I would tell her her welcome to the real world honey, get a job like the rest of the world. $2400 a month is more than my freakin mortgage. I know right down to the dollar amount how much my husband makes too so his wife is probably turning a blind eye. This guy could and very likely does also pay high priced escorts in addition to the ho on the side.

Something tells me she aint' the first ho, ain't the only ho and won't be the last ho.

I saw a special on HBO years and years ago about what happens to these young hos (kept women) as they age....it ain't pretty. Nobody is keeping up an old ho.

Get a job. Earn a living. Being a hooker (kept woman) is not a long-term option.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if her family is 1st generation American, which could possibly explain why they are not more aware of how her age and professional growth could not possibly sustain her lifetstyle. . . .

They may just be proud of her for having graduated. . .living in "big" Washington DC. . .etc.

Also, since she went to Marymount, they may be traditional Catholic which is another reason why she went to MU but it sounds like she is not Catholic at all. . . .

Maybe they are Asian (Philipino?) or Hispanic?. . .

Man is white. . .maybe he has a thing for browner ladies but doesn't want to marry them. . ..is DW white? I think she said she is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if her family is 1st generation American, which could possibly explain why they are not more aware of how her age and professional growth could not possibly sustain her lifetstyle. . . .

They may just be proud of her for having graduated. . .living in "big" Washington DC. . .etc. Also, since she went to Marymount, they may be traditional Catholic which is another reason why she went to MU but it sounds like she is not Catholic at all. . . . Maybe they are Asian (Philipino?) or Hispanic?. . . Man is white. . .maybe he has a thing for browner ladies but doesn't want to marry them. . ..is DW white? I think she said she is.

He and I are both white. My parents are not first generation Americans. They just believe you move out when you graduate from high school and life is yours to live at that point. Obviously not helicopter parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if her family is 1st generation American, which could possibly explain why they are not more aware of how her age and professional growth could not possibly sustain her lifetstyle. . . .

They may just be proud of her for having graduated. . .living in "big" Washington DC. . .etc.

Also, since she went to Marymount, they may be traditional Catholic which is another reason why she went to MU but it sounds like she is not Catholic at all. . . .

Maybe they are Asian (Philipino?) or Hispanic?. . .

Man is white. . .maybe he has a thing for browner ladies but doesn't want to marry them. . ..is DW white? I think she said she is.

Filipino

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if her family is 1st generation American, which could possibly explain why they are not more aware of how her age and professional growth could not possibly sustain her lifetstyle. . . .

They may just be proud of her for having graduated. . .living in "big" Washington DC. . .etc. Also, since she went to Marymount, they may be traditional Catholic which is another reason why she went to MU but it sounds like she is not Catholic at all. . . . Maybe they are Asian (Philipino?) or Hispanic?. . . Man is white. . .maybe he has a thing for browner ladies but doesn't want to marry them. . ..is DW white? I think she said she is.

He and I are both white. My parents are not first generation Americans. They just believe you move out when you graduate from high school and life is yours to live at that point. Obviously not helicopter parents.

Ok, you are a white (so you say) graduate of MU. . .majored in interior design. . .not from this area. . .graduated 2 years ago (2011 or 2012). . . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if her family is 1st generation American, which could possibly explain why they are not more aware of how her age and professional growth could not possibly sustain her lifetstyle. . . .

They may just be proud of her for having graduated. . .living in "big" Washington DC. . .etc. Also, since she went to Marymount, they may be traditional Catholic which is another reason why she went to MU but it sounds like she is not Catholic at all. . . . Maybe they are Asian (Philipino?) or Hispanic?. . . Man is white. . .maybe he has a thing for browner ladies but doesn't want to marry them. . ..is DW white? I think she said she is.

He and I are both white. My parents are not first generation Americans. They just believe you move out when you graduate from high school and life is yours to live at that point. Obviously not helicopter parents.

Ok, you are a white (so you say) graduate of MU. . .majored in interior design. . .not from this area. . .graduated 2 years ago (2011 or 2012). . . .

If you graduated from MU, you probably live somewhere in the N. Arlington corridor now, where a 2-bedroom apt. *would* run you the price you cited. . .

You occasionally work for a friend's (probably a contact you met thru MU? maybe you interned there? ) store , which could be in the N. Arlington corridor also. . hmmm. . .

And you volunteer for a pet rescue organization or shelter, b/c you recently fostered a dog. . .

so your apt, must allow dogs. . .

[Anonymous]

You work out at a gym in Arlington, probably an expensive one.

I wonder which one.

Sport&Health might be too low-brow for you. . .

[Anonymous]

I think I know who this man is -- initials are D.S. Am I right, OP? I won't reveal the whole name, don't worry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, this is still going on? Looks like OP found DCUM's raw nerve...

More like every married women's darkest fear or source of paranoia.

Hardly. Women with self-esteem don't put up with that nonsense and we know where every penny goes. OP's paramour was a jerk before his wife married him and she knew it. Men like that don't change.

[Anonymous]

If you are 24 and living in the Arlington corridor, you shoudl be out having fun, OP. Don't waste your youth on this guy, who is married and totally in a diff. age bracket, etc. You have so much potential and there are so many fun things to do , so many fun people to meet, don't hide yourself away. Get out and about with people your own age. Go out to Whitlow's, Clarendon Ballroom, etc. Get out there. You are really limiting yourself and cutting yourself short.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, this is still going on? Looks like OP found DCUM's raw nerve...

More like every married women's darkest fear or source of paranoia.

Hardly. Women with self-esteem don't put up with that nonsense and we know where every penny goes. OP's paramour was a jerk before his wife married him and she knew it. Men like that don't change.

+1

And wife may be concerened with appearances, having the "right" house in the "right' location, having the kids look cute in matching outfits, etc etc etc. All of which is $$$. Which leaves her in a bind: since she doesn't WORK, what are her other options? She is stuck. She of course looks pinched!

[Anonymous]

Not the Op but you guys are scary with your detective skills on this board . I am in a similar situation op--I get it. Your post has made me realize a lot of things