Stone Ridge School of the Sacred Heart

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
This has to be a troll. If not give examples. Half the class is new. How could it start this quickly?

Response from daughter: "The "blonde squad" is this group of girls who are mean to others and get super mad when they get called out. Today they got in trouble for disturbing classes cause they kept yell and eating in places they weren't supposed to and went to go and do it again today. In english yesterday one girl who I knew when I was like five shoved me looked back at me then laughed. "

She had problems with these group of girls in the past. She is new in 9th grade (But knew a few in elementary school) and has a negative bias towards them which is why her tone is that way. But I hope her point gets across.

There are mean girls in every class. Your daughter will need to just deal with it and develop a thick skin. Mean people exist everywhere in this world. Just tell her to stick with her group and ignore the entitled blondes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
This has to be a troll. If not give examples. Half the class is new. How could it start this quickly?

Response from daughter: "The "blonde squad" is this group of girls who are mean to others and get super mad when they get called out. Today they got in trouble for disturbing classes cause they kept yell and eating in places they weren't supposed to and went to go and do it again today. In english yesterday one girl who I knew when I was like five shoved me looked back at me then laughed. "

She had problems with these group of girls in the past. She is new in 9th grade (But knew a few in elementary school) and has a negative bias towards them which is why her tone is that way. But I hope her point gets across.

There are mean girls in every class. Your daughter will need to just deal with it and develop a thick skin. Mean people exist everywhere in this world. Just tell her to stick with her group and ignore the entitled blondes.

Ha! Guess you don’t recollect what it’s like being a teenager, or maybe, you want to blow this behavior off because you, too, were one of the mean girls. Or maybe you’re the mom of one of the blonde squad? Your flippant attitude sucks. Hope you aren’t a parent at SR.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
This has to be a troll. If not give examples. Half the class is new. How could it start this quickly?

Response from daughter: "The "blonde squad" is this group of girls who are mean to others and get super mad when they get called out. Today they got in trouble for disturbing classes cause they kept yell and eating in places they weren't supposed to and went to go and do it again today. In english yesterday one girl who I knew when I was like five shoved me looked back at me then laughed. "

She had problems with these group of girls in the past. She is new in 9th grade (But knew a few in elementary school) and has a negative bias towards them which is why her tone is that way. But I hope her point gets across.

There are mean girls in every class. Your daughter will need to just deal with it and develop a thick skin. Mean people exist everywhere in this world. Just tell her to stick with her group and ignore the entitled blondes.

Ha! Guess you don’t recollect what it’s like being a teenager, or maybe, you want to blow this behavior off because you, too, were one of the mean girls. Or maybe you’re the mom of one of the blonde squad? Your flippant attitude sucks. Hope you aren’t a parent at SR.

My daughter has dark brown hair and dark brown eyes. She is a student there and had to tolerate the mean girl culture. She overcame it by distancing herself. Admin will not do a thing about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
This has to be a troll. If not give examples. Half the class is new. How could it start this quickly?

Response from daughter: "The "blonde squad" is this group of girls who are mean to others and get super mad when they get called out. Today they got in trouble for disturbing classes cause they kept yell and eating in places they weren't supposed to and went to go and do it again today. In english yesterday one girl who I knew when I was like five shoved me looked back at me then laughed. "

She had problems with these group of girls in the past. She is new in 9th grade (But knew a few in elementary school) and has a negative bias towards them which is why her tone is that way. But I hope her point gets across.

There are mean girls in every class. Your daughter will need to just deal with it and develop a thick skin. Mean people exist everywhere in this world. Just tell her to stick with her group and ignore the entitled blondes.

Ha! Guess you don’t recollect what it’s like being a teenager, or maybe, you want to blow this behavior off because you, too, were one of the mean girls. Or maybe you’re the mom of one of the blonde squad? Your flippant attitude sucks. Hope you aren’t a parent at SR.

My daughter has dark brown hair and dark brown eyes. She is a student there and had to tolerate the mean girl culture. She overcame it by distancing herself. Admin will not do a thing about it.

So girls will be girls? That’s why so many people don’t want an all-girls school.

Does anyone take this to the admin? Why does admin tolerate this?

[Anonymous]

My daughter is new to SR this year and she is struggling socially to find her place but thriving academically. We knew this might be the case as the community is a lot different than her previous school. We were willing to take this chance and we know she doesn’t have to stay. Yes, mean girls exist in every school but this is different. If you know you know. I can tell there is an effort to mix things up a bit by bringing in more diverse girls, and I’m not talking about race. However at the end of the day, money and influence talk and you have to decide what’s best for you and your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is new to SR this year and she is struggling socially to find her place but thriving academically. We knew this might be the case as the community is a lot different than her previous school. We were willing to take this chance and we know she doesn’t have to stay. Yes, mean girls exist in every school but this is different. If you know you know. I can tell there is an effort to mix things up a bit by bringing in more diverse girls, and I’m not talking about race. However at the end of the day, money and influence talk and you have to decide what’s best for you and your family.

This was our attitude and we stuck it out. It was 100% worth it. She had great leadership roles and excelled academically and her college outcome was exactly what she wanted it to be. We wanted to be in a Catholic school and have strong academics and college outcomes. There are only two schools in the DMV area that meet that criteria and SR was a more convenient commute. The other is VISI.

[Anonymous]

Why a behavior tolerated? Are the parents of the blonde squad on the board or something? Maybe big donors?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
This has to be a troll. If not give examples. Half the class is new. How could it start this quickly?

Response from daughter: "The "blonde squad" is this group of girls who are mean to others and get super mad when they get called out. Today they got in trouble for disturbing classes cause they kept yell and eating in places they weren't supposed to and went to go and do it again today. In english yesterday one girl who I knew when I was like five shoved me looked back at me then laughed. "

She had problems with these group of girls in the past. She is new in 9th grade (But knew a few in elementary school) and has a negative bias towards them which is why her tone is that way. But I hope her point gets across.

Shoving is unacceptable.

The rest sounds like teens being obnoxious (and I assume "got in trouble" means a teacher or staff said something to them). Hopefully everyone's daughter will find their place. My own daughter - new this year - has ups and downs so far.

[Anonymous]

The bar of acceptance and inclusivity appears to be very low at SR (and it’s catholic; thought that would be a positive thing but maybe that’s the problem, old-school exclusivity?) Y’all should be embarrassed by what you tolerate or accept as “normal” social norms. I guess it’s cheaper than the top academic all girls high schools in the area (but it’s not that rigorous comparatively, so I wouldn’t expect it to be 60k ) and maybe it just is another “club” for strivers. Just proving money doesn’t buy class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
This has to be a troll. If not give examples. Half the class is new. How could it start this quickly?

Response from daughter: "The "blonde squad" is this group of girls who are mean to others and get super mad when they get called out. Today they got in trouble for disturbing classes cause they kept yell and eating in places they weren't supposed to and went to go and do it again today. In english yesterday one girl who I knew when I was like five shoved me looked back at me then laughed. "

She had problems with these group of girls in the past. She is new in 9th grade (But knew a few in elementary school) and has a negative bias towards them which is why her tone is that way. But I hope her point gets across.

Shoving is unacceptable.

The rest sounds like teens being obnoxious (and I assume "got in trouble" means a teacher or staff said something to them). Hopefully everyone's daughter will find their place. My own daughter - new this year - has ups and downs so far.

This behavior isn’t the norm in other schools, even all girls schools. Seems to be uniquely SR.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The bar of acceptance and inclusivity appears to be very low at SR (and it’s catholic; thought that would be a positive thing but maybe that’s the problem, old-school exclusivity?) Y’all should be embarrassed by what you tolerate or accept as “normal” social norms. I guess it’s cheaper than the top academic all girls high schools in the area (but it’s not that rigorous comparatively, so I wouldn’t expect it to be 60k ) and maybe it just is another “club” for strivers. Just proving money doesn’t buy class.

I’ll ignore the more pointed attacks on the price and rigor of SR, as well as the characterization as a club for strivers and comments about social class. I have two daughters at SR, it always strikes me that any social issues there are characterized totally differently than the same types of incidents at my son’s school. I think people still expect that all girls should focus on being nice girls and their primary goal should be making lots of other nice girl friends rather than pushing themselves academically, or athletically / in the arts depending on their talents. We’re a SR lifer family but we recognize it can be a challenge to break in, in September and October I encourage my girls to make plans with the new girls, welcome them to a lunch table, have them join for outside social events. I’m sure it’s still a tough transition but I don’t think the stereotype of a school made up of snobby blondes is true at all. The rigor can be a lot academically but they also seemed well prepared for strong colleges. Not a perfect school, though we’ve really enjoyed it.

[Anonymous]

I have two girls at SR who started in recent years, and overall it’s been a nice transition. They have found a small group of good friends (rather than a large social circle) and have enjoyed the school spirit and all the traditions. They are not particularly sporty but have managed to get involved in intramural and JV teams. They are also engaged in school clubs and other activities. The overall class size is about 100 girls per class in high school, and that offers a pretty good mix to find your people. We came from a small co-ed school where the social situation felt much more limited and chaotic. I don’t doubt that drama exists (it is everywhere in school, work, life), but we have liked the community and have found the school to be responsive when we’ve had questions or hit bumps in the road. Hoping that all the girls can settle in and find their people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The bar of acceptance and inclusivity appears to be very low at SR (and it’s catholic; thought that would be a positive thing but maybe that’s the problem, old-school exclusivity?) Y’all should be embarrassed by what you tolerate or accept as “normal” social norms. I guess it’s cheaper than the top academic all girls high schools in the area (but it’s not that rigorous comparatively, so I wouldn’t expect it to be 60k ) and maybe it just is another “club” for strivers. Just proving money doesn’t buy class.

I’ll ignore the more pointed attacks on the price and rigor of SR, as well as the characterization as a club for strivers and comments about social class. I have two daughters at SR, it always strikes me that any social issues there are characterized totally differently than the same types of incidents at my son’s school. I think people still expect that all girls should focus on being nice girls and their primary goal should be making lots of other nice girl friends rather than pushing themselves academically, or athletically / in the arts depending on their talents. We’re a SR lifer family but we recognize it can be a challenge to break in, in September and October I encourage my girls to make plans with the new girls, welcome them to a lunch table, have them join for outside social events. I’m sure it’s still a tough transition but I don’t think the stereotype of a school made up of snobby blondes is true at all. The rigor can be a lot academically but they also seemed well prepared for strong colleges. Not a perfect school, though we’ve really enjoyed it.

Does challenging oneself academically and in other activities preclude being nice?

The expectation should be to be nice. You can do both, you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
This has to be a troll. If not give examples. Half the class is new. How could it start this quickly?

Response from daughter: "The "blonde squad" is this group of girls who are mean to others and get super mad when they get called out. Today they got in trouble for disturbing classes cause they kept yell and eating in places they weren't supposed to and went to go and do it again today. In english yesterday one girl who I knew when I was like five shoved me looked back at me then laughed. "

She had problems with these group of girls in the past. She is new in 9th grade (But knew a few in elementary school) and has a negative bias towards them which is why her tone is that way. But I hope her point gets across.

Shoving is unacceptable.

The rest sounds like teens being obnoxious (and I assume "got in trouble" means a teacher or staff said something to them). Hopefully everyone's daughter will find their place. My own daughter - new this year - has ups and downs so far.

This behavior isn’t the norm in other schools, even all girls schools. Seems to be uniquely SR.

Actually, it seems quite common. Check out the Holton threads.

It does seem worse at the all girls schools, given all the rhetoric about the sisterhood.

[Anonymous]

Our 9th is having a hard time. Drama. Too much HW. Why did we pick this school?