Isn't it a bit insensitive for parents to constantly post the little pre parties and post parties?

Anonymous
Isn't it insensitive for parents to keep posting pictures of their daughter with the same small group of friends at the pre and post parties for whatever events are going on - especially in
elementary school? I can only think this must make other parents feel left out and if this behavior continues once the girls get older, it does not set a good tone of being inclusive for the girls in the grade. Please
consider your actions.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Isn't it insensitive for parents to keep posting pictures of their daughter with the same small group of friends at the pre and post parties for whatever events are going on - especially in
elementary school? I can only think this must make other parents feel left out and if this behavior continues once the girls get older, it does not set a good tone of being inclusive for the girls in the grade. Please
consider your actions.


My keyboard apparently is broken - sorry for the messy post.
Anonymous
Posting where? Facebook?

This seems like being overly sensitive. Kids have friends. They do stuff together.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Isn't it insensitive for parents to keep posting pictures of their daughter with the same small group of friends at the pre and post parties for whatever events are going on - especially in
elementary school? I can only think this must make other parents feel left out and if this behavior continues once the girls get older, it does not set a good tone of being inclusive for the girls in the grade. Please
consider your actions.


As a parent, you should be more emotionally mature than your elementary-aged child, and therefore able to understand that some people form closer friendships and thus spend more time on those people. Then you can help your child navigate the issue in an emotionally healthy way.
Anonymous
I wish high school parents would stop hosting post-parties so often when they really aren't necessary.
Anonymous
I don't know. Not aware of these parties. Guess we're among the left out!
Anonymous
Yes, OP, it's rude. Just hope your children steer clear of their children because the apple rarely falls far from the tree. And do you really want your kids being friends with people like that?
Anonymous
Relax, OP. No one is trying to hurt feelings, try to set a better tone for your kids by acting in a more mature fashion. Not everyone has to be invited to everything - especially a preparty. (Which is generally a carpool group!)
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Relax, OP. No one is trying to hurt feelings, try to set a better tone for your kids by acting in a more mature fashion. Not everyone has to be invited to everything - especially a preparty. (Which is generally a carpool group!)


Agreed. Your hyper sensitivity will cause way more issues.
Anonymous
This is the problem with small schools
Anonymous
Yes it's rude but that's how the Queen Bees let people know who's in and who's out.
Anonymous
Why exactly is this a problem?

Can't kids get together with friends without someone getting their feelings hurt?

This is far too sensitive, OP.

Our friends went out with other friends last night and posted pictures on FB. I didn't realize I should feel left out.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Isn't it insensitive for parents to keep posting pictures of their daughter with the same small group of friends at the pre and post parties for whatever events are going on - especially in
elementary school? I can only think this must make other parents feel left out and if this behavior continues once the girls get older, it does not set a good tone of being inclusive for the girls in the grade. Please
consider your actions.


As a parent, you should be more emotionally mature than your elementary-aged child, and therefore able to understand that some people form closer friendships and thus spend more time on those people. Then you can help your child navigate the issue in an emotionally healthy way.


Wow some really mean people on these forums. 0P here and I never said that my child or I am personally upset by this. In fact, my child is not even in the same grade as this person. It just struck me as insensitive when I went on Facebook and yet again there is the same mother posting all of these pictures of all these gatherings which invite "some" of the group of friends but leave out others. I don't know what kind of school you go to, but the school where we are really tries encourage inclusivity and I guess this parent didn't get the memo. It's fine to have a little gathering party but why do you have to go on Facebook and let everybody know that you had all these gatherings. We are usually more discreet instead of throwing it in everyone's face. That's all.
Anonymous
This is why I'm not on Facebook. That, and privacy.
Anonymous
On the one hand, I see what you mean. I'd been part of a playgroup when DC was an infant. It wasn't until I started to see FB posts from the other moms with their kids all together that I eventually realized that we'd been dropped from the group. I admit, it did hurt. At one point I commented on one of the photos saying "oh, it looks like you all had so much fun. DC and I really always have fun when we're with you all." I'm guessing they still get together, but now at least have the courtesy of blocking me from seeing those posts.

On the other, how old are your kids? If it's the mom posting, then I'm assuming none of the kids are seeing this, so they shouldn't be bothered by it.
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