Boundaries!

[Anonymous]

My in-laws are visiting. My daughter and I were in the master bedroom, door mostly shut (opened just a crack). I had just made the bed and DD and I were reading some books/horsing around a bit while the other adults showered/dressed.

MIL comes in without knocking and lays on the bed with us! I quickly got up and said, "Let's head downstairs to play."

Boundaries, people! Ew! Who does this? Get off our BED!

[Anonymous]

Ugh. Don't hold your breath. MILs know no boundaries, in my experience!

[Anonymous]

I get that that is a bit intrusive. But Jeez. It comes from love. That really isn't bad as much as it may be uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get that that is a bit intrusive. But Jeez. It comes from love. That really isn't bad as much as it may be uncomfortable.

Are you kidding me? Gross. The granddaughter was probably conceived in that bed. There should be some sacred, personal space.

And she didn't even knock? RUDE. My in-laws don't behave this way, thankfully.

[Anonymous]

This would make me uncomfortable, too.

[Anonymous]

Ha! Oedipus's mom's name is Jocasta, right?

[Anonymous]

While a knock would have been nice, I wouldn't have a problem with this.

[Anonymous]

When the MIL tries to have a "girls hanging out on the bed" moment. Blech.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While a knock would have been nice, I wouldn't have a problem with this.

Knocks aren't "nice," they are REQUIRED when you are a guest in someone else's home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When the MIL tries to have a "girls hanging out on the bed" moment. Blech.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While a knock would have been nice, I wouldn't have a problem with this.

Knocks aren't "nice," they are REQUIRED when you are a guest in someone else's home.

The door was partially open, which I would say makes its meaning ambiguous.

And even in my home, if a door is closed, I knock.

[Anonymous]

or you could try making her feel included in common areas instead of hiding out in the bedroom with her granddaughter and then getting all put out when she wants to join in. jerk.

signed, a DIL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:or you could try making her feel included in common areas instead of hiding out in the bedroom with her granddaughter and then getting all put out when she wants to join in. jerk.

signed, a DIL

OP here. I wasn't "hiding out." After serving a great breakfast, I took a shower while they played, then when the other adults showered and dressed, we made the bed and had playtime.

They've been here for more than a week. I've cooked, we've done activities, we've chatted, we've gotten a sitter and then taken them out to dinner...

How about give us 20 minutes alone, knock, and get off my BED?!

[Anonymous]

Stop being so dramatic; it's not like she barged in on you and your DH!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While a knock would have been nice, I wouldn't have a problem with this.

Knocks aren't "nice," they are REQUIRED when you are a guest in someone else's home.

The door was partially open, which I would say makes its meaning ambiguous.

And even in my home, if a door is closed, I knock.

But OP said it was open a "crack." This was intrusive.