Does perimenopause cause a husband aversion?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you to OP and everyone posting. Yes I think we might all be married to the same man.

My DH makes all these annoying sounds, all day long. He'll make these loud sighing sounds, not to express an emotion but like just to annoy unce his presence in rooms. He cooks so loudly. He walks so heavy and loud (he wears through shoes really quickly and he thinks it's shoe quality but I think it's how he walks, so heavy and pounding).

My current love language is him taking the kids and going away for several hours. All I want is for them to leave me alone. Agree with the poster who says they are all gross and I don't know who is grossest. They are all always farting and tracking crumbs all over and leaving piles of paper and trash all over like raccoons. And then when I try to go through things and get rid of them, they all squawk at me that they can't possibly part with their piles of garbage and how dare I suggest it.

I do not understand how this could make sense biologically? I want to go live in the woods by myself, but they need me (frankly too much).

Just died at the raccoon comparison 😂😂😂

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel pretty bad about this. I don’t know if it’s my changing hormones or if my husband has developed annoying habits and/or dropped maintaining basic manners as he has aged. But OMG, I’m annoyed by him a lot of the time.

I think it causes an aversion to other humans in general. Down with people!

+1

I hate people. Everyone. I hate everyone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Haha, yes. Wine and separate vacations help. I think separate homes would be ideal for everyone.

+1

When he goes on work trips I love our texts. He's great when he's away. I'm sure I am too

My DH and I get along so well over texts. In person, at home, he just says so many things. Like, you don’t have to say out loud everything that pops into your head.

I'm dreaming about my husband going somewhere for a few weeks so I can have quiet home after I come home exhausted from work. We already sleep in separate bedrooms for the last few years, I cannot stand his snoring. I value my sleep and I have to get up at 0600 to work.

[Anonymous]

The chewing.

How is it so loud?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you to OP and everyone posting. Yes I think we might all be married to the same man.

My DH makes all these annoying sounds, all day long. He'll make these loud sighing sounds, not to express an emotion but like just to annoy unce his presence in rooms. He cooks so loudly. He walks so heavy and loud (he wears through shoes really quickly and he thinks it's shoe quality but I think it's how he walks, so heavy and pounding).

My current love language is him taking the kids and going away for several hours. All I want is for them to leave me alone. Agree with the poster who says they are all gross and I don't know who is grossest. They are all always farting and tracking crumbs all over and leaving piles of paper and trash all over like raccoons. And then when I try to go through things and get rid of them, they all squawk at me that they can't possibly part with their piles of garbage and how dare I suggest it.

I do not understand how this could make sense biologically? I want to go live in the woods by myself, but they need me (frankly too much).

Just died at the raccoon comparison 😂😂😂

OMG, this! Couldn't agree more. Spouse and kids make so much mess at home, I can't take it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel pretty bad about this. I don’t know if it’s my changing hormones or if my husband has developed annoying habits and/or dropped maintaining basic manners as he has aged. But OMG, I’m annoyed by him a lot of the time.

I think it causes an aversion to other humans in general. Down with people!

+1

I hate people. Everyone. I hate everyone.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why many middle age men cheat or divorce. Proceed with caution.

That sounds glorious though

Honestly, I wouldn't care if my spouse wante a divorce or cheated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please please google Matt Hyams cereal video. You will die laughing.

I just did! Yes, I almost died laughing watching this video. I will show it to my female perimenopausal coworkers tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel pretty bad about this. I don’t know if it’s my changing hormones or if my husband has developed annoying habits and/or dropped maintaining basic manners as he has aged. But OMG, I’m annoyed by him a lot of the time.

Its that plus them aging and losing manners. The combo is horrific. Then add in your teenagers hormones and lord help us all to survive these years.

Yes! I feel like I’ve been gaslit. I swear he wasn’t this way when we dated and in early marriage. Did he have a mini stroke and forget it’s gross to talk with a mouthful or food or to make a giant poop with the bathroom door wide open for all to see and hear? I don’t get it.

Are we all married to the same man or are they all the same after 50 and it only gets worse every year?

How about peeing, in the half bath next to the kitchen, without shutting the door completely. What? The kids don’t even do that. And yes, we have two teens. All 3 of them are nasty and I don’t know who is the worst.

OMG same. What cruel joke has life played on us?

Yes, we all married to the same man! I thought I was the only one, but now I see that we are all in this together!

[Anonymous]

Genuinely it’s almost gotten to the point where I’ve considered starting a hidden iPhone note just cataloging the things he did that irritated me for no reason

1. Always breaking glasses / chewing up silverware in the disposal when he does dishes because he rushes while doing it like he’s on a competitive game show or something

2. Wore a pullover and jeans on a morning when it was going to be 80+ degrees

3. Said “weren’t you wearing a different shirt when I saw you earlier?” You can clearly see I did change shirts, why are you asking me this in this bozo tone, your eyes already confirmed this reality for you.

4. Immediately took the kids out when I wouldn’t be home for dinner. Just take 5 seconds of emotional labor to plan and cook something at the house like I do all the time.

5. Uses his fork to pat his food flat and just sort of poke at it aimlessly while eating dinner. I swear he did this is a kid to look like he was eating when he didn’t want to eat the dinner because he’s a picky eater but he still does it now as an adult and it’s so fckn annoying, quit flattening/patting your food!

6. Packed a Gatorade in his pocket for a walk like he’s an elite athlete .

I’ll stop but just know, I could go on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you to OP and everyone posting. Yes I think we might all be married to the same man.

My DH makes all these annoying sounds, all day long. He'll make these loud sighing sounds, not to express an emotion but like just to annoy unce his presence in rooms. He cooks so loudly. He walks so heavy and loud (he wears through shoes really quickly and he thinks it's shoe quality but I think it's how he walks, so heavy and pounding).

My current love language is him taking the kids and going away for several hours. All I want is for them to leave me alone. Agree with the poster who says they are all gross and I don't know who is grossest. They are all always farting and tracking crumbs all over and leaving piles of paper and trash all over like raccoons. And then when I try to go through things and get rid of them, they all squawk at me that they can't possibly part with their piles of garbage and how dare I suggest it.

I do not understand how this could make sense biologically? I want to go live in the woods by myself, but they need me (frankly too much).

That was me. After reading your post, we are not only married to the same man but have the same kids and same life. I relate!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please please google Matt Hyams cereal video. You will die laughing.

I just did! Yes, I almost died laughing watching this video. I will show it to my female perimenopausal coworkers tomorrow.

I’m so glad I googled that video. Thank you. I feel that way about everyone at work and needed that before I go today.

[Anonymous]

So much farting. So much. Pretty sure he is lactose intolerant but he refuses to admit it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please please google Matt Hyams cereal video. You will die laughing.

I just did! Yes, I almost died laughing watching this video. I will show it to my female perimenopausal coworkers tomorrow.

I’m so glad I googled that video. Thank you. I feel that way about everyone at work and needed that before I go today.

That video is hilarious. Thanks to the PP who suggested it. Last night it was a sandwich with throat clearing and I could not stop thinking about the video.

Man "We should do something."
Woman thinking divorce

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Genuinely it’s almost gotten to the point where I’ve considered starting a hidden iPhone note just cataloging the things he did that irritated me for no reason

1. Always breaking glasses / chewing up silverware in the disposal when he does dishes because he rushes while doing it like he’s on a competitive game show or something

2. Wore a pullover and jeans on a morning when it was going to be 80+ degrees

3. Said “weren’t you wearing a different shirt when I saw you earlier?” You can clearly see I did change shirts, why are you asking me this in this bozo tone, your eyes already confirmed this reality for you.

4. Immediately took the kids out when I wouldn’t be home for dinner. Just take 5 seconds of emotional labor to plan and cook something at the house like I do all the time.

5. Uses his fork to pat his food flat and just sort of poke at it aimlessly while eating dinner. I swear he did this is a kid to look like he was eating when he didn’t want to eat the dinner because he’s a picky eater but he still does it now as an adult and it’s so fckn annoying, quit flattening/patting your food!

6. Packed a Gatorade in his pocket for a walk like he’s an elite athlete .

I’ll stop but just know, I could go on.

Omg. I love this. I will now start a note in iPhone and record all the annoying things. Perhaps this will make me angrier as the list will be very long. But I’ll read it to my girlfriends and we will laugh.