Does perimenopause cause a husband aversion?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you to OP and everyone posting. Yes I think we might all be married to the same man.

My DH makes all these annoying sounds, all day long. He'll make these loud sighing sounds, not to express an emotion but like just to annoy unce his presence in rooms. He cooks so loudly. He walks so heavy and loud (he wears through shoes really quickly and he thinks it's shoe quality but I think it's how he walks, so heavy and pounding).

My current love language is him taking the kids and going away for several hours. All I want is for them to leave me alone. Agree with the poster who says they are all gross and I don't know who is grossest. They are all always farting and tracking crumbs all over and leaving piles of paper and trash all over like raccoons. And then when I try to go through things and get rid of them, they all squawk at me that they can't possibly part with their piles of garbage and how dare I suggest it.

I do not understand how this could make sense biologically? I want to go live in the woods by myself, but they need me (frankly too much).

That was me. After reading your post, we are not only married to the same man but have the same kids and same life. I relate!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please please google Matt Hyams cereal video. You will die laughing.

I just did! Yes, I almost died laughing watching this video. I will show it to my female perimenopausal coworkers tomorrow.

I’m so glad I googled that video. Thank you. I feel that way about everyone at work and needed that before I go today.

[Anonymous]

So much farting. So much. Pretty sure he is lactose intolerant but he refuses to admit it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please please google Matt Hyams cereal video. You will die laughing.

I just did! Yes, I almost died laughing watching this video. I will show it to my female perimenopausal coworkers tomorrow.

I’m so glad I googled that video. Thank you. I feel that way about everyone at work and needed that before I go today.

That video is hilarious. Thanks to the PP who suggested it. Last night it was a sandwich with throat clearing and I could not stop thinking about the video.

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Woman thinking divorce

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Genuinely it’s almost gotten to the point where I’ve considered starting a hidden iPhone note just cataloging the things he did that irritated me for no reason

1. Always breaking glasses / chewing up silverware in the disposal when he does dishes because he rushes while doing it like he’s on a competitive game show or something

2. Wore a pullover and jeans on a morning when it was going to be 80+ degrees

3. Said “weren’t you wearing a different shirt when I saw you earlier?” You can clearly see I did change shirts, why are you asking me this in this bozo tone, your eyes already confirmed this reality for you.

4. Immediately took the kids out when I wouldn’t be home for dinner. Just take 5 seconds of emotional labor to plan and cook something at the house like I do all the time.

5. Uses his fork to pat his food flat and just sort of poke at it aimlessly while eating dinner. I swear he did this is a kid to look like he was eating when he didn’t want to eat the dinner because he’s a picky eater but he still does it now as an adult and it’s so fckn annoying, quit flattening/patting your food!

6. Packed a Gatorade in his pocket for a walk like he’s an elite athlete .

I’ll stop but just know, I could go on.

Omg. I love this. I will now start a note in iPhone and record all the annoying things. Perhaps this will make me angrier as the list will be very long. But I’ll read it to my girlfriends and we will laugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please please google Matt Hyams cereal video. You will die laughing.

I just did! Yes, I almost died laughing watching this video. I will show it to my female perimenopausal coworkers tomorrow.

I’m so glad I googled that video. Thank you. I feel that way about everyone at work and needed that before I go today.

The video is spot on. Except with my husband, it’s a sandwich and he’ll eat it (no plate) while following me around the kitchen/dining room and trying to talk to me.

[Anonymous]

It ain't called Men-o-Pause for nothin'!

[Anonymous]

This thread is giving me life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please please google Matt Hyams cereal video. You will die laughing.

I just did! Yes, I almost died laughing watching this video. I will show it to my female perimenopausal coworkers tomorrow.

I’m so glad I googled that video. Thank you. I feel that way about everyone at work and needed that before I go today.

The video is spot on. Except with my husband, it’s a sandwich and he’ll eat it (no plate) while following me around the kitchen/dining room and trying to talk to me.

OMG I am married to HIM too!!!

[Anonymous]

My ex-gf did that at the age of 43 and it was becoming unbearable because she was very moody and abusive for a lot of things. we had to end things and now she wants to get back together. No, thank you! I don't wish on anyone to be with a very moody peri woman. sigh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was starting to feel this way, and then went on hormones. I don’t feel this way anymore, and it had been slow to start and so insidious that I didn’t realize it was peri. I started hormones so I could sleep better, and it made all aspects of my life so much better.

Hormones ain’t helping.

[Anonymous]

Men need to mask more. For real. Act like you’re dating, guys, because you are so unappealing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom and aunt were talking about this and it’s so funny to me.
“Is there anything worse than settling into bed and then the door opens and he says mind if I join you?” *groaning*
“He wants to take a getaway. More like GO away! Go away from me and let me have the house to myself.”
“The real vacation would be a vacation from his presence.”
They say I’ll understand soon.

When I was younger I always wondered why widows did not marry again. Ah, the innocence of my youth.

I’ve said since about year 5 I would never ever marry again if my spouse died. My house would be so clean and I have a vibrator for anything else. Married 20 years, together 25.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom and aunt were talking about this and it’s so funny to me.
“Is there anything worse than settling into bed and then the door opens and he says mind if I join you?” *groaning*
“He wants to take a getaway. More like GO away! Go away from me and let me have the house to myself.”
“The real vacation would be a vacation from his presence.”
They say I’ll understand soon.

When I was younger I always wondered why widows did not marry again. Ah, the innocence of my youth.

I’ve said since about year 5 I would never ever marry again if my spouse died. My house would be so clean and I have a vibrator for anything else. Married 20 years, together 25.

Yeah. I’d probably have a male companion, but never remarry or live together. Nope.

[Anonymous]

He is currently in the basement watching some game, like he does all day every weekend and screaming YES!!!!! I can’t. I just can’t. It keeps happening over and over.