Does perimenopause cause a husband aversion?

[Anonymous]

I feel pretty bad about this. I don’t know if it’s my changing hormones or if my husband has developed annoying habits and/or dropped maintaining basic manners as he has aged. But OMG, I’m annoyed by him a lot of the time.

[Anonymous]

Yes this is a huge thing.

[Anonymous]

Everyone is more annoying

[Anonymous]

Haha, yes. Wine and separate vacations help. I think separate homes would be ideal for everyone.

[Anonymous]

YES I feel the same unfortunately

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I need to put a pillow between us at night so I can’t feel him breathing on me.

[Anonymous]

HAHAHAHAHA! YES!!!

Why do they have to chew, speak, breathe, etc?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel pretty bad about this. I don’t know if it’s my changing hormones or if my husband has developed annoying habits and/or dropped maintaining basic manners as he has aged. But OMG, I’m annoyed by him a lot of the time.

Its that plus them aging and losing manners. The combo is horrific. Then add in your teenagers hormones and lord help us all to survive these years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haha, yes. Wine and separate vacations help. I think separate homes would be ideal for everyone.

+1

When he goes on work trips I love our texts. He's great when he's away. I'm sure I am too

[Anonymous]

Yeah. I want to divorce mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel pretty bad about this. I don’t know if it’s my changing hormones or if my husband has developed annoying habits and/or dropped maintaining basic manners as he has aged. But OMG, I’m annoyed by him a lot of the time.

For me, it was both.

My DH is wondeful, and I'm grateful for him. But pretty much nobody gets less annoying as they age beyond middle age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I need to put a pillow between us at night so I can’t feel him breathing on me.

OMG the night breathing...ugh.

[Anonymous]

Yes, and then I could not have sex with him at all, due to revulsion. And in a sexless marriage (for years) he reasonably enough decided to start cheating. at which point I had to divorce him.

I don’t know what I could’ve done differently, because at that point when sex ended (and contempt skyrocketed) sex felt coerced and gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel pretty bad about this. I don’t know if it’s my changing hormones or if my husband has developed annoying habits and/or dropped maintaining basic manners as he has aged. But OMG, I’m annoyed by him a lot of the time.

Its that plus them aging and losing manners. The combo is horrific. Then add in your teenagers hormones and lord help us all to survive these years.

Yes! I feel like I’ve been gaslit. I swear he wasn’t this way when we dated and in early marriage. Did he have a mini stroke and forget it’s gross to talk with a mouthful or food or to make a giant poop with the bathroom door wide open for all to see and hear? I don’t get it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I need to put a pillow between us at night so I can’t feel him breathing on me.

OMG the night breathing...ugh.

The daytime breathing! The burping, the pooting, the hair in the sink, the coffee splatters. I could go on.

For the night breathing, I recommend separate bedrooms although this does reduce intimacy.