GF tracking location of daughter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:CONTROLLING!!!

Nope! SMART!!!!!!!!

She is 26! That is nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's being a mom.
What is the issue with this?
The world is a scary and dangerous place, especially for women.

I am a mom. No way in hell will I ever allow anyone to track me and I will never track my daughters. It is a complete invasion of privacy. I cannot believe this has been normalized.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I don't have a problem with her keeping it for the emergency purposes or if the kids need it but it goes way more than that. She checks on her several times a day. It looks super weird to me because she would find the location/address of the person her daughter is dating and then google him and try to find out more about him and his family. That is not normal. This also goes with her comment if daughter is spending night with the guy she is dating, etc. I believe she needs to trust her daughter who she choses to date and how she handles and I could also see this in her daughter as being low in confidence and anxious.

In addition, she gets super panicky/anxious if she don't hear from her daughter when she is going to CVS or another store close by and at that time our family or personal time is down the drain.

This is so messed up.

[Anonymous]

Imagine what he had probably done on OP. Not only daughter but she is tracking people she's dating. Super controlling! WTH!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you rich, OP?

Why does a woman with a grown child need a boyfriend?

Like anyone else does. People don't need partners only because they want them to take care of kids.

[Anonymous]

We have two young adults. I've never tracked their location. Heck - I don't track share locations with my spouse.

We have an open honest relationship with both. It's not needed for us.

Your GF has issues. Problem stems from being a single mother.

But also none of your business as just the BF and not that child's father.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:CONTROLLING!!!

Nope! SMART!!!!!!!!

She is 26! That is nuts.

Nope, try again. Also it’s none of your business

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:CONTROLLING!!!

Nope! SMART!!!!!!!!

She is 26! That is nuts.

Nope, try again. Also it’s none of your business

You might say it's none of OPs business - but frankly it is. The behavior and obsessive nature of the actions would be a deal breaker for me, and tbh if I were OP, I would tell the daughter because it's sick behavior.

I don't have an opinion on sharing location with your family - but I wouldn't date someone who is checking multiple times a day/freaks out when they can't be located and goes so far as to google and stalk potential dating partners. The behavior is more than odd.

OP - not that you asked but I would end the relationship over this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:CONTROLLING!!!

Nope! SMART!!!!!!!!

She is 26! That is nuts.

Nope, try again. Also it’s none of your business

You might say it's none of OPs business - but frankly it is. The behavior and obsessive nature of the actions would be a deal breaker for me, and tbh if I were OP, I would tell the daughter because it's sick behavior.

I don't have an opinion on sharing location with your family - but I wouldn't date someone who is checking multiple times a day/freaks out when they can't be located and goes so far as to google and stalk potential dating partners. The behavior is more than odd.

OP - not that you asked but I would end the relationship over this.

No, I didn’t ask and it is none of his business how she chooses to interact with her daughter. And if my SO insisted that it was, I’d break up with him. What makes you think the daughter doesn’t know or that she doesn’t want her mom to check on her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:CONTROLLING!!!

Nope! SMART!!!!!!!!

She is 26! That is nuts.

Nope, try again. Also it’s none of your business

You might say it's none of OPs business - but frankly it is. The behavior and obsessive nature of the actions would be a deal breaker for me, and tbh if I were OP, I would tell the daughter because it's sick behavior.

I don't have an opinion on sharing location with your family - but I wouldn't date someone who is checking multiple times a day/freaks out when they can't be located and goes so far as to google and stalk potential dating partners. The behavior is more than odd.

OP - not that you asked but I would end the relationship over this.

No, I didn’t ask and it is none of his business how she chooses to interact with her daughter. And if my SO insisted that it was, I’d break up with him. What makes you think the daughter doesn’t know or that she doesn’t want her mom to check on her?

PP here and this was directed to OP. You seem awfully invested and sound like another controlling narcissist.

You think the daughter knows that she checks her location every hour and google stalks her dating partners? HA! I highly doubt it. Keep stalking your kids wierdo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:CONTROLLING!!!

Nope! SMART!!!!!!!!

She is 26! That is nuts.

Nope, try again. Also it’s none of your business

You might say it's none of OPs business - but frankly it is. The behavior and obsessive nature of the actions would be a deal breaker for me, and tbh if I were OP, I would tell the daughter because it's sick behavior.

I don't have an opinion on sharing location with your family - but I wouldn't date someone who is checking multiple times a day/freaks out when they can't be located and goes so far as to google and stalk potential dating partners. The behavior is more than odd.

OP - not that you asked but I would end the relationship over this.

No, I didn’t ask and it is none of his business how she chooses to interact with her daughter. And if my SO insisted that it was, I’d break up with him. What makes you think the daughter doesn’t know or that she doesn’t want her mom to check on her?

It IS OPs business to check the behavior of HIS dating partner - if she's a obsessive psycho it doesn't just stop at one person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:CONTROLLING!!!

Nope! SMART!!!!!!!!

She is 26! That is nuts.

Nope, try again. Also it’s none of your business

You might say it's none of OPs business - but frankly it is. The behavior and obsessive nature of the actions would be a deal breaker for me, and tbh if I were OP, I would tell the daughter because it's sick behavior.

I don't have an opinion on sharing location with your family - but I wouldn't date someone who is checking multiple times a day/freaks out when they can't be located and goes so far as to google and stalk potential dating partners. The behavior is more than odd.

OP - not that you asked but I would end the relationship over this.

No, I didn’t ask and it is none of his business how she chooses to interact with her daughter. And if my SO insisted that it was, I’d break up with him. What makes you think the daughter doesn’t know or that she doesn’t want her mom to check on her?

PP here and this was directed to OP. You seem awfully invested and sound like another controlling narcissist.

You think the daughter knows that she checks her location every hour and google stalks her dating partners? HA! I highly doubt it. Keep stalking your kids wierdo.

I am OP and the previous comment wasn't from me. I didn't ask or comment on any of it with her but sees the obsessiveness with her daughter's location and what she is doing. I know a lot of people do it for safety purposes but I haven't seen this level of involvement. Was concerning to me so I posted it here. I didn't want to discuss it with her since she likes to provide input in my kids' life but don't take it well so I just stay away and respect boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Op, this is a major red flag. Upto you, if you want to continue your relationship with her and if you do then serious boundaries are needed. If she doesn't respect boundaries then she could have narcissistic tendencies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it normal for my GF to track location of her 26 year old daughter who lives 4 hours away. She went to school in Pittsburgh and also has a job there. Normal kid who doesn't have any weird habits(as far as I know) but her mom(my gf) tracks her all the time and see what she is doing. I understand sometimes it is good to know where your kids are for safety purposes but this is a little too much. Also, would you allow your mom to track you if you are 26?

You know the answer to this.

I didn't even track my kids when they were teenagers. Because WTAF.

Not, not WHAF? Just because you choose not to use the technology available to you does not make the rest of us wrong for using whatever we have at our disposal. People like you are so cool, until something happens and then you're full of regrets that you didn't even make it an option.

Yes, it does. And you're doing your children zero favors in engaging in this stalking behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, this is a major red flag. Upto you, if you want to continue your relationship with her and if you do then serious boundaries are needed. If she doesn't respect boundaries then she could have narcissistic tendencies.

This.

I think everyone is conflating sharing location and the bizarre behavior of OPs gf. It's one thing for safety to share location amongst family / friends but the behavior that OPs gf is displaying goes well beyond that.

OP - I understand that you are respecting her boundaries and her dynamic with her daughter - but her behavior doesn't exist in a vacuum. You don't just switch off psycho behavior at certain people and things. Do you want YOUR children to be affected by this type of behavior later on down the line in a relationship? Do YOU want this for yourself? This isn't just a red flag - this is a whole stop sign in your face.