GF tracking location of daughter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is so far from being your business. Get your head on straight before she kicks you to the curb.

I think he's considering dumping her over this. As well he should. This is not normal behavior.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is it normal for my GF to track location of her 26 year old daughter who lives 4 hours away. She went to school in Pittsburgh and also has a job there. Normal kid who doesn't have any weird habits(as far as I know) but her mom(my gf) tracks her all the time and see what she is doing. I understand sometimes it is good to know where your kids are for safety purposes but this is a little too much. Also, would you allow your mom to track you if you are 26?

You know the answer to this.

I didn't even track my kids when they were teenagers. Because WTAF.

Not, not WHAF? Just because you choose not to use the technology available to you does not make the rest of us wrong for using whatever we have at our disposal. People like you are so cool, until something happens and then you're full of regrets that you didn't even make it an option.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is it normal for my GF to track location of her 26 year old daughter who lives 4 hours away. She went to school in Pittsburgh and also has a job there. Normal kid who doesn't have any weird habits(as far as I know) but her mom(my gf) tracks her all the time and see what she is doing. I understand sometimes it is good to know where your kids are for safety purposes but this is a little too much. Also, would you allow your mom to track you if you are 26?

You know the answer to this.

I didn't even track my kids when they were teenagers. Because WTAF.

Same. But I have more than one child and don't live alone, I might be a little more neurotic my daughter was my only lifeline.

[Anonymous]

This is obviously between your gf and her daughter. This is not your business. Leave it alone, weirdo. Maybe consider being supportive of their relationship.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I don't have a problem with her keeping it for the emergency purposes or if the kids need it but it goes way more than that. She checks on her several times a day. It looks super weird to me because she would find the location/address of the person her daughter is dating and then google him and try to find out more about him and his family. That is not normal. This also goes with her comment if daughter is spending night with the guy she is dating, etc. I believe she needs to trust her daughter who she choses to date and how she handles and I could also see this in her daughter as being low in confidence and anxious.

In addition, she gets super panicky/anxious if she don't hear from her daughter when she is going to CVS or another store close by and at that time our family or personal time is down the drain.

[Anonymous]

Everyone in our family shares location. It doesn’t mean we are constantly checking. I’m the one who checks most often (mom). Usually I check when I know my kids are driving somewhere (like from college to home). My children know this. They aren’t unknowingly sharing locations. They share locations with several of their friends as well. Anyone in GenZ who used SnapMap really doesn’t think it’s an invasion of privacy.

I also share locations with my sisters. It’s really not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friends and I all have kids that are young adults. This is more common than you realize. My android phone doesn’t have this feature so it was never an option for me.

Of course it does.

[Anonymous]

There's a major generational gap here. I think location tracking is for very specific contexts, like, one of us is driving home from a work trip. My boyfriend and I enjoy the anticipation of watching the other get closer. If he expected me to share my location all the time, that would be a red flag, overly controlling, and probably a dealbreaker.

But the kids... the kids all track each other all the time. My college-aged daughter can locate her dozen "closest" friends (some of them not even all that close) anywhere in the world, at any time, and they her.

College-aged and 26 might be enough different that this isn't the norm for your girlfriend's daughter, I don't know. And neither do you. Regardless, it's none of your business.

[Anonymous]

Not your business.
I still have location tracking on for my 19 year old. Granted, 19 is different than 26, but still. I'm not up in my kid's business, but occasionally it warms my heart to see where she is. Why is that an issue? She can go wherever she wants. She sees my location too.

Honestly, with young women getting kidnapped or assaulted in this country, it's not terrible for someone to have location tracking shared with them. If she was genearlly non-responsive, I'd want to see where she last was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it normal for my GF to track location of her 26 year old daughter who lives 4 hours away. She went to school in Pittsburgh and also has a job there. Normal kid who doesn't have any weird habits(as far as I know) but her mom(my gf) tracks her all the time and see what she is doing. I understand sometimes it is good to know where your kids are for safety purposes but this is a little too much. Also, would you allow your mom to track you if you are 26?

I wouldn't do it (I have two daughters) and I wouldn't have allowed it had that technology been in existence when I was 26, but the issue here isn't whether or not it's "right" or "wrong." If the mother are daughter are fine with it, then it's right for them. If you don't like it, then you are free to break up with your GF, but you don't get to dictate what is appropriate for their relationship. If the daughter doesn't like it but the mother does it anyway, that is their argument to have, not yours. Your opinion matters only with respect to whether or not you want to be in a relationship with someone who does this, regardless of whether it is right or wrong because it is what it is.

[Anonymous]

No it's not normal.
Break up with her crazy ass
And all these moms claiming it's normal would have lost their minds if their own .oms were tracking them
More gen x emmeshed codependent parenting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sharing location is one thing, probably a good idea for emergencies and what not, tracking is another. Unless there is a legitimate need, that is super weird for a 26 year old.

Agreed

Our family shares locations but we don't track each other unless there is some sort of concern about where someone is. My friend's phone dings all the times with alerts like "Madison just arrived at home" and it's broad daylight and she's with her dad. I can't figure out why someone would want that on their phone but to each their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I don't have a problem with her keeping it for the emergency purposes or if the kids need it but it goes way more than that. She checks on her several times a day. It looks super weird to me because she would find the location/address of the person her daughter is dating and then google him and try to find out more about him and his family. That is not normal. This also goes with her comment if daughter is spending night with the guy she is dating, etc. I believe she needs to trust her daughter who she choses to date and how she handles and I could also see this in her daughter as being low in confidence and anxious.

In addition, she gets super panicky/anxious if she don't hear from her daughter when she is going to CVS or another store close by and at that time our family or personal time is down the drain.

She is looking up addresses for the people that her daughter is dating? this is crazy red flag and OP needs to run. I am not sure if the daughter knows what her mom is doing and I find it very offensive and invasion of privacy if my mom or dad did this. Who knows what else she is tracking on OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I don't have a problem with her keeping it for the emergency purposes or if the kids need it but it goes way more than that. She checks on her several times a day. It looks super weird to me because she would find the location/address of the person her daughter is dating and then google him and try to find out more about him and his family. That is not normal. This also goes with her comment if daughter is spending night with the guy she is dating, etc. I believe she needs to trust her daughter who she choses to date and how she handles and I could also see this in her daughter as being low in confidence and anxious.

In addition, she gets super panicky/anxious if she don't hear from her daughter when she is going to CVS or another store close by and at that time our family or personal time is down the drain.

Ok, so use this information to decide if you want to be dating someone like that. It doesn't matter if what she's doing is ok or not if you don't like it, then you act accordingly.

[Anonymous]

Op is asking for an opinion on this forum and I say this is a huge red flag. Who does that these days? Imagine living with her is so suffocating.