Ageist comment from co-worker

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im 50. I don’t mind being called old necessarily, but I also wouldn’t like being grouped in as “old ladies” by a young person at work.

But what’s worse than being an old lady? Probably being a humorous old lady. Now he’ll just call you a Karen.

I am 50 and called myself an old lady at work recently. It was in context of “I am not doing that shitty task, I’ve earned my dues.” Honestly it probably wouldn’t have bugged me but I am much less sensitive to my age than many who post here. Honestly I’m pretty proud to be where I am. I am snappy though so I probably would have said that one day he won’t be young and dumb anymore.

[Anonymous]

It sucks but age comes for us all (if we are lucky).

In a few years all the early and mid 20s staff will think he’s old and feel sorry that he has to skip HH for daycare pick up.

In 20 years he too will be 50, likely losing his hair and trying to stretch out his back in a meeting because it’s so stiff.

Age is the great equalizer and it comes sooner than we think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sucks but age comes for us all (if we are lucky).

In a few years all the early and mid 20s staff will think he’s old and feel sorry that he has to skip HH for daycare pick up.

In 20 years he too will be 50, likely losing his hair and trying to stretch out his back in a meeting because it’s so stiff.

Age is the great equalizer and it comes sooner than we think.

I'm pretty sure it takes 50 years to get 50 years old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are old. That part is just factual biographical information. You're the one that made it negative, not him.

And you are equally ageist.

The comment in the workplace setting was extremely inappropriate

He was rude, glad that you called him out. I’m older than you and I think the PP has a point. You are old for the workplace, also more experienced, seasoned, mature etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sucks but age comes for us all (if we are lucky).

In a few years all the early and mid 20s staff will think he’s old and feel sorry that he has to skip HH for daycare pick up.

In 20 years he too will be 50, likely losing his hair and trying to stretch out his back in a meeting because it’s so stiff.

Age is the great equalizer and it comes sooner than we think.

I'm pretty sure it takes 50 years to get 50 years old.

Yes, but like I said, you are always going to be old to someone once you get passed early 20s.

[Anonymous]

You are too sensitive. I’m also 50 and sorry to tell you, but it’s old.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are old. That part is just factual biographical information. You're the one that made it negative, not him.

And you are equally ageist.

The comment in the workplace setting was extremely inappropriate

Why do you think it is so bad to be old?

It’s not bad to be old.

It’s bad to be treated “less than” because of your age.

OP wasn’t treated “less than”.

Of course she was!

She wasn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are too sensitive. I’m also 50 and sorry to tell you, but it’s old.

And it’s not a bad thing.

[Anonymous]

She may be sensitive but after having had to go through micro aggression training, I say call him out. If we are supposed to call people out for any little thing that offends us, then go for it.

[Anonymous]

Old precedes elderly, when you are 55 you can draw from 401k without penalty so that is elderly

[Anonymous]

I’m 47 and would have told him to stuff it right then and there. “Oh look is the Gen Z with no social skills!”

People will ALWAYS find something to use against you. Hair color, skin color, where you went to school, where you didn’t go to school, your age… it’s always the same attempt at personality assassination disguised as “humor.” Just strike back right away and note the kind of person they are. And then go do your thing.

[Anonymous]

Get over it. Or be miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 47 and would have told him to stuff it right then and there. “Oh look is the Gen Z with no social skills!”

People will ALWAYS find something to use against you. Hair color, skin color, where you went to school, where you didn’t go to school, your age… it’s always the same attempt at personality assassination disguised as “humor.” Just strike back right away and note the kind of person they are. And then go do your thing.

It wasn't even a negative comment to begin with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Old precedes elderly, when you are 55 you can draw from 401k without penalty so that is elderly

IMO elderly is more like 65. 55 is old though.

[Anonymous]

He was rude and you can't unhear what you heard. I'd just keep disliking him without showing it too much obviously.