Ageist comment from co-worker

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are old. That part is just factual biographical information. You're the one that made it negative, not him.

It would be equally as weird to say "the black women," "the fat ladies," "the bald men," etc.

OP here. Agreed. The guy that made the comment is really overweight. I would never refer to him as “the fat guy.”

You should and say you were joking.

I know you won't but just imagine it and you'll feel better.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You handled it perfectly, OP. I think the reason you're still annoyed is that you're probably sensing a lot of misogyny and general contempt for women and perhaps anyone who isn't in his social group from this particular person. Try not to let it show.

No, it’s her own internalized struggle with being an older women.

The kid probably just hangs out with people with a sense of humor and needs to learn how to code switch for old, humorless people at work.

Just stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You handled it perfectly, OP. I think the reason you're still annoyed is that you're probably sensing a lot of misogyny and general contempt for women and perhaps anyone who isn't in his social group from this particular person. Try not to let it show.

No, it’s her own internalized struggle with being an older women.

The kid probably just hangs out with people with a sense of humor and needs to learn how to code switch for old, humorless people at work.

OP here again. Yeah I admit it’s a sensitive topic for me as I need to stay employed and we live in an ageist culture. When my teenaged kid calls me old i laugh because I could care less. But seriously what’s so humorous about calling someone old? Would it have been funny if I called him fat (which he is). No-it would have been mean, unprofessional and offensive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You handled it perfectly, OP. I think the reason you're still annoyed is that you're probably sensing a lot of misogyny and general contempt for women and perhaps anyone who isn't in his social group from this particular person. Try not to let it show.

No, it’s her own internalized struggle with being an older women.

The kid probably just hangs out with people with a sense of humor and needs to learn how to code switch for old, humorless people at work.

OP here again. Yeah I admit it’s a sensitive topic for me as I need to stay employed and we live in an ageist culture. When my teenaged kid calls me old i laugh because I could care less. But seriously what’s so humorous about calling someone old? Would it have been funny if I called him fat (which he is). No-it would have been mean, unprofessional and offensive.

You’re the one making “old” a bad thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You handled it perfectly, OP. I think the reason you're still annoyed is that you're probably sensing a lot of misogyny and general contempt for women and perhaps anyone who isn't in his social group from this particular person. Try not to let it show.

No, it’s her own internalized struggle with being an older women.

The kid probably just hangs out with people with a sense of humor and needs to learn how to code switch for old, humorless people at work.

Just stop.

If you are finding “general contempt for women” everywhere you go then it sounds like a you issue.

The previous poster did not mention contempt for women. What are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are old. That part is just factual biographical information. You're the one that made it negative, not him.

And you are equally ageist.

The comment in the workplace setting was extremely inappropriate

Why do you think it is so bad to be old?

It’s not bad to be old.

It’s bad to be treated “less than” because of your age.

OP wasn’t treated “less than”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You handled it perfectly, OP. I think the reason you're still annoyed is that you're probably sensing a lot of misogyny and general contempt for women and perhaps anyone who isn't in his social group from this particular person. Try not to let it show.

No, it’s her own internalized struggle with being an older women.

The kid probably just hangs out with people with a sense of humor and needs to learn how to code switch for old, humorless people at work.

Just stop.

If you are finding “general contempt for women” everywhere you go then it sounds like a you issue.

The previous poster did not mention contempt for women. What are you talking about?

Look at the earlier quotes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You handled it perfectly, OP. I think the reason you're still annoyed is that you're probably sensing a lot of misogyny and general contempt for women and perhaps anyone who isn't in his social group from this particular person. Try not to let it show.

No, it’s her own internalized struggle with being an older women.

The kid probably just hangs out with people with a sense of humor and needs to learn how to code switch for old, humorless people at work.

Just stop.

If you are finding “general contempt for women” everywhere you go then it sounds like a you issue.

The previous poster did not mention contempt for women. What are you talking about?

Look at the earlier quotes.

Which likely came from someone else. A different poster probably said stop to the immature poster trying to start something with the humorless line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You handled it perfectly, OP. I think the reason you're still annoyed is that you're probably sensing a lot of misogyny and general contempt for women and perhaps anyone who isn't in his social group from this particular person. Try not to let it show.

No, it’s her own internalized struggle with being an older women.

The kid probably just hangs out with people with a sense of humor and needs to learn how to code switch for old, humorless people at work.

Just stop.

If you are finding “general contempt for women” everywhere you go then it sounds like a you issue.

Your comments show contempt for people. Work on yourself.

[Anonymous]

Old is relative! Old always stays ahead of you.

Teens would think he is an old guy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You handled it perfectly, OP. I think the reason you're still annoyed is that you're probably sensing a lot of misogyny and general contempt for women and perhaps anyone who isn't in his social group from this particular person. Try not to let it show.

No, it’s her own internalized struggle with being an older women.

The kid probably just hangs out with people with a sense of humor and needs to learn how to code switch for old, humorless people at work.

Just stop.

If you are finding “general contempt for women” everywhere you go then it sounds like a you issue.

The previous poster did not mention contempt for women. What are you talking about?

Look at the earlier quotes.

Which likely came from someone else. A different poster probably said stop to the immature poster trying to start something with the humorless line.

Seems like you’re having trouble following. Maybe ask one of the “kids” from work for help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You handled it perfectly, OP. I think the reason you're still annoyed is that you're probably sensing a lot of misogyny and general contempt for women and perhaps anyone who isn't in his social group from this particular person. Try not to let it show.

No, it’s her own internalized struggle with being an older women.

The kid probably just hangs out with people with a sense of humor and needs to learn how to code switch for old, humorless people at work.

Just stop.

If you are finding “general contempt for women” everywhere you go then it sounds like a you issue.

Your comments show contempt for people. Work on yourself.

I have contempt for people who constantly manufacture grievances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You handled it perfectly, OP. I think the reason you're still annoyed is that you're probably sensing a lot of misogyny and general contempt for women and perhaps anyone who isn't in his social group from this particular person. Try not to let it show.

No, it’s her own internalized struggle with being an older women.

The kid probably just hangs out with people with a sense of humor and needs to learn how to code switch for old, humorless people at work.

Just stop.

If you are finding “general contempt for women” everywhere you go then it sounds like a you issue.

Your comments show contempt for people. Work on yourself.

I have contempt for people who constantly manufacture grievances.

It's late. Go to bed. Stop calling your coworkers old. Be a better person.

Good night.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You handled it perfectly, OP. I think the reason you're still annoyed is that you're probably sensing a lot of misogyny and general contempt for women and perhaps anyone who isn't in his social group from this particular person. Try not to let it show.

No, it’s her own internalized struggle with being an older women.

The kid probably just hangs out with people with a sense of humor and needs to learn how to code switch for old, humorless people at work.

Just stop.

If you are finding “general contempt for women” everywhere you go then it sounds like a you issue.

The previous poster did not mention contempt for women. What are you talking about?

Look at the earlier quotes.

Which likely came from someone else. A different poster probably said stop to the immature poster trying to start something with the humorless line.

Seems like you’re having trouble following. Maybe ask one of the “kids” from work for help.

Maybe I can help since I'm under 40. On this site many people make comments and you can't tell who said what. You think you are insulting a different poster than you are.

Hope that helps. I know technology can be hard.

[Anonymous]

Im 50. I don’t mind being called old necessarily, but I also wouldn’t like being grouped in as “old ladies” by a young person at work.

But what’s worse than being an old lady? Probably being a humorous old lady. Now he’ll just call you a Karen.