Breast Implants for 19 Year Old Daughter

[Anonymous]

Assuming this is not a troll post, I would ask this father to reconsider supporting his daughter needing to alter her body to feel comfortable in it. Support her in accepting and loving herself as she is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so comflicted. I maybe all the people saying she should wait are maybe really not flat chested. I am. And let me tell you that it really really impacted my dating life. It’s almost like missing a limb. There are a lot of guys out there that just won’t date a girl with no breasts. You can say — oh they are shallow and you’re better off without them. But I’m not sure that’s true. I feel llle my life might have been different had I had more guys interested. I had a pretty face and was thin and a pretty good personality. But having no breasts at all really narrows the field.

It also strikes me as somewhat hypocritical that people are very supportive of trans people getting top surgery because if they identify as female it’s important to have breasts. But a cis gender woman who never develops breasts is considered vain and shallow if she wants surgery to get the same thing?

So I guess for me it would really depend on whether my daughter seemed like she was just the type who is never satisfied and is trying to make small adjustments to things that are basically fine, or whether she’s very far out of the norm and is trying to bring herself more into socially expected physical norms. I’d say the same thing about a nose job.

And I don’t think it’s creepy for a dad to ask this, if his daughter has brought him into the conversation by asking for his help in getting the mother on board.

I have a friend who was very flat chested, maybe a double A, and got implants at 25 to go to a small B. She's quite thin so her figure looked great after the sugery and she always said it was the best decision she ever made. But she was 25, finished with law school, and making a decision based on some understanding of knowing for sure what her body looked like as an adult.

I don't think there's anything wrong with someone getting implants if it's what they want, but it's a huge decision to make at 19. My understanding is that it can even affect whether a woman is able to breastfeed, something that most 19 year olds might not think or care about but which she might care about in the future, and having to have them replaced regularly is another reason not to do it too young.

[Anonymous]

I waited until after kids for mine and (ironically) did not do much breastfeeding as my supply was limited.
My friends who had implants did not have any issues breast feeding.

If my DD was truly flat and wanted them at 19 I would be ok with it if she actually did the research and understood what she is getting into.
She probably does not have very much tissue to work with so they will have to be small. But also, she should talk to a few surgeons and also have them evaluate her muscle tissue. She may want to spend some time in the gym prior to getting them to build up he chest muscles if she is going under the muscle (which is best results).
Once she has the information and a plan, maybe talking with DW about her findings and approach will reassure her she is not rushing into anything.

[Anonymous]

I have a 19 year old DD too, I would advise not to. She’s too young and her cup size will mostly get bigger as she gets older into her 20’s.

[Anonymous]

She's an adult. None of your business.

[Anonymous]

No 19 year old girl wants her dad thinking about this or weighing in. Gross.

[Anonymous]

Implants only last 10-20 years. If you get them at 19 you will have to have about 4 more surgeries in the future to replace them. I wouldn’t.

[Anonymous]

I have always been naturally thin and was something like a 28AA at 19. 32B before having kids. I would wait.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:no.

Anyway. When I had my baby girl, I told my MIl that it was so cute my baby had her nose. MIL said "that's not my nose; I got mine chopped off when I was 19". I had no idea what to say to that. FF, my 12 yr old has her grandmother's...new nose. No idea how.

Lol. At least she was being honest!

Oh, she was. Apparently she was sort of forced into it by her mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Implants only last 10-20 years. If you get them at 19 you will have to have about 4 more surgeries in the future to replace them. I wouldn’t.

I didn't know this.

[Anonymous]

Ask if she can wait until after college. By then she can see where her body has settled, there may still be some development to come.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so comflicted. I maybe all the people saying she should wait are maybe really not flat chested. I am. And let me tell you that it really really impacted my dating life. It’s almost like missing a limb. There are a lot of guys out there that just won’t date a girl with no breasts. You can say — oh they are shallow and you’re better off without them. But I’m not sure that’s true. I feel llle my life might have been different had I had more guys interested. I had a pretty face and was thin and a pretty good personality. But having no breasts at all really narrows the field.

It also strikes me as somewhat hypocritical that people are very supportive of trans people getting top surgery because if they identify as female it’s important to have breasts. But a cis gender woman who never develops breasts is considered vain and shallow if she wants surgery to get the same thing?

So I guess for me it would really depend on whether my daughter seemed like she was just the type who is never satisfied and is trying to make small adjustments to things that are basically fine, or whether she’s very far out of the norm and is trying to bring herself more into socially expected physical norms. I’d say the same thing about a nose job.

And I don’t think it’s creepy for a dad to ask this, if his daughter has brought him into the conversation by asking for his help in getting the mother on board.

I haven't experienced this or ever heard of this AT ALL.

--A cup

That’s my post and I’m like a AA and AAA. And I bet you’re actually more like a B cup. Lots of women with what I would consider a really nice rack describe themselves as flat chested!
I think it’s akin to a guy being shorter than 5’6” …. There are still women that will date a super short guy, but it definitely narrows the pool. Breasts are considered so essential to female identity that insurance will pay to replace them if you lose them for a medical reason, so I don’t really blame guys if that’s a requirement for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so comflicted. I maybe all the people saying she should wait are maybe really not flat chested. I am. And let me tell you that it really really impacted my dating life. It’s almost like missing a limb. There are a lot of guys out there that just won’t date a girl with no breasts. You can say — oh they are shallow and you’re better off without them. But I’m not sure that’s true. I feel llle my life might have been different had I had more guys interested. I had a pretty face and was thin and a pretty good personality. But having no breasts at all really narrows the field.

It also strikes me as somewhat hypocritical that people are very supportive of trans people getting top surgery because if they identify as female it’s important to have breasts. But a cis gender woman who never develops breasts is considered vain and shallow if she wants surgery to get the same thing?

So I guess for me it would really depend on whether my daughter seemed like she was just the type who is never satisfied and is trying to make small adjustments to things that are basically fine, or whether she’s very far out of the norm and is trying to bring herself more into socially expected physical norms. I’d say the same thing about a nose job.

And I don’t think it’s creepy for a dad to ask this, if his daughter has brought him into the conversation by asking for his help in getting the mother on board.

I haven't experienced this or ever heard of this AT ALL.

--A cup

That’s my post and I’m like a AA and AAA. And I bet you’re actually more like a B cup. Lots of women with what I would consider a really nice rack describe themselves as flat chested!
I think it’s akin to a guy being shorter than 5’6” …. There are still women that will date a super short guy, but it definitely narrows the pool. Breasts are considered so essential to female identity that insurance will pay to replace them if you lose them for a medical reason, so I don’t really blame guys if that’s a requirement for them.

I’m also flat-flat. I totally believe it. I’ve always dated plenty, but I have a pretty face and a nice butt and legs annd some guys are really into that. Even still, I’m positive my lack of boobs has turned some guys off. I’ve heard more than once, “you’d be perfect if only….” And I’ve had 2 offers from men to buy me implants. All that is fine because I had other attractive enough attributes, but what pp says does not sound off-base to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so comflicted. I maybe all the people saying she should wait are maybe really not flat chested. I am. And let me tell you that it really really impacted my dating life. It’s almost like missing a limb. There are a lot of guys out there that just won’t date a girl with no breasts. You can say — oh they are shallow and you’re better off without them. But I’m not sure that’s true. I feel llle my life might have been different had I had more guys interested. I had a pretty face and was thin and a pretty good personality. But having no breasts at all really narrows the field.

It also strikes me as somewhat hypocritical that people are very supportive of trans people getting top surgery because if they identify as female it’s important to have breasts. But a cis gender woman who never develops breasts is considered vain and shallow if she wants surgery to get the same thing?

So I guess for me it would really depend on whether my daughter seemed like she was just the type who is never satisfied and is trying to make small adjustments to things that are basically fine, or whether she’s very far out of the norm and is trying to bring herself more into socially expected physical norms. I’d say the same thing about a nose job.

And I don’t think it’s creepy for a dad to ask this, if his daughter has brought him into the conversation by asking for his help in getting the mother on board.

I haven't experienced this or ever heard of this AT ALL.

--A cup

That’s my post and I’m like a AA and AAA. And I bet you’re actually more like a B cup. Lots of women with what I would consider a really nice rack describe themselves as flat chested!
I think it’s akin to a guy being shorter than 5’6” …. There are still women that will date a super short guy, but it definitely narrows the pool. Breasts are considered so essential to female identity that insurance will pay to replace them if you lose them for a medical reason, so I don’t really blame guys if that’s a requirement for them.

I’m also flat-flat. I totally believe it. I’ve always dated plenty, but I have a pretty face and a nice butt and legs annd some guys are really into that. Even still, I’m positive my lack of boobs has turned some guys off. I’ve heard more than once, “you’d be perfect if only….” And I’ve had 2 offers from men to buy me implants. All that is fine because I had other attractive enough attributes, but what pp says does not sound off-base to me.

Your ex boyfriends suck.

When I was 19 and very skinny/small (as many teens are), I was having a summer fling with a guy and I lamented to him my small boobs, and he said I needed to find a guy who was into small boobs. I said yeah maybe some guys can deal, but he was like “no you’ll find a guy who is INTO small boobs, like prefers them”. It blew my mind that this could be true. As it turns out, I had several boyfriends through college who were totally down (never complained!) and looking back, they definitely had a “type” since all their girlfriends were super small and petite. Which is pretty normal for guys to be into. I met my dh at the end of college and he’s a butt guy (ironic because I also wouldn’t have said I have a butt, but he is obsessed with mine) and probably not “into” small boobs but he is into small-overall women. So usually that comes with small boobs.

In any event, after kids my formerly 32a boobs are a pretty perfect 32c (which are smaller than they sound but stil pretty great and perky at 50). No 19 year old should be getting this surgery, esp not funded (even if indirectly) by her parents.

[Anonymous]

For the PPs, the problem often isn't flat vs not, it is flat vs different body types. Guys will generally be attracted to cute, petite girls with small chests. However, the combination of a flat chest and a larger body type is not viewed as desirable.

That said, 19 seems too young.