Breast Implants for 19 Year Old Daughter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait until she has kids.

I was flat at 19, still now after 3. It’s her body; she can decide.

And did you get implants?

[Anonymous]

she's too young. she needs to wait till she is older. lots of nineteen year olds are on the smaller side and then get larger as they age.

I mean, i dont think she should get them at all. but putting that aside, she needs to wait and see if they get bigger. they probably will.

fyi I was 34B, but a small B, when I was 22. By 40 (no kids) I was a 36D and I was only 15 pounds heavier (not much on me because I am five nine). Now I have a 26 BMI, so a little overweight, and I cannot even figure out what I am, I am so much bigger. And honestly I'd rather be smaller because they are a pain to carry around.

[Anonymous]

No 19 year old wants her dad to think about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Daughter wants implants. She's flat. She has her own money that she earned. Wife says no. She thinks that this will lead to a life of never being satisfied with her looks and just needs to get over it. I support it. What are your thoughts? If you would support it, how do you get wife or significant other to support it?

Would really depend on how they look currently.

Small boobs are favored by men actually, IF they have small areolas and nipples to match and are perky.

If big areolas pepperoni style, then implants can make them look much better obviously.

Just encourage her to only go 1 cup size larger, so an A cup if really flat, or B cup if there's something there. Going too large too young is where the problems happen later on.

Do you think that her father knows what his daughter’s nipples look like? A father should have no opinions about his daughter’s breasts.

Why would you go there? Weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's an adult, can do what she wants. But I agree with your wife and think it's weird that her father would weigh in on this at all.

Weird, gross and creepy that dad is a part of this at all, and even ickier that he is posting online on a public message board in support of this.

This is a thoroughly gross creeper thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no.

Anyway. When I had my baby girl, I told my MIl that it was so cute my baby had her nose. MIL said "that's not my nose; I got mine chopped off when I was 19". I had no idea what to say to that. FF, my 12 yr old has her grandmother's...new nose. No idea how.

My DD has her great paternal aunt's perfect little nose, who never got cosmetic surgery. I assume there is a great grandparent with that nose somewhere on her father's side but we don't have photos.

[Anonymous]

Adulthood is more than one’s age. It should also come with maturity and the ability to make smart, rational decisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Daughter wants implants. She's flat. She has her own money that she earned. Wife says no. She thinks that this will lead to a life of never being satisfied with her looks and just needs to get over it. I support it. What are your thoughts? If you would support it, how do you get wife or significant other to support it?

Would really depend on how they look currently.

Small boobs are favored by men actually, IF they have small areolas and nipples to match and are perky.

If big areolas pepperoni style, then implants can make them look much better obviously.

Just encourage her to only go 1 cup size larger, so an A cup if really flat, or B cup if there's something there. Going too large too young is where the problems happen later on.

Do you think that her father knows what his daughter’s nipples look like? A father should have no opinions about his daughter’s breasts.

Why would you go there? Weird.

This whole thread is about a father thinking about his daughter’s breasts. I didn’t go there, OP did.

[Anonymous]

I’m so comflicted. I maybe all the people saying she should wait are maybe really not flat chested. I am. And let me tell you that it really really impacted my dating life. It’s almost like missing a limb. There are a lot of guys out there that just won’t date a girl with no breasts. You can say — oh they are shallow and you’re better off without them. But I’m not sure that’s true. I feel llle my life might have been different had I had more guys interested. I had a pretty face and was thin and a pretty good personality. But having no breasts at all really narrows the field.

It also strikes me as somewhat hypocritical that people are very supportive of trans people getting top surgery because if they identify as female it’s important to have breasts. But a cis gender woman who never develops breasts is considered vain and shallow if she wants surgery to get the same thing?

So I guess for me it would really depend on whether my daughter seemed like she was just the type who is never satisfied and is trying to make small adjustments to things that are basically fine, or whether she’s very far out of the norm and is trying to bring herself more into socially expected physical norms. I’d say the same thing about a nose job.

And I don’t think it’s creepy for a dad to ask this, if his daughter has brought him into the conversation by asking for his help in getting the mother on board.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so comflicted. I maybe all the people saying she should wait are maybe really not flat chested. I am. And let me tell you that it really really impacted my dating life. It’s almost like missing a limb. There are a lot of guys out there that just won’t date a girl with no breasts. You can say — oh they are shallow and you’re better off without them. But I’m not sure that’s true. I feel llle my life might have been different had I had more guys interested. I had a pretty face and was thin and a pretty good personality. But having no breasts at all really narrows the field.

It also strikes me as somewhat hypocritical that people are very supportive of trans people getting top surgery because if they identify as female it’s important to have breasts. But a cis gender woman who never develops breasts is considered vain and shallow if she wants surgery to get the same thing?

So I guess for me it would really depend on whether my daughter seemed like she was just the type who is never satisfied and is trying to make small adjustments to things that are basically fine, or whether she’s very far out of the norm and is trying to bring herself more into socially expected physical norms. I’d say the same thing about a nose job.

And I don’t think it’s creepy for a dad to ask this, if his daughter has brought him into the conversation by asking for his help in getting the mother on board.

I am flat as well. Maybe 34A or slightly less than an A. I can't imagine a woman having zero breast tissue unless you had zero body fat.

[Anonymous]

I think that’s something that an adult young woman can absolutely choose to do if she wants to, and pay for it, and not get her father involved. Eww.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so comflicted. I maybe all the people saying she should wait are maybe really not flat chested. I am. And let me tell you that it really really impacted my dating life. It’s almost like missing a limb. There are a lot of guys out there that just won’t date a girl with no breasts. You can say — oh they are shallow and you’re better off without them. But I’m not sure that’s true. I feel llle my life might have been different had I had more guys interested. I had a pretty face and was thin and a pretty good personality. But having no breasts at all really narrows the field.

It also strikes me as somewhat hypocritical that people are very supportive of trans people getting top surgery because if they identify as female it’s important to have breasts. But a cis gender woman who never develops breasts is considered vain and shallow if she wants surgery to get the same thing?

So I guess for me it would really depend on whether my daughter seemed like she was just the type who is never satisfied and is trying to make small adjustments to things that are basically fine, or whether she’s very far out of the norm and is trying to bring herself more into socially expected physical norms. I’d say the same thing about a nose job.

And I don’t think it’s creepy for a dad to ask this, if his daughter has brought him into the conversation by asking for his help in getting the mother on board.

You assume, without any basis, that people counseling this 19 yr old to wait are the same ones endorsing top surgery.

Also, surgery and implants are more than a slight adjustment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that’s something that an adult young woman can absolutely choose to do if she wants to, and pay for it, and not get her father involved. Eww.

+1

[Anonymous]

She is an adult, but she is currently dependent on you. I guarantee she’s on your insurance plan, lives in your home, etc.
I’d tell her she can get the implants when she is on her own insurance, living financially independently.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't like it due to the health risks, but she's an adult and doesn't need permission.